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ElectraGlide -> Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 10:16:37 PM)

I have known 3 ladies in the past 20 years that let a guy in prison run their lives. They ran their lives in a bad way, two of these ladies would smuggle weed in a state prison to them. These ladies would deprive their kids of everyday needs because their man in jail would demand their money to get himself a television or something. I know all 3 guys were low life creeps, but they had a mind domination thing going for sure. A jailhouse trick when the lady gets fed up and tells him she had enough, he mails a postcard in a envelope to a family member in another state saying he is free and out of jail now, that family member mails it to her. She sees the postmark from another state and then she wanted him back. I guess that trick only works once. Whats your thought on this ? It is a long distance sub and dom relationship for sure. There must be honest healthy relationships like this I just never heard of.



LittleDaisyGirl -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 10:26:41 PM)

I would never be involved with an inmate.  If he's in prison, obviously he can't be THAT great of a catch.



ExSteelAgain -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 10:28:01 PM)

  Makes sense to me with all the indepth arguments on CM supporting cyber relationships. Smile.



theRose4U -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 10:28:32 PM)

I would say this is part of the same idea that leads these same women to marry those in prison. Murders and worse woo those on their juries who out of guilt become attracted. You're more likely talking about the type that are so confused about what real relationships are that they feel drawn to those in prison as a part of stability.
Many times sickness breeds sickness. For a woman with committment issues or that has had men cheat on her there are certain benefits to having a man under constant supervision. She knows where he is and thinks she has the faintest idea of what he's doing. These types of women are where prisoners polish their parole persona. Oh yes I'm taking classes to learn a trade, oh yes drug education is helping so much, oh yes if you just put $100 in my commisary account I can  buy a book to make everything better. [gag]




mistoferin -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 10:30:16 PM)

I've only personally known one woman who has done this....and well....let's just say that she isn't exactly the sharpest knife in the drawer.



theRose4U -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 10:32:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Makes sense to me with all the indepth arguments on CM supporting cyber relationships. Smile.


I stress in theory, websites like CM are prohibited as it tends to make the zoo creatures more restless. Most prisons contraband includes porn, any inaapropriate child images, and anything discussing or depicting wiitwd because of the rather sadistic bent that tends to be common in too many prisoners.



DarkRanger -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 10:35:08 PM)

Having been a law enforcement officer over 37 years and having watched several of my fellow employees (female) fall for prisoners who were ultimately sent off to a state correctional facility, for years, in most instances, I have to say it is definitely a form of mind control. But, control over a very weak mind, IMHO.  Two of these women gave up careers, families, friends, so that they could follow these new "loves of their lives", ending up being severely abused, physically and emotionally/mentally, one, a registered nurse , even sinking into the depravaity of drugs addiction herslef, just to please her new "friend".   Oh, domination was very much a part of the picture... But a very sick, demeaning and depraved form of domination.  And it had nothing to do with the lifestyle...But could have



mistoferin -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 11:04:27 PM)

Like the old song says, "Well he can't even run his own life, I'll be damned if he'll run mine".

One of the things that I always look for in a Dominant is how much of a handle he has on his own life. I don't expect them to always have everything under control, that is not realistic. But I do expect that they have a proven record of being able to manage their own affairs in a responsible manner. Incarceration is not indicative of a man who has any real degree of control over his life or who makes good decisions and is capable of managing his own affairs in a responsible way.

I have no personal understanding of what might make this an attractive situation for some women.



ElectraGlide -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/20/2006 11:59:58 PM)

One of the ladies I knew did not even know when he was getting released because he would not tell her when. They all knew the guys before they went into prison. They were not in on a 60 day drunk driving charge, they were in a state prison for several years. I thought the 3 ladies did not value them selves because the guys were true pigs to start with. Their prison doms wanted them to go to work then straight home and no where else. They mailed letters to each other daily. When the jailbird had phone time, they had to be stationed at home to receive that colect phone call at a certain time. These ladies would have to give a detail what they did since the last phone call, then they would get the third degree on what they did wrong. They were denied family parties or any parties,because of course they might meet a guy. All 3 ladies had weight problems and told their convict dom they wanted to try and loose weight and he would get bent out of shape and tell them not to lose weight.



Petruchio -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 12:19:35 AM)

I don't recall the word for women who 'fall in love' with prisoners, but it'ws not an uncommon obsession.

I knew a woman who did exactly that, a much older woman who fell for a young guy in jail.

She gave the impression she liked knowing exactly where he was and that he couldn't run off. I wondered how many much younger, much prettier (or not) women he played at the same time.



Quivver -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 2:12:58 AM)

One of the first things I do when given a full name is to check the states correctional data base for a match.  (Some states allow access, a few others do not) ............ I've yet to come up with a match, but the way I see it is  better safe then sorry.    



crouchingtigress -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 2:59:00 AM)

i would say yes they are part of the lifestyle, but it pains me to say it, because yuck, that level of of d/s is is so ugly. but if the lifestyle is about dominating and submitting then i would say it was.
 
the reason they are not allowed on a diet is because they are not allowed to feel good about themselves, because the guy does not care about his woman sexually, or romantically although that is the carrot, in fact the majoity of cases like this the guy finnally gets out of prison, and he leaves her, she is no longer useful to him.
 
i dont know how these guys know how to do this level of manipulation i am sure are being mentored and some of it is commom sense...
 

 
 
 



RedSavageSlave -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 4:54:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

I would say this is part of the same idea that leads these same women to marry those in prison. Murders and worse woo those on their juries who out of guilt become attracted.


Kind of off topic but still funny (sad).. I did a search on yahoo groups and found out there was one that was called "serial killer groupies"..

How weird do you have to be to join a group like that?



LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 5:06:46 AM)

It's obviously a form of domination, but I'm not sure why it would fall under the category of the "D/s lifestyle".  Many vanilla couples have a D/s component to their relationships, but I doubt they would have any idea that there is a "community" that exists to support their behavior, nor do I think they would feel the need to be part of it.  It makes you wonder what exact component classifies us as "non-vanilla".  I tend to think that some form of BDSM within the relationship is the key, but I am sure that others think differently.

Be well,
Julie



Lashra -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 5:07:52 AM)

They sound like their IQ's were less then that of a cucumber and they suck at being Mom's.  As its been said, common sense really isn't so common.

~Lashra



SlaveAkasha -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 5:10:04 AM)

I have a friend that seems to only go for men in prison.  I am not sure if it's the prison thing, or just most of the people she knows are criminals.
 
I don't get it, nor will I ever.  She lets them take advantage of her, cheat on her, and use her for money.  I think for her, it has a lot to do with the fact that it's a lot easier to have a "relationship" with someone she doesn't have to actually be with.  Every time she has one with a person out of prison, it doesn't work.  This gives her a way to tell others she "has" someone, and not look like she can't get anyone.
 
Of course, I am just her trashy bdsm slave friend, what do I know..
 
Kasha
 
PS..I think that seemed a bit bitter of me... I guess I am just tired of my "friends" judging me, when they live in glass houses.



LotusSong -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 5:11:09 AM)

Desparate people do desparate things.. on both sides.



Rover -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 5:22:35 AM)

Personally, I don't equate manipulation and exploitation as inherent characteristics of power exchange relationships.  However, if you do, then you might see these examples of jailhouse stupidity as "lifestyle" in orientation.  I don't.
 
John



MaryT -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 6:03:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ElectraGlide
Whats your thought on this ? It is a long distance sub and dom relationship for sure.


It sounds like mental illness to me.

MaryT



KatyLied -> RE: Is being Dominated from a person in jail part of this lifestyle ? (12/21/2006 7:20:17 AM)

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Whats your thought on this ?


Put simply, "stupid is as stupid does."



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