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Intent - 1/4/2007 11:23:43 PM   
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Like i said in my previous post - i'm contemplative and feeling like crapola.  (yay me) ha

My last post brought me to the thought of intent.  One of the things i have struggled with my whole life is intent.  My family has tried to beat into my head that some things just have no intent behind them.  No motive.  People just do things with out thinking about them.  I fully understand that people do things with out thinking them through, but i have issues with the whole concept that they didnt think about it before hand.   My mother has looked at me when i have questioned her and thrown up her arms and said "i dont know, i just did it"  Which of course always leaves me to believe she is lying through her teeth and not wanting the truth to be known.  What if i am wrong though?  What if people do do things with no forethought?  Is it possible?  Can there really be no intent? 

Can some one really walk off a bridge and not think before hand "hey i'm going to walk off this bridge" 

I look at people and their actions and i look for intent.  From intent i look to motive and from motive i look to them.  Like liars.  I look at the lie and then i look at their reasoning to lie (to harm or to protect them or another) and from their objective i look at why do they feel they need to harm, protect themselves, or another. 

Yet i am told there isnt always intent or motive.  Some people just do things for no reason.  How is that possible?  We are thinking creatures are we not?  Its like looking at some one and saying "what are you thinking about" and them saying "nothing"  thats absurd

But then the question really is..... is it?  Is it possible to not think, not have intent, and to not have motive?  How is it possible?


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 2:23:06 AM   
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I guess it could be argued that somethings are the result of a baser instinct. As an example I have often found myself indulging in the two-backed beast with a partner when my intent was merely to get a good nights sleep with a nice hug to settle down with. Some things whilst neither instinct nor intended could perhaps happen on a subconcious level. I can be not hungry, yet still find myself with my head in the refrigerator hunting down a snack I dont think I really want. Habit too could be a possible reason, I say this as a trying-to-quit smoker who often find himself reaching into the desk drawer for a packet I know damn well isnt there and shouldnt open even if it was.

Looking at many of the people I see, the images and words that cross my desk daily I often wonder if we really are thinking creatures, perhaps more a case of creatures capable of thought.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 4:24:52 AM   
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Wow.  This is a really good question and one I struggle with all the time.

In general, I'm a reflective person, and put a lot of thought into everything I do.  The consequences of my actions don't always match up nicely with my intentions, and any act will have both intended and unintended consequences.  But, I can usually look at a situation I've created and analyse it in terms of what I thought I was trying to achieve and what actually happened/ where I went wrong and would it have been possible to avoid undesirable consequences had I been a little more careful before acting.   Alot of times, unpredicted consequences are really cool and good so I try not to get so caught up in overthinking things.

I don't contemplate motives because, philosophically, I find the concept extremely problematic based on a faulty psychology.  This helps prevent me from falling into an infinite regress and paranoia. I try to stay focused on reasons and intentions.

Alot of people aren't this reflective.  For a long time I thought they were just liars, but I've come to accept  that maybe people simply don't put alot of thought into what they do and are often blind to their own participation in their own fates. 

People like this kind of floor me because I don't get it, and a lot of times I wish I could shut down the reflective part of my brain.  I think it would be liberating.


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 4:43:06 AM   
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Often the things we do are pre-conceived, but there are those things we just do as a reaction to what's going on around us.
I still think right before we act we do have to decide if we choose an action or not.
I guess for some they can make that choice without thinking about it first.
I try very hard to think about my actions before I act them out, but once in a while I catch myself thinking why the hell did I do that.
I think for me it's a case of poor judgment on my part that makes me question my own intentions in those cases.
Over all I don't think I do anything for no reason.
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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 5:04:43 AM   
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Yes, people do things without thinking.  I have three (count them) THREE attention deficit children, one of whom in now on his own.  He is sweet, kind, caring, loving and generous.  He has also been in jail because he took money from the till at work.  Why?  Because his rent was due, he had no money.. and he REALLY didn't think about it before he did it.  His impulsiveness has gotten him three serious head injuries, (which compounds the ADD) and much trouble throughout his life.  I tried to teach him to stop and think things through.  So far, no luck.  I still love him, but he ain't easy.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 5:30:41 AM   
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Hey lilsister. ~smiling~

Understanding motives is not something at which I excel. Hell, I suck at it. For me, the issue isn't with the motive itself but rather with trust, and trust is extremely difficult for me. Therapy helps but it requires constant effort on my part to see people for who and what they are. In the past, I trusted some very untrustworthy people; therefore, their mal-intentioned motives were shocking and hurtful, which made me trust no one. I am trying to distinguish the difference between trustworthy and non-trustworthy people, and therein lies the puzzle for me.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 6:08:25 AM   
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Fot those of us who have disorders and are unable to control our impulses all the times.  There is not intent. we just react.  I can lose my ability to think rationally at any given situation, and just react, it does not happen very often.  Most of the reactions that do happen like that are mild and only another close friend would actually know about the reaction.

a lot of people are analytical and need to think things through.  Others are more feeling an emotional and need a different approach.  Each is usually happy in their own style so who is to say what is the correct way.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 6:16:04 AM   
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OK ill bite.
After 2 posts which I couldnt clearly see what exactly it was, its doubtful the OP might just come out and say unless maybe someone asked:

What's really eating you?..outside of unintentionally not having a glass house to throw no stones from?
There must be something, admit so...lol


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 6:25:34 AM   
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quote:

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Hey lilsister. ~smiling~

Understanding motives is not something at which I excel. Hell, I suck at it. For me, the issue isn't with the motive itself but rather with trust, and trust is extremely difficult for me. Therapy helps but it requires constant effort on my part to see people for who and what they are. In the past, I trusted some very untrustworthy people; therefore, their mal-intentioned motives were shocking and hurtful, which made me trust no one. I am trying to distinguish the difference between trustworthy and non-trustworthy people, and therein lies the puzzle for me.


Ah, but see, i have circumvented trusting.  To a degree.  Why must i trust a person if i can discover the motives of their actions?  A picture is worth a thousand words, aye?  Why not just put the pictures together and get the essay on who they are?  Granted its not fool proof, but it gives you an idea on when to turn/not turn your back on them.  I do not trust people, i figure them out.  I trust myself first.  I trust my instincts, my intuition, and whatever else i use.  I think your issue is not that you have trouble trusting others, but you have trouble trusting yourself.  That is a hard one to get over = )


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 7:03:56 AM   
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I think the answer is somewhat simple. Because humans are not logical creatures, intent and motives are not universally agreed to be thought through to some pre agreed upon level. Most things humans do every day are not weighed and analyzed deeply. They just are not.

People can justify anything when they want to do or have something badly and their intent has nothing to do with wanting to cause problems for anyone else. When in a negative frame of mind or if that is you as a person you can take practically anything another person says or does and twist it into some negative feeling. For example a person asking how are you and you twisting it into do they know what happen last night, am I given off some sort of vibe I am not well or was it just a nice and polite greeting. You can take a person’s intention the way you want or how your brain is functioning that day.

My signature line has a quote about we judge others on their actions and we judge ourselves on our intentions. My point to the OP would be that you too often probably take another persons actions as actual intentions which can and often be quite different from a tiny to a large thing. What if your family members decided your intentions and motives to always questioning them on everything was something quite different then what you think it is. Does that make their thoughts valid and right? Are you the liar then?

I have struggle with the “why did that person do that and how could they not think this would happen or how it would effect me” type stuff, but the fact is most of the time it is simply people going through life on impulse level and a simple case of either them being a little too insensitive or me being way too sensitive. There just are very few things that people give deep meaning to an there day to day living and actions.

To think you can and should always try to figure out what other people's intention and motives are is tricky at best. You are not them, will never be them and your brain is not like their's as well. To me that sounds like a way to develop some serious trust issues.


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 7:06:56 AM   
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quote:

What's really eating you?..outside of unintentionally not having a glass house to throw no stones from?
There must be something, admit so...lol


lol .  Nothing really.  Didnt i say i've been feeling ill?  When i wake up feeling like some ones been beating on me all night and an electric plug has been attached to my body draining out all my energy - i feel abit cranky.  I feel even crankier late at night when the feeling worsens.  I've seen and dealt with people like this all my life.  ::smiles:: i think it comes from two of my family members who feel the need to put down some one. 

I get fed up.  I dont care how respectable, how many degrees, how damn accomplished you are - you've got skeletons.  We all do.  Where do people get off?  Put me in a room with anyone, in a friendly atmosphere and i will find the rocks to knock you down.  Its not frickin hard.  Yet i dont do it, i see it as their human fallacy.  I try and show them that they arent perfect but they are so full of themselves... good lord i sound like a broken record.  I look around at me to see if this is normal or not and it is.  Way too normal.  I look at other people.. i see it.  I look here to CM and i see it.. its everywhere.  The only person i do not see it in, is my father.  But he is superman who has other fallacies.  Yet he is human enough to catch my jokes.  He was going on the other day about having an international phone and a state side phone and i looked at him and said "well arent we spoiled" 

i suppose whats really eating me, is i miss my Dad.  I dont know why i have to be surrounded by all these other people.  Its hard to go from his world - back to this world.  I logically tell myself that its not long.  Soon, i'll be living in London near him.  Patience.  But i want my Dad.  I want to sit and talk with him, hear more of his wisdom - i want to sit and listen to him and amaze how god damn wise he is, i want to see hiim laugh and i want to watch him be a great granddad.  Its like standing in the sunshine and then coming back to this shit.  I havent re adapted  and its probably taking longer then normal cos of the hormones. 

Thanks Mgd - i didnt completely know myself.  I suppose i should give the human race a break. 

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 7:14:52 AM   
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quote:

What if your family members decided your intentions and motives to always questioning them on everything was something quite different then what you think it is. Does that make their thoughts valid and right?


No actually i'm very honest.  They know its because i dont trust them and some of them know its because i think they're manipulative, lying, and a whole bunch of other things = )  Granted thats just the reason for the family, but with the general public - its not like you need to question them to their face.  Its really in bad taste to look at some one and say "i dont know you enough to trust you and you've habits x,y, z - which lead me to question you"

i do understand your point.  I'd jump on it and disagree to a certian point, but after replying to MG - all my juice to fuel the fire has left me. 


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 7:45:18 AM   
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My point is actually rather simple; it is a dangerous game to play thinking you can play prosecutor, cop, defense attorney, judge and jury with everyone you come into contact with. It is not that you are always honest and those around you have been caught being dishonest more then once with you. This is not about a specific example with a family member but a response to your general thoughts about intentions and motives.

It is almost impossible to truly know people’s intention and motives, especially to the degree they have assign to it, too many things and especially impossible when taking information you receive and filtering it through your own brain.

I would not want my motives and intention determined by how my behavior is perceived by another person and I doubt you would want that yourself. To understand and be careful that people lie, a good thing. Too often not be able to take things on face value and run people through a personalized microscope, trust issues.


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 8:22:16 AM   
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The straight answer to your question is that yes, it is entirely possible and especially psychiatric physicians deal with it all the time.  The official term for it is "impulsivity".

So, your mom is not lying to you.  You are just overanalyzing everything.  You must have too much time on your hands. 

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 9:41:31 AM   
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A lot of people go through life on "cruise control". While it's a valid way to be, it isn't necessarily the best way to be ALL the time.

You're mom saying that she just did it is probably more her in denial of the real reasons rather than her lying about it. Denial is a powerful thing. It's born of fear.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 9:44:10 AM   
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Like i said in my previous post - i'm contemplative and feeling like crapola.  (yay me) ha

My last post brought me to the thought of intent.  One of the things i have struggled with my whole life is intent.  My family has tried to beat into my head that some things just have no intent behind them.  No motive.  People just do things with out thinking about them.  I fully understand that people do things with out thinking them through, but i have issues with the whole concept that they didnt think about it before hand.   My mother has looked at me when i have questioned her and thrown up her arms and said "i dont know, i just did it"  Which of course always leaves me to believe she is lying through her teeth and not wanting the truth to be known.  What if i am wrong though?  What if people do do things with no forethought?  Is it possible?  Can there really be no intent? 

Can some one really walk off a bridge and not think before hand "hey i'm going to walk off this bridge" 

I look at people and their actions and i look for intent.  From intent i look to motive and from motive i look to them.  Like liars.  I look at the lie and then i look at their reasoning to lie (to harm or to protect them or another) and from their objective i look at why do they feel they need to harm, protect themselves, or another. 

Yet i am told there isnt always intent or motive.  Some people just do things for no reason.  How is that possible?  We are thinking creatures are we not?  Its like looking at some one and saying "what are you thinking about" and them saying "nothing"  thats absurd

But then the question really is..... is it?  Is it possible to not think, not have intent, and to not have motive?  How is it possible?



I think this is a very worthwhile question.

Here's one way to look at it. Think of all the things you do in a day. The separate, individual things.

You breathe all day. Inhale, exhale. When you stop to look at it in the big picture you can reasonably say that we all breathe to oxygenate our blood etc etc to stay alive. But that breath you drew just before starting to read this paragraph. Did you "intend" for it to introduce a fresh oxygen supply into your lungs? Probably not. You probably did not have any intention whatsoever for that act. Like your mother, and the guys who make the Nike ads, you just did it.

Did you blink a few seconds ago. What intention did you then hold for hat act?

Yeah these are obscure acts I'm describing, but I'll try to connect these thoughts up with others less silly-sounding.

When you walk to the kitchen for water and begin your walk back, you start with one leg rather than the other. Why? What is your intention? I'm guessing you don't have one, you just used that leg without forming any conscious intention to use it. Period.

This isn't terribly far from taking a breath in terms of probable intentionality but in some small way it might be more familiar or usual to talk about intentionality in terms of walking than in terms of breathing. But this example is meant to show that the acts that comprise walking can indeed be performed with an important absence of intentionality.

Yeah, you may "intend" to walk from the sink back to the computer, but you sort of totally don't intend anything about picking this foot up first rather than that one, it seems to me--in some cases, anyway, like if after drinking your water yo arealready headed in exactly the right direction.

And usually it will be a matter of no importance, but hey, if your cat just happened to put her tail right there and she springs up startled and claws your leg and you get an infection and feverish dreams which inspire you to write a big hit song that makes you rich and famous, well what the fuck, I mean maybe it isn't utterly trivial which foot we start off on, huh? ANd yet it was unintentional. Unmotivated.

Have you ever walked down the street for a good little distance and realized that you had been so lost in thought that you basically were not consciously aware of what was going on around you to some degree? Your friend says on the phone later "You looked right at me when I drove by and didn't even wave back. You must have been zoning out." I don't think this is unusual.

Here we don't just see one step insufficiently explainable in tems of intention, we see lots of steps, and looking here and there, and all of the little muscle twitches that keep us balanced. A pretty huge complex of behaviors that really don't yield a satisfactory explanation in terms of intention. You are "just doing them."

Maybe you even walk right past your mom's mailbox that you "intended" to stop at because you promised to check it for her while she was out of town.

If you get on the bus and head to work and her check gets stolen from the mailbox before you can swing back and grab it for her, she might ask you WHY you didn't check her mail. Maybe you tell her you just got distracted or sort of forgot. Maybe she says: "What do you mean? You were right there. You were at my mailbox and you walked away from it after I specifically asked you to check it for me. WHY did you do that? What was your intention? What was your motivation? You could have stopped and reached out to the mailbox but instead you kept putting one foot in front of the other, over and over, and you got on the bus and carefully paid the driver exact change instead of checking my damn mail. Don't tell me you didn't have any intention. What was your intention?"

And maybe all it boils down to is You Just Did It.

So we can do utterly trivial things without intention, at least in some important senses. And we can do some pretty small, unimportant things without intention that aren't utterly trivial. And we can even do some significant things, like walk two blocks past our mother;s mailbox and get on a bus rather than check her mail, all this with a really big chuck of intention missing from the picture.

So that's one part of an answer to you, from my point of view. If you boil life down to the individual acts which make up the bigger actions we tend to care at all about, maybe a majority of them (the breaths and steps we take, the thoughts we let stay in our heads when we have the option of thinking about somethign else, etc) the majority of these just can't be helpfully--or anyway not anywhere near completely--explained in terms of intentions. And sometimes some of this unintened (or at least "not particularly intended") action tiurn out to be really important.

The other part of my answer would have to do with with, yeah, we can tell a story after the fact about why we did something. But really, how confident should we be that this is the way of things?

A certain bird does a certain dance in the matingf season. Does he "intend" to attract a mate? Or does he just curiously find his wings and legs jerking around, like spasms from his point of view, at this time of year? And is he surprise every damn time when some cute girl bird bends over for him afterward?

I don't know.

Does the Arctic Hare grow white fur in Winter because she "intends" to camoflage herself? We could tell an intelligible story in those terms. But we might also agree that such a story doesn't really, you know, necessarily get at the truth. We might even decide to think that in terms of rabbit intentions there may not even be a truth there to get at.

I think that the explanations we give ourselves for actions, whether before or after the fact, should not be relied upon too strongly.

A behavioral psychologist would explain your mailbox malfunction with one kind of story. A Freudian psychologist would explain it with another kind of story. You would offer yet a different account, personally. Which one is right? Maybe each has something useful to point out. But its uesfulness, to me, arises from the degree to which it can help us guide future steps much moreso than any degree to which someone might be able to say that it is an objectively true explanation for the thing in the past that it is talking about.

But what was your REAL INTENTION AND MOTIVE when you very actively and in full consciousness took that first step past that mailbox? I have no idea whether there even is an answer to that question, beyond the simplistic "I guess my intention was to get one step closer to the bus stop." Cause just between us girls, I really doubt that you held any such intention in your mind at that moment. I think you "just did it."

I mean, hypothetically.

So what was your intention whe you signed up for a CM account. It seems reasonable to say that you had one, or several, even. I don't think that would be a dumb question. I just think we should handle questions like that in a gingerly way. Maybe in fact your action was friven less by intention than by, uh, maybe hope, or fear, or confusion, or something else altogether. Maybe even whenthere is present an intention in a sense we could all agree on, maybe the intention is really secondary in the full explanation of why you did something.

I think the matter isn't as black and white and definitive and "I can hold you morally to account for this" than your original post might suggest.

In any case, when something is done, it is done. What's more important, having a perfectly adequate theory for why you fell of your bike and skinned your knee? Or having the nerve ad willingness to get back on?

Sure, the why can be important. Real important in some cases (you fell becauseof some bent thing that's gonna keep making you fall till you fix it.) But in lots of cases, maybe more than you now believe, I think that it is a really poor use of time and energy and emotion to dwell in the past. And every single time you ask someone why she did something--whatever else is going on--you are in an important way dwelling in the past.

I'm only suggesting that you might do just as well or even a little bit better in your life, on your own terms, if you loosened your grip on this belief that all behaviors can be explained interms of intention and motivation. You can then relax a little bit about things that used to tense you all up (and often without any major positive resuklts, I bet.) Or, you can use some of teh psychological and emotional energy you saved by applying it to the new moment, the one you're in now--with an eye toward the next monet coming, rather than performing inconclusive autopsies on the dead -and-gone moments that trail behind us all.

Now you can grab any little corner of this post and say, quite fairly: "Yeah but that isn't really like this!" Go ahead if you want to. Do that with every corner. I don't care.

I can point to every little corner of your photograph and tell you ten ways in which it isn't really like you. But the whole photograph still manages somehow to portray a useful image of you, presumably.

If you feel like it, let this whole post kind of roll around in your head and after a while you may or may not see that despite the weaknesses of its analogies and stuff, it may have something useful to show you.

Anyway, I hope that the deep sleep you probably fell into while trying to slog through this post left you feeeling a little bit better.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 10:15:19 AM   
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In this world we are the actors in a chaotic play.
One written by each and ever role as we carry one.
A play based on paths taken, and our emotions laying these paths.

Fear and doubt, need and want.
   Ones leading to the cliff we don't often see coming.

Love and honesty, caring and devotion.
Paths pointing to the stairs leading up.

In this it could be more simple.
But we are to soon and to short a path to be wrong.
Also confused and often lost in the darkness we lead into.

Its hard to be alone some times.
When the hurt would crumble all beneath you.

Yet their are only simple answers here.
Simple results seen over and over again.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 1:29:51 PM   
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No no no Noah, i didnt fall into a deep sleep.  Not that i would mind as i'm way too tired to think.  Some of the points i am sure i missed as i am tired and deep thinking isnt my strong suit when i am tired.  I think i got the overal picture though. 

But i'll have to get back to you later on what i think you are trying to say. 


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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 1:49:53 PM   
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"But then the question really is..... is it?  Is it possible to not think, not have intent, and to not have motive?  How is it possible?"

Easy.  you opt to become a yobbo, redneck, hoon, skank or bimbo.  They're just animals that walk upright so once you self lobotomize and join them, you are freed of the onus of cognizance before action.

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RE: Intent - 1/5/2007 2:29:12 PM   
MmakeMme


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ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister

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ORIGINAL: MmakeMme

Hey lilsister. ~smiling~

Understanding motives is not something at which I excel. Hell, I suck at it. For me, the issue isn't with the motive itself but rather with trust, and trust is extremely difficult for me. Therapy helps but it requires constant effort on my part to see people for who and what they are. In the past, I trusted some very untrustworthy people; therefore, their mal-intentioned motives were shocking and hurtful, which made me trust no one. I am trying to distinguish the difference between trustworthy and non-trustworthy people, and therein lies the puzzle for me.


Ah, but see, i have circumvented trusting.  To a degree.  Why must i trust a person if i can discover the motives of their actions?  A picture is worth a thousand words, aye?  Why not just put the pictures together and get the essay on who they are?  Granted its not fool proof, but it gives you an idea on when to turn/not turn your back on them.  I do not trust people, i figure them out.  I trust myself first.  I trust my instincts, my intuition, and whatever else i use.  I think your issue is not that you have trouble trusting others, but you have trouble trusting yourself.  That is a hard one to get over = )



I have great difficulty trusting my instincts when my heart is involved. Heart involved = blind and stupid. That's why my therapist gets paid so well so regularly. ~grinning~

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