RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE

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MsCameron -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/13/2007 11:20:21 AM)
As did I. :) I'm not looking for perfection but at age 48, I am looking for someone to share my life. Not just the BDSM part. Been there, done that and it's not enough. My life is complicated and I do not live alone and won't for quite some time. I also realized a few weeks back that my effort in finding a relationship was half assed at best. So I turned off all my profiles. I don't do the "on-line" thing well and I suspect that one day I'll walk into a munch or a play party and connect with someone. In the meantime, life goes on :) MC

enigmaslave -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/13/2007 8:19:24 PM)
Thank you for all the feed back !

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/13/2007 10:11:52 PM)
Perfection...hummm...I know not of anyone who seeks perfection.They merely seek what they think they want...quite the conundrum dont you think?...Tempting

enigmaslave -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/14/2007 7:24:44 AM)
“Perfection...hummm...I know not of anyone who seeks perfection”. I disagree, every one is seeking there own definition of perfection “They merely seek what they think they want” or rephrased, the seek the perfect match to their wants. (Perfection) The idea behind this parable was to point out that, there is no perfect match (to our wants), or perfect timing to any event. We can make all the excuses we want, but in the end, we will be the ones that have to deal with the fate of our actions or inactions. ----------------------------------------------------- I originally wrote this story as a way of dealing with my frustration of over several incidents that have occurred on “Collar Me”. I know everyone on here has had bad days, and we have all, reacted differently to those bad days. I have seen some people drop an “emotional bomb” at every reader that comes in contact with their profile and journal. Others act like “Snipers”, using the message board, pegging off every one that pissed them off. I saw these reactions. I have felt those same emotions. However I did not want to gain the label that they most definitely now have. I wanted to use my parable to show a nurturing approach. "Nota Bene." - I have heard of many people that review the entire profile including forum posts, before contacting potential others. I understand the philosophy, that your profile is easily doctored to create the best “sales slip”. When you take it to the next level by reading there forum posts, this is a real indicator of there mindset and character. I need not go into details of my situation other then to say it was one piece of information that made things not work out. (I am not selfish, I am open to the fact that “it” was a larger issue to them then “it” was to me). I did not want to come across as angry or spiteful, so I created this parable, in hopes that of an indirect way of communication to them and to others that, 90% is still very close to being perfect. The reality is there is no perfect match (to our wants), or perfect timing to any event. I also wanted to show that this pattern could and would continue to repeat if they don’t add some flexibility to their thinking. I know not every person will read this, and therefore the reality of it changing the Grand Scheme of things will be minimal. But I have, as have others, vented my piece and I feel better that I was able to do so.

Celeste43 -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/14/2007 10:10:15 AM)
I think it's a lot better to refuse an opportunity than to go out knowing you'll make a total fool of yourself. Myself I'm not interested in failing and if I feel unready then it's because I am unready. I'm a great believer in knowing yourself.

leathersmith -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/14/2007 10:41:59 AM)
the perfect is the enemy of thr good

enigmaslave -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/14/2007 2:20:22 PM)
This is not directed at Celeste43 the person who wrote it, rather her questions inspired me to write this. So Celeste43, please don’t take offence. "I think it's a lot better to refuse an opportunity than to go out knowing you'll make a total fool of yourself." -- Ironically, 9.99 times out 10, were are more ready then we think we are. We are own worst critics, we fear more then we need to. Some times it helps just to let go. -- Did you know mother eagles push there young out of the nest. Why, you may ask? The reason is simple; the mother knew they were ready fly. Even though the babies did not. -- There is something to be said, about about someone on the out side looking in. "I think it's a lot better to refuse an opportunity than to go out knowing you'll make a total fool of yourself." -- In school, we used to make fun of this girl who used ask the most foolish questions, the thing is, she now makes 4 times my income, now I feel like the fool. -- The average person only needs to act like a fool once, then you learn, and you become a smarter person for it. "I'm a great believer in knowing yourself." -- I'm also a great believer in knowing yourself, but do we really need to know ourselves. -- We live in a day and age where everything is a comedy to be purchased, from water to drink, to air we breathe to the food we eat. (Remember when they were free?). (Yes you buy air too, do you have A/C or an Air filter, do you know someone with athsma.) -- My grandmother made entire cakes from scratch, I make mine from a box. -- I don’t believe we know ourselves all that well any more. I think most of us too involved in the rat race to see we are loosing our humanity and ouselves.

TxBlkMistress -> RE: Dom/mes & subs in search of the PERFECT ONE (1/14/2007 3:01:42 PM)
Well speaking for myself I am not looking for perfection, but I am looking for, as a previous poster said, "a humanbeing". For instance, there is one on this site that lied to me since day one, (I'm talking age, whether you have kids, where you live, and countless other things) I wiped the slate clean lots of times, gave loads of chances, it's embarrassing to say how many chances and how much time I wasted on this....and yet he still says, even in his journal, how unfair I am, and how I don't know how to be a real domme and how I don't know a real dedicated slave, and how I'm wasting my time talking to the people I'm talking to now, because I will find one day that we are meant to be together.....yadda yadda yadda..... I've had my fair share of just taking someone because they deemed to send me an email, and I felt like "hey God is sending this person to me, so even if I have reservations about some things he did or said, I'm supposed to "work" at it"....Well after years I"ve found that this is crap. It never works out, and you need to go with your instincts, you are wasting time, and could be passing up someone that actually could work out. But I do talk to people and give them every chance before I say it will not work out and I always offer friendship, as opposed to the ones that talk a good game for a few days, get you interested, then disappear...no word warning...just cancel their profile. One thing, either it's there or it isn't....if I don't feel an attraction, and I'm not just talking physcially, then why waste his time or mine?

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