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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/4/2006 4:40:42 PM

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Hmmm.. well I am Dominant and I enjoy her submission, so thats D/s. But Im also a sensual sadist and disciplinarian cuz gawd knows I love a good masochist. Hmm.. some say Im an artisan too. Guess Im just the oddball **grin**

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 12:21:58 AM

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i hear you, but i am not sure i agree, the fact that he is dominating the flogger and that she is submitting to his lashing makes up the D/s of that situation....IMHO.

i don't know crouch. i had to think long and hard about the label 'bottom'. It seems they submit, but only within confines....and they are not 'submissive overall'. It took me a bit to understand as i felt if someone submitted, even just for a sexual scene, say, then they were a submissive of sorts. But i think that's not the case. It seems submitting to just a scene of some type make them bottoms.

Actually, i think they're kinda cool people.....but was that confusing? lol

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 6:12:17 AM

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I am guessing that for some D/s is not a part or BDSM...But for many others it is the first essential indgrediant....BCW

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 8:52:17 AM

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For me, D/s is the very heart of it all.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 9:59:10 AM

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Is Domination and submission considered to be a part of Bdsm to most of you?
I always thought it was Bondage Domination Submission and Masochism .LOL OPPS!

No, D/s does not need to include any form of BDSM to exist. Likewise BDSM does not need to include D/s to exist. But for some of us, they are entwined quite nicely.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 10:14:34 AM

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A big peeve of mine, believing that it is all the same. Dominance/submission refers to the naturally occuring dominant and submissive traits/personality of a person. BDSM, to me has always been the 'kink' aspect and although the two do go hand in hand quite nicely (as is i suspect the general consensus!) neither needs the other to exist. I enjoy BDSM, creativley so.within committed M/s relations.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 12:19:28 PM

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I don't think BDSM and D/s are married. At least not in my life.

My Master and I have a D/s and BDSM relationship.

But I engage in BDSM type activites with other individuals in a non D/s sense, where neither is really dominating to or submitting to the other.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 1:47:11 PM

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so Ill take that as a a yes .maybe.Sorta.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 2:25:47 PM

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Dear SirLordTrainer, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Sir, I'm a dominant also but, my difference is I enjoy doing things to two fuzzy balls...errr nuts or bald nuts...making them do all sort of neat things. Its a nice handle to pull guys in the direction a dominant wishes. Twist, pull, dig fingernails into. Nipples are engaging for obedience on both men and women. Ah....[sighs and smiles]

It is so nice, when things 'tie' into a neat little package for the moment. A smattering of discomfort, a couple of pinches of pain, then draw down so the ummm meal/victim/submissive goes onto the knees, or up on the tip toes. (People cook differently). Tie up those wings or legs, thighs and more. Tender the meat. Add a bit of heat (maybe fire); then hum; "Chestnuts roasting on an open fire." or some fitting song. [sighs and smiles]

So, yes--I do use D/s, S&M, bondage and a creative mind.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 9:31:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

i hear you, but i am not sure i agree, the fact that he is dominating the flogger and that she is submitting to his lashing makes up the D/s of that situation....IMHO.

When I first started trying to learn how to use a single tail, I was always amazed at how much more frequently I smacked myself with it than the target I was trying to hit with it.

Im the only one in the room, I am holding the single tail, and Im getting beaten with it.

Who is the Dominant and who is the submissive in this picture?

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/5/2006 9:34:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: fantasy69maker

In another thread Its mentioned that that thread might not be appropriate here because he sees no eveidence that it si about Bdsm No bondage discipline sadisum or masochism
Is Domination and submission considered to be a part of Bdsm to most of you?
I always thought it was Bondage Domination Submission and Masochism .LOL OPPS!

For me, they are two separate things and you can have either one with out the other. That said, they are wonderful friends and like to hold hands. :)

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/6/2006 9:34:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: AbstractSavant

I don't think BDSM and D/s are married. At least not in my life.

My Master and I have a D/s and BDSM relationship.

But I engage in BDSM type activites with other individuals in a non D/s sense, where neither is really dominating to or submitting to the other.

I agree. BDSM are actions....D/s is a dynamic. I can enjoy them both in concert within a relationship or I can seperate them entirely and engage in BDSM activities with people who I share no D/s dynamic with.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/6/2006 10:49:46 AM

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EMDOUB IS CORRECT FANTASY MAKER; THE BREAK-DOWN OF TERMINOLOGY COVERED IN BDSM IS BONDAGE AND DISCIPLINE, DOMINATION AND SUBMISSION, AND SADISM AND MASOCHISM, (SOMETIMES INTENDED AS DIFFERENT WORDS TO DEFINE THE GIVER AND RECIEVER OF PAIN, BUT OFTEN JUST PLAIN OLD SADOMASOCHISM)
I PREFER THE D/s ASPECT MYSELF.

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RE: Is D/s welcome here? - 11/6/2006 11:01:48 AM

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I have a D/s or M/s relationship, depending on the choice of terminology of the day. We do not have nearly any dealings in BDSM unless you count the slap on the hand punishments he gets for being bad. I have been involved with people on a strictly BDSM level,where I never considered it to be any sort of relationship beyond playmates.

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