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Yourangelic1 -> RE: Lacking willpower (12/18/2006 10:12:45 AM)
Its true that finding activities and not focusing on the loss of the relationship, or the things that remind you of it is great advice. When i was going through the sadness of my relationship ending, i found that my day would go good or bad depending on my willingness to keep telling myself that moving on was healthier, or i could keep feeling sad and going over every mistake i made or every issue the relationship had, trying to rehash and "fix" that which could not be fixed. i truly found that my day went so much better when i was able to be happy and look forward to the future.. to find something to interest myself in.. It really takes concious effort and i know how difficult it can be.. i hope this helps some.. angelic

drawntothedark -> RE: Lacking willpower (12/18/2006 10:14:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst It kind of does feel like he enjoys dangling me. It is unlikely I know, but there is precedence for this feeling. Kyst Yeah, I was in something simular. I think that some people do get off on the whole "I'm here but making it crystal clear that I'm not here for you" thing. Usually, in my world, I can break this cycle by finding something "prettier" to focus my attention on. I also focus on the reasons why we feel apart and also on how being ignored feels. You give that person the power when you care that they do not talk to you. It's very easy to get into that rut. Eventually you will find what works for you to get out of it. But I totally understand where you are coming from.

Voltare -> RE: Lacking willpower (12/18/2006 10:26:24 AM)
Wow, my bad. I saw the bit about the name on messenger, and made the wrong assumption. Sounds like you need to avoid contact with him as much as possible, while still doing your job. I'm sure he'll understand why, by now. The rest applies - throwing yourself into something that consumes all of your free time and energy will mean two months later, you'll barely remember what you did with him, and leave you in a better to move on.

Yourangelic1 -> RE: Lacking willpower (12/18/2006 10:37:53 AM)
Very well said, i have to agree.. Its even more damaging to have the person living in the same house with you ignoring you like you dont exist, and watching and enjoying when you are in pain from it. Thank you for posting this topic.. stay strong.. angelic

Missokyst -> RE: Lacking willpower (12/18/2006 11:46:02 AM)
LOL..boy I wish there was someone else to focus on! Most of what is in my area consists of male subs. I wonder if there is something in northern california water? Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: drawntothedark Yeah, I was in something simular. I think that some people do get off on the whole "I'm here but making it crystal clear that I'm not here for you" thing. Usually, in my world, I can break this cycle by finding something "prettier" to focus my attention on. I also focus on the reasons why we feel apart and also on how being ignored feels. You give that person the power when you care that they do not talk to you. It's very easy to get into that rut. Eventually you will find what works for you to get out of it. But I totally understand where you are coming from.

MstrssPassion -> RE: Lacking willpower (12/18/2006 7:29:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I wish this had just been online! This is a man I work with Then hopefully you've learned another valuable lesson... don't date people you work with

Missokyst -> RE: Lacking willpower (12/18/2006 8:13:22 PM)
I NEED to get that song! Kyst

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