Question about sentiments after a death...

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Question about sentiments after a death...

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid >> Question about sentiments after a death...

Page: [1]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Question about sentiments after a death... - 12/17/2006 10:27:53 PM

michaelOfGeorgia

Posts: 4253
Status: offline

inquiry retracted due to poor timing

< Message edited by michaelOfGeorgia -- 12/17/2006 10:37:01 PM >

_____________________________

Are we having fun, yet?

Profile

Post #: 1

RE: Question about sentiments after a death... - 12/17/2006 10:31:59 PM

LuckyAlbatross

Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline

I'd try to explain it, but if, at the age you are at now, you cannot see the reasoning behind social graces and all the many forgivnesses, sorry's and empty statements we make to eachother in small talk- then there's no amount of my explaining that can bring you up to speed.

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to michaelOfGeorgia)

Profile

Post #: 2

RE: Question about sentiments after a death... - 12/18/2006 2:25:16 AM

swtnsparkling

Posts: 1738
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline

Having lost both my parents in the last few years. I can say from my own experience, words really didn't mean much to me. What helped me the most was just a hug. A tight lingering hug- that personal connection in that I felt everything.

_____________________________

Never make anyone a priority who treats you as an option 2003

Walk in Peace

A "No" uttered from deepest conviction is better than a "Yes" uttered merely to please

(in reply to michaelOfGeorgia)

Profile

Post #: 3

RE: Question about sentiments after a death... - 12/18/2006 6:40:05 AM

mnottertail

Posts: 60698
Joined: 11/3/2004
Status: offline

Peoples lives get broke sometimes in ways there is no fix for, they have to heal themselves, if you know of the deceased intimately, it may be comforting to relate a happy anecdote about them, if you do not, just as sparklie said, a quiet and heartfelt hug may make be the most appreciated gesture.

Ron

_____________________________

Have they not divided the prey; to every man a damsel or two? Judges 5:30

(in reply to swtnsparkling)

Profile

Post #: 4

RE: Question about sentiments after a death... - 12/18/2006 9:25:30 AM

pahunkboy

Posts: 33061
Joined: 2/26/2006
From: Central Pennsylvania
Status: offline

emotions are too explosive at a funeral. one of my aunts went mad like a lunitic when a certain uncle showed up. [they had a fight over an inheritance years ago] the uncle quietly left the room. I stuck to the back pew and did not say much.

sometimes silence is golden.

(in reply to mnottertail)

Profile

Post #: 5

RE: Question about sentiments after a death... - 12/18/2006 3:45:17 PM

LotusSong

Posts: 6334
Joined: 7/2/2006
From: Domme Emeritus
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Peoples lives get broke sometimes in ways there is no fix for, they have to heal themselves, if you know of the deceased intimately, it may be comforting to relate a happy anecdote about them, if you do not, just as sparklie said, a quiet and heartfelt hug may make be the most appreciated gesture.

Ron

I was at the bedside of my sister in law when she died.. as were several of her family members and church folk. After she passed, the priest had us all join hands around her bed and speak our hearts. When it came my turn... I said "She made the BEST ice box butter nutroll! Damn I'm gonna miss that!" After the very brief silence..the snickering broke into laughter and we all shared our funny and happy memories of her.

Be happy for the deceased.. pray for the living.

< Message edited by LotusSong -- 12/18/2006 3:47:18 PM >

_____________________________

Life Lesson #1

I'm not your type.
I'm not inflatable.

(in reply to mnottertail)

Profile

Post #: 6