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LTRsubNW -> RE: Current trends (12/24/2006 10:53:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MasDom


I,ve come to realize that when two people meet from this site.

The over whelming form of expectation
is getting in the way of people chancing the time to get to know
and possibly stabilized things together.

I,m sure we all realize.
That first off we have to get to know the real person.

Certainly past any character they portray
to see if their is a real match.

And hope fully if their is an honest reason to stay with it.

However the modern fears created by players
has created this suto sincerity.

Promise to much from the beginning,
Or have the person expect to much all the same.

I,m sure we can all understand that in our differences such altercation wont flourish a result worth keeping.

And to this I ask why do we do it to ourselves?

I have my personal needs ,
and of course my own way of things.

I,m sure you have your own as a submissive.

It doesn't make me wrong to desire those few things
that I wish found in my own submissive.

Nor you with what you desire from a Master.

It just means that I expect some time in the beginning to really meet,
and possibly learn of who you really are.

I,m sure you'd enjoy the same.

I mean does any one else feel this has become a game of musical chairs played way to fast?


(I think he's trying to write a poem, but just hasn't quite got the knack of that whole rhyming thing yet).




DiurnalVampire -> RE: Current trends (12/24/2006 11:04:18 AM)

Ive noticed that there tends to be 2 main trains of thought on here (and on the majority of relationship sites vanlla and otherwise)
There are the people looking for something long term, who believe that they should get to know the person they are with.  The mutual kinks and such are a good groundwork and they seek to build something beyond that so there is an actual reality to the fantasies they met under.

There are also the people looking to get immediate gratification.  There are those who dont see past the kinks and who either dont particularly want or havet considered a long term relationship within the lifestyle. They want to get their fix, and are wiling to doit quickly and with minimal emotinoal and time involvement.

Occasionally, there are people who want something longterm but who accelerate their search and want faster involvement.  Its play first, learn about one another later.  Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt.  I heard from a very good friend once :
"Its easier to build a vanilla relationship with the one you want, and then put the BDSM aspects in once youve got it, than it is to build the BDSM relationship of your dreams and try and fit the vanilla parts in later."

DV




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