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RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, some t... - 1/2/2007 7:29:04 PM   
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Okay, we've seen the "liar liar pants on fire" threads here this week.  All good.  Now "pic - accuracy" seems to play a major part in it all, so I thought better to start a new thread on that alone so as not to clog/hijack other threads.

Now when people want to share naughty pics they can do that via the message system here, and that's great, but a little limited, IMO.  I mean I've waited 72 hours for my user pic on my profile off the boards to be ready and it got rejected for the following and I'm not complaining: 

"Common reasons for a photo being rejected as a primary include the
photo being too zoomed in on the users eyes, face or a body part, being
improperly masked for privacy, or depicting a person in a position which
is not suitable for a primary photo."

Okay fine, but maybe although I played with the colour etc of the pic I wanted to use, it would instantly allow any woman to decide if I was attractive to her/her type or not (facially) and maybe, dammit, I just LIKE it.  maybe other peeps here have had an INNOCENT photo likewise rejected/disallowed.  So I wondered about my alternative options, and found

http://www.adultspace.com

from their forums they've had some bugs but I've been playing with it today (my page is in my footer in my posts now), and from what I can see, non nude pics get loaded instantly, no hassles, even "somewhat naughty ones" (which I also did an experiment with; I loaded examples of what I as a sadist of the female booty would be "desirable", just to see if they were accepted.  as of this post, they seem to be, I even logged oin as a guest to check if I could have general access to them.  I do).  I've tried to look at some pics of Bearlee as she suggested but I click for the next pic and get nothing.  Dunno why.

If when loading nude pics you list them as "for private gallery only" then people getting an invite can see them but ONLY those people.  That would solve some "okay, I want to show some flesh for someone but don;t want the whole damn net to have access to them".  I might try that part later with a cock pic (as much as I fucking HATE those) just to see if that works too btu I'd have to invite someone also on the site to test it.

So, has anyone else tried to use this means/this site RE photo "honesty"?  Seems to be a naughty version of Myspace but the ges load WAY faster and it is FAR less annoying and easy to set up a page.

If not, any other suggestions as to similar sites, since most free pic site hosts won't allow "naughty naughty"?

If the privacy thing on this site "works", would you be more likely to share naughties of yourself or not?  (this is for men and women equally).

Additionally,  RE photo "honesty", things I found while artistically messing with my own pics (but keeping them "accurate") are ~

you can have 2 pics of yourself, taken on the same day, let's say a month ago so they are still "you" versus a way old one.  But if the lighting is significantly different, or the angle is also diff, they may look like almost a completely other person.  I have one up there from last week, compared it to one from three months ago, they were both filtered exactly the same (so as to be accurate but you wouldn't recognize me on the street or at a nilla event), and yet, WORLDS apart.  Same camera, same person, but damn if they don't look like there is 20 lbs and 12 years age difference, even though there is not.

Thoughts?



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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/2/2007 8:22:44 PM   
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I too submitted a picture recently and it was rejected because I was attempting to hide a portion of my face and hence eyes were main portion of its content..and actually I do not understand why this would even be a reason to reject such..but ach! I am sure there is a reason I am unaware of....and being a total computer "doof" circumventing system is not in my abilities..so hence I have tried another photo...as far as honesty in pictures..while some say or think that pictures tell you a lot about a person..personally..it is limiting as to it only captured one moment in time along with who is going to put up a picture of themselves less than as best as they can look?..honest ot not?..yes it is you..yes it is recent...but maybe it is one in say 20 pics you looked at and rejected of yourself because it was not ummm"good enough?"......variables of honesty I am thinking....:0)....Tempting

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/2/2007 8:58:07 PM   
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great answer, thanks! 

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/2/2007 9:16:54 PM   
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I agree, one or two or even three photos won't capture more than just a moment or a glimpse into the person behind them...and, sorry to say, people will exploit whatever tools they have to look good...including photoshop.

besides, a lot of guys aren't really photogenic in my opinion, or, more likely don't really care too much about how the picture looks to others.  not that they are purposely trying to put up bad photo, just maybe put in enough effort to make sure their eyes are open, no food in their teeth, etc etc.

personally, I would never put a photo of my "naughties" (my "nices" actually lol) on the web, because you never know where those photos could end up. besides, not something I want to share with the world anyway, and I'm quite sure Master doesn't either.

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/2/2007 9:47:12 PM   
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good answer too, lighthearted.  Though as you have a Master I wasn't really thinking of people in your boat, mainly people whom are still "looking/searching".

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/3/2007 2:10:06 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: HatesParisHilton
mainly people whom are still "looking/searching".


I might be sorry I asked this.  But do you really window shop intending to buy by graphic pics alone?  .....  The site seems like Wanker Heaven to me. 


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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/3/2007 2:31:40 AM   
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There are lots of other BDSM sites that allow all kinds of photos from "naughty" to extreme.  It's kind of nice to come here and not feel like i've fallen into some bizarre sci-fi flick where i have to wade through a sea of waving penises all spruting and sputtering like disembodied tentacles searching for nothing more than an "opening".  

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/3/2007 2:40:51 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: eyesopened
It's kind of nice to come here and not feel like i've fallen into some bizarre sci-fi flick where i have to wade through a sea of waving penises all spruting and sputtering like disembodied tentacles searching for nothing more than an "opening".  


Haha. Yeah, but we do have all the model type pics of "locals" who make me wonder how I missed them all my life.

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/3/2007 2:20:58 PM   
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"might be sorry I asked this. But do you really window shop intending to buy by graphic pics alone? ..... The site seems like Wanker Heaven to me. "


well, I had a look through a lot of the pics on collarme and on other sites, but not for "wankerage" purposes, because frankly there has not been ONE pic on collarme that would incite an erection form my own wee willy winky, despite hundreds + gorgeous lovely women. Before you might think I’m fibbing, I’ll tell you why: I’m an ass fetishist from hell, what the queer community sometimes calls a "buttpig" (although I’m straight some queer friends have stated I fall into that category). Meaning unless a pic is a booty shot (and I mean a good booty not a Paris Hilton Booty), no libido reaction from me. And there are - for me - zero "wankworthy booty profile pics" thus far, and very few on other sites. I saw nothing on adult space to get erect over either. This thread (for me) is not about such things.

I state this only in case you think I’m being less than candorous RE "not about wankfest", since you questioned how I "window shop". I admit that I do but it’s not the pic, it’s fetish compatibility. On this site I look at the "Lives for", "Loves", etc.

"There are lots of other BDSM sites that allow all kinds of photos from "naughty" to extreme. It's kind of nice to come here and not feel like i've fallen into some bizarre sci-fi flick where i have to wade through a sea of waving penises all spruting and sputtering like disembodied tentacles searching for nothing more than an "opening". "


Yes, but this site doesn’t allow for people like me to use pics that are non-penis and innocent that would clearly indicate to someone if I am their "type" or not. On yahoo personals when it was free, within one week of posting a profile with one accurate/non sexual face pic that would have been disallowed by this site, I received over ten overatures from women. 5 of them stated directly they didn’t even read my profile, they just wrote to me because of the pic. So I understand where you and others on this thread are coming from, but some women DO initiate contact by dint of a man’s face shot and indication of his body type. I stress the word "some".

Some people on myspace get the same reaction but frankly that site’s schematic is too annoying for me. On another site, I ended up bantering with and later involved with woman purely on the basis of her posts and her icon (which was merely her face looking coy). I never saw her "fundament" until later. For a time we were in love, but the pic that was romantic rather than sexual would -again - not be allowed on collarme.  That's more in line with what this thread is about for me.

Thanks for the answers. 

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/3/2007 3:16:44 PM   
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Realistically, a picture only shows the person at that moment. People change, hair cuts, hair colour, contacts or glasses.

I went for an interview, spent 2 hours with the lady, and a week later for my follow up interview she walked right by me and didn't recognize me. Change a couple of things and a person can be really hard to recognize. To expect someone to have a picture to represent all thier looks is a bit much. I'd have to change my profile constantly lol

I mean ok I understand not putting on a picture that is 20 years old, or if you gain or lose 60 - 100 pounds you might want to update it. But people are going to want to put a picture of themselves that protrays them at their best. One of the reasons there are almost no pictures of me in exsistance lol. I don't like most of them.

The thing about lieing on a profile, be it mis-information or a not accurate picture.. it's going to be found out eventually.

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/3/2007 3:31:34 PM   
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I'm actually eighty six years old.  :)

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RE: RE "Lying, Honesty" and personal pics, so... - 1/3/2007 3:34:36 PM   
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well then you and I would have more to talk about than with an 18 year old.

(no offense to 18's, I'm just way too old to be of any interest to you)

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