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Shalyn -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 1:50:24 PM)
i dont need to be reminded of who i belong to but i like to hear my Master tell me "you are mine". And there is a few other things he can say that really just put me in a total different mindset. Words have a big impact on me but i do not need to hear them to feel that i am His.

nikaa -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 3:39:56 PM)
When I began using this nick instead of our joint one my Master wanted me to find away to denote that I was owned and by whom. This was done for several reasons. Perhaps an obvious reason. It was and is his way of showing that I am owned. Secondly, because I post from time to time within the Gorean forum here on CollarMe. IF I happened to offend someone (like a Gorean Free or any other Dom/me) or IF someone took issue with something I posted they could come to him and as my Master, he would deal with the situation how he saw fit. He demands I be tactful at all times. Edited to add:Shayln, after 2 years I still grin from ear to ear every time my Master calls me Mine.

diamonddreamlove -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 3:53:07 PM)
I don't think of them as just words perhaps because i am not owned but in my heart i belong to Him. Our community is quite confused since most believe we are collared because of the way we interact with each other. That is fine but when we are not together i am just me a sub without an owner to the rest of the world. We are planning to collar this spring but again it feels as if our hearts and lives are already very entertwined. That is not insecurity that makes me feel like yelling i am His but the intense feeling i have for Him. I loved how subsa put it when she said her heart goes pitter patter after all these years. Sounds to me like this is just another personal preference stating i belong to.... one i long to be able to use. I am proud of Sir and He tells me He is proud of me so when He introduces me as His girl or someone introduces me as His sub i tingle all over knowing that each day becomes better because i am HIS!

Wildfleurs -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 4:09:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalira Just curious as to how others view the words; and the reasons behind why they use them. (just some random thoughts on a sleepless Sunday night/Monday morning ) I tend to use the terminology, "I belong to ___, I'm owned by ____, this is ___ my owner" because well... that is the most accurate way to describe who he is in relation to me. I don't feel all tingly when I use it, at this point it really just feels like a clear statement of fact more than anything that makes me feel secure. I definitely feel pride in being his, but just the statement of it doesn't give me any extra special feelings. I'm not huge on throwing it around all of the time (particularly online), I don't have it on my .sig line, I mention I'm in a relationship in my profiles but I tend to not mention his online nickname, there doesn't seem to be much reason to do so. C~

justheather -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 4:18:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs I'm not huge on throwing it around all of the time (particularly online), I don't have it on my .sig line, I mention I'm in a relationship in my profiles but I tend to not mention his online nickname, there doesn't seem to be much reason to do so. This is the way I feel about it too. When we first met, we actually talked about the fact that we absolutely didnt want to post an announcement on the boards...and eventually we decided not to really be "out" in this community because we both enjoy posting on the boards as individuals...Id rather my posts be read as mine than as being the words of "the property of so-and-so". So, we keep it low key on purpose. Anyone who reads my posts knows that Im in a relationship and anyone who really knows us knows we are together. Aside from a few transient pangs when he happens to attract a doe-eyed groupie now and again, that's really enough for me.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 5:35:26 PM)
Heather’s and Wildfleur's posts about their relationships brings up a new aspect. There are those on here who have met and are together in some fashion, yet don’t write about each other or the relationship on the boards. They keep a certain independence when they post. You would have to look hard to find who they are with.

sophia37 -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 6:20:45 PM)
If I said to people, Hi Im johns slave, everyone would laugh. Wouldnt you? Maybe that would work if you were in a room of like minded people, but say that to the public and its really laughable. The response might be, yeah I know what you mean. Me too.

Daddysredhead -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/13/2006 8:07:13 PM)
I have my Master's name in my signature line and on my profile just because I am proud of what we have together. It just gives me the warm fuzzies. If others don't like it, that's ok, too... [:)]

SirLordTrainer -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/14/2006 5:53:34 AM)
Meaning initially its fine but if someone keeps harpin about it I think it beats itself into the ground.

MrrPete -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/14/2006 6:28:15 AM)
Having read most of the first page responses consider this angle. Protocol at BDSM parties requires Doms to contact a submissive's Owner to arrange possible play. Therfore it is very helpful to let the Doms know that you are owned at first meeting. Not all subs wear a collar that are in a relationship. You don't have to say anything more than "I'm owned" or "My name is subXXX and I'm collared" or "I'm not allowed to play with others without permission." Now if your Dom allows you to play with others and you may be interested then let the new Dom know who to talk too.

ElektraUkM -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/14/2006 6:40:06 AM)
"slave of X" is just about everything I have in my profile. That's not because that's all there is to me, it's because I'm not looking and a simple statement to the effect of 'taken' stops the enquiries. Also, I think that if anyone wants to know anything about me they can read my posts over on this side. I haven't really gone about declaring my state of being owned too much... most people I interact with either don't understand what it means, or don't understand what it means AND argue that it's generally 'a bad thing'... so I find opportunities for bragging and gushing quite limited. That being said, I love my relationship with him, and the fact of how it's all arranged. Couldn't really be much happier, whether anyone knows about it or doesn't.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/14/2006 6:46:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead I have my Master's name in my signature line and on my profile just because I am proud of what we have together. It just gives me the warm fuzzies. If others don't like it, that's ok, too... [:)] This is how I feel also. Also, for informative reasons I have it on here but not on profile.

juliaoceania -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/14/2006 7:25:59 AM)
Since the only place I have ever announced myself as Sinergy's submissive in public is here my CM profile, and a few times in explaining our dynamic when responding to posts, I do not know if it makes me feel warm and fuzzy or not. It does when he says something to me about my being his. I am not owned, but I am his submissive, so maybe that figures into it. I never gave much thought to it to be honest. When I was first married I played with different combinations of my name in writing for fun, to see it written. That is a very powerful action because in my view written words have a lot of power. But I was 21, and that was a marriage, and my name actually changed from what it had been my whole entire life, and that is a very powerful thing. The labels we apply to ourselves, utter with our lips, are indeed very powerful. It is why I am resistent to accept other people's labels... I refuse to adopt other people's powerful words into my psyche. There is a certain power in uttering that I belong to another. It is an act of submission, perhaps one of the deepest ones in my opinion. It is not just happenstance for me, perhaps it never will be, perhaps it will become old hat and just another aspect of my life like my hieght or profession...

glycerine -> RE: I belong to; I am owned by; etc (11/14/2006 10:00:19 AM)
We don't attend play parties or go to themed clubs. The only time anything is mentioned is when He says "your My bitch". That's what makes me feel owned, not labeling myself at His sub, slave or whatever. The meaning behind the words is what matters, not really the words themselves. Just my .02.

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