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dawntreader -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (1/28/2007 7:16:22 PM)
Like many others here, i had submissive/bondage type fantasies since around 10 but had no idea what it was all about. i was raised by a dominate mother and taught not to rely on men or to desire sex. It took many years, several failed relationships including my marriage, and 4 years of loneliness until i discovered what i was and what my needs were. At 43 yrs old, it was a metamorphic experience for me to say the least...

afeathr -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (1/28/2007 7:23:47 PM)
I was sexually active (masterbation only) when I was 8... always kind of a kinky little thing... lost my virginity, by choice and in my own way, at 16 as far as "naming" what I am... only a year ago - at the tender age of 36.

SATANMAN -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 2:58:41 PM)
just last year as a dom when i had the oppurtunity to do it

curiouspet55 -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 8:05:47 PM)
I was 13, 14 perhaps. I read erotica and romance novels and was always turned on by the ones with females tied up or with the man the one in control. I am always in control in day to day life, and at about 16 I realized that the attraction wasn't necesarily the bondage, but the surrender of control. After much exploration (and trust me, I'm still exploring), I learned that I am submissive, and while bondage arouses me, D/s power exchange completes me.

Valyraen -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 8:21:17 PM)
I was 21 - had always been sort of an alpha wolf mentality up to that point... I'd experimented in tying a girlfriend up... but meeting Aqua really opened my eyes to the fact that I was a dominant. Since then... well, I'm doing and thinking about things that my previous vanilla self would be a little disturbed by.

insanityprevails -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 9:38:44 PM)
Ah, I think I win here. I remember watching a Porky Pig cartoon when I was in Preschool (age 3) where Porky got pulled underwater by fish and stripped down to his underwear then spanked... I talked my teacher into letting me have the tape (I think she made a copy) and I just watched that part over and over. I didn't understad why I liked it, because I hated it when my mom spanked me... But I did... I didn't find a term for it until I was probably 11 (Ah, the internet age... Kids finding things younger) And I lost my virginity handcuffed to a bed when I was 15. The only vanilla relationships I ever had where those "He's my boyfriend now" relationships in elementry and middle school.

FukinTroll -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 11:21:23 PM)
Hmmm.... I think it was the vocabulary that I discovered and not the dominance, that was already there.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 11:26:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thaimeeuppppp if anyone cares to share how they discovered this. On their own? or thru sexual experience with another. I personally found that when I would read erotica of BDSM nature i would get unbearably excited whenaomeone was enslaved and objectified. Specially if it was against their will or there was blackmail of some kind involved. SO that at 1st the sub resisted but once taken there realized it was what he/she wanted.I was 15 when this started i knew i was a sub the day i was born and the Doctor swatted my ass...LOL

FukinTroll -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 11:30:44 PM)
LMAO!!! good one michael. I need to dig up the funny things people say thread.

rouge -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/15/2007 11:33:16 PM)
About 8 years ago ( age 26) when i was online and learned what BDSM meant. i read and talked to submissives and discovered that i wasn't sick and i wasn't alone. i have been masochistic since i was a young teen around 13 and was a bottom in all my romantic/sexual relationships. i went through some very tough experiences with some relationships and thought that there must be something very wrong with me. It was so freeing to realise that there were others with similar needs. I am still very much exploring what being a submissive means for me and hopefully will never stop learning.

slavekara -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/16/2007 12:10:38 AM)
Greetings All, This girl was 14 when she first heard about BDSM and she knew straight away she were different, but the roots of it started way before this girl reached her teenage years. Please note: When this girl says that she doesn't mean that anything horrific happened to her when she was younger, for these roots to start planting themselfs into her brain. This girl would say that she has always been submissive. slave kara (A)

MistressFeathers -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/16/2007 2:44:02 AM)
yesterday [:D]

MasterMataeo -> RE: How old were you when u realized you were Dom or sub? (2/16/2007 8:56:04 AM)
I was young still in my teens and didn't know much,, but the older i grew the more i grew into it,, and i have been very lucky to find those that i hve to help me explore and learn more about myself and the lifestyle , and in return those that i have learnd with and from have grown and learnd with me ,, for that i'm so very greatful,, for with out the other Part(s)of us we are nothing Mataeo

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