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Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 1:13:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I was speaking to a friend earlier (male) who stated that men do not discuss their sex lives unless it is to brag or they are lieing. Now i have real trouble believing this as i have worked in the pub industry for 16 years and have listened to countless convos between men about sex  and not all of them the bragging / lieing kind.
He states the same is true about men discussing relationships too - apparently they just dont do it. Again ive heard these convos in pub settings frequently.
I guess im curious how many men here do openly discuss relationships / sex with their friends?
Why is sex / relationship talk still seen as girlie talk?
Also if you are going to discuss these things with your mates guys is it generally a pub setting you would choose to do it in or do you discuss whenever / wherever?
Who do you think discusses sex / relationships more - men or women?


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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 1:15:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know lots of women who say they never talk sex with their friends either.

It depends on the person.  I also think the KINDS of conversations men have tend to be different from women, even if on the same general topics.

I wish everyone would just be comfortable talking about sex and relationships.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 1:19:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I will discuss sex and relationships with anyone.  It is of no matter to Me.  I have nothing to hide.  Besides, as some of you may have been able to tell I am a very open and honest person as a rule.  To the point that some people find it difficult to handle even.  Hell, I even share pictures.  I have no shame and I have a good self-esteem. 

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 2:13:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'll discuss sex openly but my sister will not. My boyfriend discusses sex with me but has said he has very little sex talk with his male friends. So some of us do and some of us dont. 

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 7:10:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Daddy and I were talking about this the other night as we sat listening to people chat at dinner.  I told Him that I felt that women were WAY more apt to talk about sex in more detailed terms, etc.  I have heard guys kind of talk about it generally, "I got laid, I like getting head, or yeah, I did that girl once." 

The women I know will talk about the man's size, length, girth, stamina, tongue expertise, kiss-ability, and post-coital snuggle factor.  This was reinforced by a comedian on tv a few weeks ago who stated, "Men, there is at least one woman in your woman's circle of friends or family, who knows every detail of your manhood and your prowess in bed."  In my experience, it is true.  They'll talk about almost any detail of the encounter ad nauseum. 

Just what I've noticed, your mileage may vary...

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 7:16:51 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

I was speaking to a friend earlier (male) who stated that men do not discuss their sex lives unless it is to brag or they are lieing. Now i have real trouble believing this as i have worked in the pub industry for 16 years and have listened to countless convos between men about sex  and not all of them the bragging / lieing kind.
He states the same is true about men discussing relationships too - apparently they just dont do it. Again ive heard these convos in pub settings frequently.
I guess im curious how many men here do openly discuss relationships / sex with their friends?
Why is sex / relationship talk still seen as girlie talk?
Also if you are going to discuss these things with your mates guys is it generally a pub setting you would choose to do it in or do you discuss whenever / wherever?
Who do you think discusses sex / relationships more - men or women?



Hard to say...In general, I've seen more men than women who seem to talk more about it.

I personally talk about it more now that Im divorced, but still not often or with many people. 

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 7:21:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm pretty open during sexual conversations ,and i  agree that women not only discuss sex more than men...but as Daddysredhead stated, in far greater detail.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 7:27:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: missturbation

I was speaking to a friend earlier (male) who stated that men do not discuss their sex lives unless it is to brag or they are lieing. Now i have real trouble believing this as i have worked in the pub industry for 16 years and have listened to countless convos between men about sex  and not all of them the bragging / lieing kind.
He states the same is true about men discussing relationships too - apparently they just dont do it. Again ive heard these convos in pub settings frequently.
I guess im curious how many men here do openly discuss relationships / sex with their friends?
Why is sex / relationship talk still seen as girlie talk?
Also if you are going to discuss these things with your mates guys is it generally a pub setting you would choose to do it in or do you discuss whenever / wherever?
Who do you think discusses sex / relationships more - men or women?



I don't want to talk about it.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/4/2006 10:13:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

I was speaking to a friend earlier (male) who stated that men do not discuss their sex lives unless it is to brag or they are lieing. Now i have real trouble believing this as i have worked in the pub industry for 16 years and have listened to countless convos between men about sex  and not all of them the bragging / lieing kind.
He states the same is true about men discussing relationships too - apparently they just dont do it. Again ive heard these convos in pub settings frequently.
I guess im curious how many men here do openly discuss relationships / sex with their friends?
Why is sex / relationship talk still seen as girlie talk?
Also if you are going to discuss these things with your mates guys is it generally a pub setting you would choose to do it in or do you discuss whenever / wherever?
Who do you think discusses sex / relationships more - men or women?



I don't want to talk about it.


Oh come on! The world awaits with anticipation for the embarrassing revelations of your sex life.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/5/2006 12:33:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: missturbation

I was speaking to a friend earlier (male) who stated that men do not discuss their sex lives unless it is to brag or they are lieing. Now i have real trouble believing this as i have worked in the pub industry for 16 years and have listened to countless convos between men about sex  and not all of them the bragging / lieing kind.
He states the same is true about men discussing relationships too - apparently they just dont do it. Again ive heard these convos in pub settings frequently.
I guess im curious how many men here do openly discuss relationships / sex with their friends?
Why is sex / relationship talk still seen as girlie talk?
Also if you are going to discuss these things with your mates guys is it generally a pub setting you would choose to do it in or do you discuss whenever / wherever?
Who do you think discusses sex / relationships more - men or women?


HAHAHAHAHA!  Sorry.  I'll pull myself together.  Most of the men I know talk about their sex lives and relationships conversationally, not to brag or lie, but just to talk and compare.

Honestly, the majority of relationship/sex conversations I have are with my guy friends.  It's not quite the same as if they were alone, but they do talk about it very openly.  Maybe it has something to do with most of my guy friends aspiring to be psychologists.  Eh, perhaps.

As a general rule, I think women are more open to others outside of their relationship about their relationship.  However, that doesn't preclude men talking about  it.  I just don't think it crops up quite as often.  I think men are more apt to think of their time with their friends as their time away from the relationship, and women are more likely to think of it as time to commiserate.  (This, of course, should be read as a scenario where it is not a mixed group.)

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/5/2006 5:21:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wish everyone would just be comfortable talking about sex and relationships.
I agree LA for a number of reasons.
 
I will discuss sex and relationships with anyone.
Sir Kenin - Absolutely everyone - no exceptions? Even if it is over the line of someones comfort zone?
 
So some of us do and some of us dont. 
Sophia - Pretty much what i thought but was curious as to whether it is mainle a girl thing.
 
"Men, there is at least one woman in your woman's circle of friends or family, who knows every detail of your manhood and your prowess in bed." 
DRh - I think that is spot on
 
Hard to say...In general, I've seen more men than women who seem to talk more about it.
Marie too - Me too but i wondered if that was the setting i worked in -  the pub.
 
i  agree that women not only discuss sex more than men...but as Daddysredhead stated, in far greater detail.
Spankmepink - i wonder why though?
 
I don't want to talk about it.
LTRsub - any reason why you dont?
 
I think men are more apt to think of their time with their friends as their time away from the relationship, and women are more likely to think of it as time to commiserate. 
Naked on my chain - i hadnt thought of that. Men in my esperience tend to whinge more about relationships though where as women will also come out and say something along the lines of 'he did the sweetest thing last night...'
 
 
 


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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/5/2006 9:13:57 AM   
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As a general rule, I think women are more open to others outside of their relationship about their relationship.  However, that doesn't preclude men talking about  it.  I just don't think it crops up quite as often.  I think men are more apt to think of their time with their friends as their time away from the relationship, and women are more likely to think of it as time to commiserate.  (This, of course, should be read as a scenario where it is not a mixed group.)


i agree with this. i mostly discuss my relationship/sex life with male friends/acquaintances, because well i've never been one to have "girlfriends" and i've just always been more comfortable talking with men than women. and yes i do go into explicit, graphic detail...lol. they share with me also, but certainly not in such precise detail and usually not as comfortably or naturally. i think when it's just guys hanging out with guys, they do see that as their time away, kinda like when the football game is on...the last thing on their minds is their woman or how good she looks naked.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/5/2006 12:10:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I can't ever remember having a detailed discussion about sex with another woman.  And, the only way I've really discussed it with men is through text based communications via the internet with people I don't know and who don't know the person I'm talking aboout. Even that's been extremely rare. 

I guess I tend to keep private things private, and if someone's not involved, I wouldn't talk to them about it. To do so seems like a breech of confidence and trust.  Or, maybe I'm just inhibited.  I dunno.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/5/2006 12:43:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the main problem is the fear that the person you are talking to will tell everyone.
Personal details are personal.
And if you appear out of the norm it is even more likely that they will tell.
The best person to talk about your sex life is the person you are having it with.
Or a sex counsellor if you are having problems that you can't solve between the two or more of you.
We don't have to do it as many times as the next person or do it in the same way.
What we have to do is do it in the way that brings the most satisfaction to both parties.
Unless you don't care about your partner of course.
I however love talking about it in the abstract.
It may help someone have the guts to ask their partner for something that they might consider a little out of the norm. Or help them to talk to me about something that they are worried about.
I just wish I could help all the men who adore licking to find a way to get their partners to let them.
What is it with some women?
Can anyone help me to understand it.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/5/2006 1:03:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I talk about mine with my friends in very general terms.  I talk openly and honestly with my partners.  I do believe some men would not talk about it at all and others would talk pretty openly about it.

Sounds like your friend is equating *HIS* experience with everyone else's.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/5/2006 4:50:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

I was speaking to a friend earlier (male) who stated that men do not discuss their sex lives unless it is to brag or they are lieing. Now i have real trouble believing this as i have worked in the pub industry for 16 years and have listened to countless convos between men about sex  and not all of them the bragging / lieing kind.
He states the same is true about men discussing relationships too - apparently they just dont do it. Again ive heard these convos in pub settings frequently.
I guess im curious how many men here do openly discuss relationships / sex with their friends?
Why is sex / relationship talk still seen as girlie talk?
Also if you are going to discuss these things with your mates guys is it generally a pub setting you would choose to do it in or do you discuss whenever / wherever?
Who do you think discusses sex / relationships more - men or women?



I don't want to talk about it.


Oh come on! The world awaits with anticipation for the embarrassing revelations of your sex life.


All right....I'm 48 and I decided after a few failed encounters, to go to The Boston Medical Group.

I'd read all these comments from "happy customers" and I thought "fine, maybe they can help...what the hell, let's give it a try".  And off I went.

I go in, fill out a bunch of forms, must have been 10 pages of this crap, and finally at the very last line they say "currently no insurance companies cover the costs associated with The Boston Medical Group, however, no male customers have yet asked for their money back...please sign here to acknowledge this notation".

Well, I thought that was a little odd, and frankly, I was a little bummed, I mean, their charges weren't exactly like going in for a set of new biased plys at SEARS, but hey....no one's ever asked for their money back...that has to be good, right?

So, we wrap that all up, the counselor tells me and the wife..."now, we're a little unconventional here at The Boston Medical Group but we do promise results...is everyone in agreement then?"

"Why yes, of course" we both argue, she with a much brighter smile than I'd seen for some time....and off we go into the room where these miracles take place.  "No, I'm sorry" he said to my wife "you'll need to wait here".

We walk down this long hall, then down another, I start seeing some rather stunning nurses along the way, each of them smiling seductively, each of which I'm thinking "sure hope THAT one's my nurse" when out of nowhere comes this deep throaty "YEAH BABY !!!! Come to Papa!!!!" and then, the door opens to my room.

Lemme tell you, Elvis HAD to have been the decorator because this put to shame any "love pad" I'd ever seen in any cheesy 70's movie 'cause honest to gawwwd, there had to have been thousands upon thousands of little velvet creatures that had to have been killed for this room....and the Doctor said "My assistant will be with you shortly...make yourself comfortable...pour yourself a drink....see you in an hour....stud".

Wafts of incense filled the room, there was my favorite scotch, chilled, with beautiful crystal glasses, already filled with ice, waiting for my ultimate command.

And I laid back, snifted myself a cold one, and relaxed.

No sooner did I do so, when Pamela Anderson entered the room.

Now, mind you, this wasn't a chic that looked like Pamela Anderson...it WAS Pamela Anderson!!!!

She came on to me like a racehorse waiting for the bell.  At least at Santa Anita they have those metal bars to hold them back until the shot.

That's all I'm gonna tell you but....I now go back every week, I've refinanced the house 3 times in the last 7 months, and while I still don't want to fuck my wife...everything's working again and I couldn't be happier with The Boston Medical Group.

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RE: Lets talk about sex !! - 12/6/2006 3:20:05 AM   
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Daddy and I were talking about this the other night as we sat listening to people chat at dinner.  I told Him that I felt that women were WAY more apt to talk about sex in more detailed terms, etc.  I have heard guys kind of talk about it generally, "I got laid, I like getting head, or yeah, I did that girl once." 

The women I know will talk about the man's size, length, girth, stamina, tongue expertise, kiss-ability, and post-coital snuggle factor.  This was reinforced by a comedian on tv a few weeks ago who stated, "Men, there is at least one woman in your woman's circle of friends or family, who knows every detail of your manhood and your prowess in bed."  In my experience, it is true.  They'll talk about almost any detail of the encounter ad nauseum. 

Just what I've noticed, your mileage may vary...

(typo)


I concur.

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