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Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 7:13:26 PM

deadlylover

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Oh so embarassing for me to get into, but anyway. I'm curious on how to get a guy worked up when it comes down to anal sex. For those who have a Master/sub who is into it, or if you're a Switch who is into it, how do you work them up? How do you enjoy being worked up? I want some ideas so I know how to go about it since anal is territory I've not yet touched and at least want some sort of idea on how to go about this. I know this might make sense, but I'm merely looking for advice on this thing when it comes down to males. Any will be helpful. Thank you all.

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 7:22:11 PM

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gosh i could guess on what you mean here, but it would be better to ask you to clarify a bit...would you?

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 7:26:09 PM

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I simply wish to know how to start out with arousing someone with it. I know that area is sensitive and all, but I do not know how to go about with the entire anal area and all..make more sense? Probably not. I'm scatter brained tonight.

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 7:26:28 PM

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It's differnt for every person, what works for one will not be gaurenteed for another.

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 7:32:05 PM

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ooooooooooooooh i got ya,.....lots of lube and fingers is a great way to start....they will react with pleasure hopefully....and most likely wiggle to get more pleasurable sensations....in fact you can let your partner do the work.....i llove this form of play ...there is something very erotic about building slowly and my partner teasing me with my own lust....and need....yum

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 7:37:35 PM

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LOTS of lube (when you think you have enough, add some more; we love this one and it's the best deal I've found), start with gentle touching/stroking, perhaps work up to one, then more, fingers (you can use gloves or a condom rolled onto your finger(s)), and you can gently curve your fingers toward his belly and stroke his prostate. Some people love oral-anal contact, and it's pretty safe with a healthy partner who has cleaned the area well with soap and water (shaving, IMO, is also helpful).

My husband and I prefer a toy that vibrates over a straight dildo or butt plug - the Hitachi Magic Wand with the blue attachments are our favorite anal toys. Vibes can provide a great amount of pleasure when used externally, as well as internally, so you might start by teasing the entire area with one.

Ask him to give you constant feedback as you explore and suggestions for what might work better for him, and you should have a very enjoyable time!

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 7:43:49 PM

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Thank you to those who have replied so far. I'll keep these things in mind.

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 8:42:37 PM

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your profile states you're a submissive so I'll roll from that perspective and assume you mean getting a guy/sex partner to want to dom/fuck your asshole. As someone whom always prefers the female asshole and would like that exclusively (which I've had in several relationships) I feel okay to speak on this topic, but if I've misread your question, ignore what I type. This post also assumes you are asking about someone you are currently seeing rather than a hypothestical "I might meet this guy/first date" sceanario.

1: unless the guy is a real assman, or as much of an assman as a boob man, forget it, meaning to say if the guy in question is some republican titman whom loves blowjobs more than seeing you bend over and spread your asscheeks, or focusses on nipple clamps and has rarely (by comparison) spanked you bend over with your assflesh wobbling? Forget it. Sorry. And the good reason to forget it i such is the case?

2: he'll be a TERRIBLE assfucker. It'll be a "duty fuck" in order for him to do other things for you. If you want real anal, either erotic or mean, such a man will never do anything other than disappoint. Real anal (of any type) only comes from a reall bootylover/buttpig/assman. He'll have no idea how to have you psychologically turned on and worse yet you'll feel the vibe of "oh well, okay, if I have to in order to get my titty fuck and BJ".

so with that, some questions before I answer further (because I'm not gonna type much for a non assman you might be into):

when you have sex with him, how many times is it doggy versus you on top or on your back?

has he ever - fingerwise - played with your asshole during coitus?

how often has he complimented your arse compared to other body parts?

is he a republican? (not a joke question)

In 69, has he ever moved your body so you are on top with your ass in his face?

Has he ever bothered to rim you?

Do his eyes light up more from you in a corset or titght top than daisy duke shorts (or equivalent)

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 9:13:06 PM

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While your post greatly amuses me, I am meaning for a male partner who is into anal play. But thank you for that little laugh there with your questions. Heheh. And the male partner I know does indeed love anal sex and would be more than willing to oblige if my friend wished for it with him. But..she was more wondering about him and not for her. Sorry I was not clear and concise. And yes, I am asking for a friend here.

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 9:19:45 PM

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oh no, that's fine, I just didn't quite get that from the initial q's plus your profile. No matter since that post of mine might come in handy later!

I'm no switch so I can;t answer your Q properly but best of luck and happy New Year!

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 9:36:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HatesParisHilton
Real anal (of any type) only comes from a reall bootylover/buttpig/assman. He'll have no idea how to have you psychologically turned on and worse yet you'll feel the vibe of "oh well, okay, if I have to in order to get my titty fuck and BJ".

so with that, some questions before I answer further (because I'm not gonna type much for a non assman you might be into):

when you have sex with him, how many times is it doggy versus you on top or on your back?

has he ever - fingerwise - played with your asshole during coitus?

how often has he complimented your arse compared to other body parts?

is he a republican? (not a joke question)

In 69, has he ever moved your body so you are on top with your ass in his face?

Has he ever bothered to rim you?

Do his eyes light up more from you in a corset or titght top than daisy duke shorts (or equivalent)

Loved reading your response, funny as hell!
Might also explain the name HatesParisHilton, since she's got no booty, lol. M

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 9:43:24 PM

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LOL< EXACTLY correct! No booty, no brain, NO interest from men like moi!

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RE: Questions about anal - 12/30/2006 11:37:12 PM

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The first time I did anal with my girlfriend, I used alot of lube, started with a finger rubing her anal area, used the other hand to tease her clit and slowly stopped teaseing her clit while I still played with her ass.

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