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Missokyst -> Out of the blue.. (12/10/2006 8:31:11 PM)
Ok this is weird. I just got an email from a guy who asked if I was _________ who once worked at ________? Being that person fitting the description I answered back yes. And just a bit ago got an instant message from said former acquaintence. We chatted a bit, just to be sure I was the person he thought I was.. and he brings up my interest in bdsm. ~~~A little background on this is that several people knew me to be interested in this after my unwilling outing at my old job. During that time of my life I used to enjoy giving massages, totally non sexual, full body, mind alteringly great one hour massage. I did it to keep me sane and help me get rid of excess energy as well as help me fulfill the need to "do" that subs often have when on their own. There was never any sex, or sexual activity with my clients. And it was always for free.~~~ Anyway.. now he wants to know if I am still interested in bdsm and whether I would like to attend one of the local gatherings with him. Problem is.. I cannot remember him! I run a local group so meeting people is no big deal for me. But.. I have had my hands on this guy. LOL.. somehow that puts a twist on it for me I haven't encountered before. While I think of what I will do about this, Have any of you felt the long fingers of your past come back to tap you on the shoulder? If you have, was the outcome of meeting someone from your past been good or bad? Kyst

LTRsubNW -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/10/2006 8:37:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst Ok this is weird. I just got an email from a guy who asked if I was _________ who once worked at ________? Being that person fitting the description I answered back yes. And just a bit ago got an instant message from said former acquaintence. We chatted a bit, just to be sure I was the person he thought I was.. and he brings up my interest in bdsm. ~~~A little background on this is that several people knew me to be interested in this after my unwilling outing at my old job. During that time of my life I used to enjoy giving massages, totally non sexual, full body, mind alteringly great one hour massage. I did it to keep me sane and help me get rid of excess energy as well as help me fulfill the need to "do" that subs often have when on their own. There was never any sex, or sexual activity with my clients. And it was always for free.~~~ Anyway.. now he wants to know if I am still interested in bdsm and whether I would like to attend one of the local gatherings with him. Problem is.. I cannot remember him! I run a local group so meeting people is no big deal for me. But.. I have had my hands on this guy. LOL.. somehow that puts a twist on it for me I haven't encountered before. While I think of what I will do about this, Have any of you felt the long fingers of your past come back to tap you on the shoulder? If you have, was the outcome of meeting someone from your past been good or bad? Kyst It took me a minute and a re-read of everything to figure out who it was but (hope this helps) he was the guy who _____, he's roughly ____ feet ____ inches tall, ____ hair and he used to talk about ______ ALLLLLLLL the time. Remember back at the ______ when he said "_________, __-____" and "____ __________" hahahahahaha....he was always such a card that _____. Anyway...hope this helped. Yours, __________

crouchingtigress -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/10/2006 8:39:32 PM)
well i forget folks all the time....and sometimes they forget me....i would not be offended if some one said..."gosh that was so long ago and i have massaged so many great folks in my life..i get them confused sometimes...can you fill in the blanks for me if you can remember more details? yes i have met folks from the past....my current house mate started out as one of my first subs...the relationship is purely platonic these days....but it is really fun to reconnect and see the person as he is now a days...he is so different.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/10/2006 8:40:52 PM)
Ive done that, simply say, Im sorry, I remember you but I dont remmber your name. He doesnt have to know you dont remember him at all. I'm bad with names, since where I work I toss them around all day, so no one has ever realy been annoyed with me over it. It happens, especially when you assume you wont be seeig them agian. DV

pixelslave -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/10/2006 10:40:20 PM)
To add to what the others have said, ask for a photo as a reminder of who he is and to help confirm his identity. - pixel

mons -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/11/2006 2:53:09 AM)
greetings i had long arm come and ask me again but i did not remember i work on thinking of asking him what was thing we did but in a way where he did not know i was working on him for asnwer it took time but it work and everything went ok but how long was this that you saw him that is the different if it like 10 years i do not think it will work you may want to be honest and say i do not remember you but we can work on that part if it is a long time i am sure he will understand oh do you trust him that is more important then anything , i so wish you luck let us know what happen warm wishes to all mons

FangsNfeet -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/11/2006 3:05:58 AM)
I don't think it would be a bad thing in meeting him. Got pics? Is he cute and or doable? I've been in the situation where I've came accross old friends and things turned into more. They ended up not working out but are not experiences that I regret. My advice is to meet him if there's an interest and not just because he once knew you. If things click with your conversations, then take the next step. Just be honest enough to say that you don't remember much about him. You where more focused on other priorities at the time and didn't have the opportunity to really get to know him like you have now. He'll respect that and be glad to have this second chance where you will remember him after this opportunity.

missturbation -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/11/2006 7:55:35 AM)
Have any of you felt the long fingers of your past come back to tap you on the shoulder? If you have, was the outcome of meeting someone from your past been good or bad? Funnily enough a few weeks ago i bumped into my ex fiances mother in Asda. We were just chatting in general when a bloke walked up and started to talk to my exes mum. After a couple of minutes he turned to me and said 'you don't remember me do you?' I said 'no' and he laughed and said 'do you forget all the men you have slept with, you remember you were dating that squaddie at the time?' I wish the floor could have swallowed me up my exs mother was said squaddies mother and she now knew i'd cheated on her son!! [:)]

Siona -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/11/2006 10:23:21 AM)
I've come across that before too. I've asked them to refresh my memory.

Missokyst -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/11/2006 10:32:03 AM)
yeah.. it was driving me nuts. I did end up admitting I couldn't place him. Heck, I did a lot of massages back then (dang I miss that). I think that part may have offended him, even though my massages never went sexual. He never sent me back a pic. Even if he had though, he is considerably younger than I am. I cannot imagine hooking up with him for any sort of play. Kyst

Arpig -> RE: Out of the blue.. (12/11/2006 11:47:53 AM)
I have a crappy memory for people but not faces, so I am always meeting people who know me and I know I know them, but for the life of me I have no idea who they are...I usually just admit it and ask their name....if they actually do know me, they aren't surprised by my lack of recognition.....comes from falling on my head a lot ;)

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