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ORIGINAL: Hisgirlforever

I am in a Taken in Hand, HOH (Head Of Household) or Domestic Discipline relationship with my husband 24/7 all the time. Here is a great site that has lots of info and great people who are very accepting, it is mostly married men and women were the Man is the head of the household but we have members who are single, gay, female dominate, etc. Anyway check it out if you want more info

http://ddrelationships.com/phpBB/index.php

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Is that a new term for the whole "domestic discipline" thing?

It's very closely related and some do interchange the two terms.

IMO it's just a justification for the wife to submit to the husband and do some spanking.  Lots of people find they are more free to be kinky and set clear gender based rules in the relationship if they have a label to put on it.

It's really no different than any other labels people use....sub, slave, switch, top, bottom, dom, Master...etc.   And for some, it's not about the kink. 
 
i once belonged to a DD group where there was a couple, both around 39 yrs old at the time.  Her father was a Minister and she grew up in a DD household, where the mother deferred to the father and spanking was used as a form of discipline, for both her and the mother, and not for kink.  She married a guy who was raised in the same dynamic, and they shared the same dynamic and raised their daughter the same way.  In neither case was the spanking a 'kink'.   As a matter of fact, there was no bdsm involved at all....their 'play' or sex was strictly vanilla. 
 
So some do live this for other reasons than the kink. 
 
DG

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

I have spent some time reading the Taken in hand website, and think it's an excellent site to read. I really think a "taken in hand" relationship could be just about anything you wan it to be, ultimately - but it is basically a D/s relationship.  Much of the writing available on that site seems to focus on spanking, rather than other bdsm activity, but - that could just be the only stories I've read include spanking. There's a LOT to read on that site.

- Susan

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl
i once belonged to a DD group where there was a couple, both around 39 yrs old at the time. Her father was a Minister and she grew up in a DD household, where the mother deferred to the father and spanking was used as a form of discipline, for both her and the mother, and not for kink. She married a guy who was raised in the same dynamic, and they shared the same dynamic and raised their daughter the same way. In neither case was the spanking a 'kink'. As a matter of fact, there was no bdsm involved at all....their 'play' or sex was strictly vanilla.

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ORIGINAL: mbes

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl
i once belonged to a DD group where there was a couple, both around 39 yrs old at the time. Her father was a Minister and she grew up in a DD household, where the mother deferred to the father and spanking was used as a form of discipline, for both her and the mother, and not for kink. She married a guy who was raised in the same dynamic, and they shared the same dynamic and raised their daughter the same way. In neither case was the spanking a 'kink'. As a matter of fact, there was no bdsm involved at all....their 'play' or sex was strictly vanilla.

I'm curious as to why you say that there was no bdsm involved? It appears to me that there is discipline, dominance, and submission in a relationship of that nature, no?

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ORIGINAL: mbes

Thanks for the answer.
I wrap all the letters up in one big ball of wax, and forget that not everyone does so.
But even taking out the d/s, that still leaves discipline, does it not?
While I can be argumentative, in this case I'm still wondering what the difference is? Or if there really is one?

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

Well...to me there seems to be a certain aspect of dominance and submission so D/s is covered.  But from what I can tell from my readings on the site given, there is no Bondage, no Sadism, and no Masochism.  The Discipline...mainly in the form of corporal punishment and that mainly in the form of spanking...is there to enforce adherence to the rules and principles of the TIH relationship and not for any sexuality.

Since my take may be wrong given my newness to this subject, if there is someone more enlightened than I about this subject matter or someone with experience in it out there, could you please help to clarify this for me?