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raiken -> Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 2:20:28 PM)

In the other thread about if a pic makes a difference, something patti shared inspired me to share this part of her quote:
 
"...There is a Dom on this site that I go with all of my questions and woes; whose opinion I value more than my own; and whose face I have never seen.

Pattie "
 
It got me to thinking about the friends i share with online that i have never met in person, and some whose pic i have never seen.  Sometimes we have talked on the phone, but still have never been able to meet in person.  Some of their advice and thoughtful expression have enabled me to get a clearer perspective during different situations in my life.  Sure i have friends surrounding me, but most of them would not understand as easily, the situations that often occur within my particular way of life.  
 
There were times when i needed a friend to bounce things off of, or perhaps lean on, (and heavily at times) and some of the first folks that came to mind during certain situations, were in fact, my online penpals in the lifestyle.  Now i know that some folks disregard online as being real, i even hear this from some of my family at times, when they see me typing away here and there.  With all the talk lately about who is real, etc., well i do know that there is something to be said for actually having real caring people sitting at the other end of the wireless signal. 
 
Oh and patti, i also have several doms and mistresses on here that i talk with, whose face i have never seen, but whose words have warmed my heart and helped to keep me inspired thorugh some difficult times.  There was a time in my life where it was mainly the support of online pals that got me through the brunt of it.  The time they spent reading of my "woes" and responding with their thoughts, will always be precious to me.  Thanks for sharing that thought.
 
Just felt to share, and would be interested if others can relate, and care to share some thought on how some times the best comfort and guidance may just be delievered without a face. ~smile~



Mistrix -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 2:26:58 PM)

I liked your post alot.  It means alot to Me that people on here are so open to helping others out weather it's giving information or if they don't know they link you to somewhere where you can get the information.  There are alot of great supporters on here and that to Me is what a community is based on, support and kindness.  I get more out of this site and message board than I do in real time support because there just isn't enough SCENE here in my area.  It's important to feel accepted and open about what goes on.   I have said before we meet people for a reason, season or a lifetime.  I have also talked to alot of people on this site and other sites and never saw their picture but we shared some support between each other.
Gosh, I just love warm hearted loving posts like these ones.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 2:27:26 PM)

Sure, on yahoogroups I rarely saw a pic of the people I was in discussions with, but they had great ideas and support. 

I also experience that here a lot- though many have their pics as their avatars.

Given the choice, I prefer a pic because it gives you a better snapshot of the person and more to relate to, but the beauty of the net is that you can share information and make connections without the physical closeness.



subinktown -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 2:27:32 PM)

I've experienced this not only in this forum, but all over the internet...different groups, blogs, etc, to which I belong.  We should all remember that everyone with whom we interact online is a real person.



crouchingtigress -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 2:37:18 PM)

nice post



slaveaurora -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 2:42:20 PM)

When I read that quote, it touched me as well, so thank you for commenting on it. 

This has been a very important factor in my life as well.  There was a time in my life a few yrs ago that was extremely traumatic, and a handful of online friends whom I had never met, brought me though it.   

People on the other end of the wireless connection, are real, and have been a great inspiration and help to me during some rough times. 

I love this quote by the OP...."kindness without a face"
How true.

~aurora~



LaTigresse -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 3:08:34 PM)

Great post! As others have said, over the years online I have also made quite a few friends online. Some are more casual aquaintances and a few that have become very close friends. I have been lucky enough to meet some, have several that I talk to on the phone regularly.

I love that, thru this medium, I have gotten to know people from all over the world. It has expanded this Iowa farm broad's horizons more than would have been possible otherwise. I have become alot more open minded and am willing to explore and experience things I would have never imagined before. AND, when I get to a point that I can travel I have some really great friends I can visit and spend time with, all over the world. 



onlythewindknows -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 3:38:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: subinktown

We should all remember that everyone with whom we interact online is a real person.


hey ya never know - there are some pretty sophisicated 'bots these days. [:)]



CreativeDominant -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 3:49:16 PM)

Beautifully expressed, well thought-out post, raiken...[:)]

I agree with the one who stated that the title alone is nice...



SassySue -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 4:21:11 PM)

There have been times, because I am so isolated geographically, that online was the ONLY way to express my ideas.  I have friends for life and lifestyle here.  A face is just a face.



LadyHugs -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 5:24:47 PM)

Dear raiken, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Wonderful post.  So true also.
 
Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs



ExSteelAgain -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 5:40:17 PM)

It is a welcome change to see someone say they found friends and valuable opinions here, online on CM. As much time as we all spend online, there has to be something good about it. Thanks.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 5:41:35 PM)

I have one friend whom I have known for going on 6 years now. Reading this post, something occured to me. He and I have never shared pictures, and it hasnt even been brought up in conversation.  I have more than enough pictures available to view that if he ever did want to know what I looked like, he could easily find out.  We have shared nearly everything together.  He was there for me from before I had met my now exhusband all the way through listening to me complain about the divorce and what an ass the guy turned out to be.  He was the only one who didnt say "I told you so" when that fell apart. He took the time to learn about my religion so he could wish me a happy holiday on the right days and not just assume that I celebrated christmas and easter like everyone else.  He has even been reading up on the BDSM lifestyle since he now knows I am interested in it, and he has a host of questions about the lifestyle and about Angel. I am closer to him than I am  many of the people I interact with on a daily basis. And all I know about him physically is that he has blue eyes.
We keep promising to meet, and it never works out for us.  Last time I spoke to him, he said we should just gve uptrying and maybe we will run into one another some day.  The only trick would be wether we could recognize one another if we did.

DV



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 7:04:36 PM)

So maybe the best way to find a good match for one is to simply e-mail and talk, to essentially become friends first and let it grow.......no expectations just explorartion and communication..Tempting



angelic -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 7:26:44 PM)

Thank you for this upbeat, positive thread.  [:)]



akisha -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 7:42:39 PM)

I've had a online Dom as a friend for almost 10 years. we talk about all kinds of things. He's my biggest sounding board and probably my closest lifestyle friend. I'd not give him up for anyone. I've talked to his kids and he sends gifts to my little one always asks how she is doing.

I do hope to meet him face to face one day.



Ava82 -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/2/2006 7:59:25 PM)

I have met some of my favorite people online, and it was definitely a joy when I met them in person.  It's a wonderful thing when location no longer restricts interests and discussion.



raiken -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/3/2006 12:00:11 AM)

i believe  at times, all it takes is one kind thought to make a difference in a person's life.  i also feel much the same as LaTigresse does, as there are not many folks who live close, that share my way of life. 
 
Thank You All who shared. ~smile~ Just feels good to connect, helps so much to know i can reach out and cyber touch someone, especially now, that i am going through some difficult times in life, that have caused me to feel a bit lonely and isolated at times.   So yeah, nice to "read" you all. ~silly grins~
 
~raiken 



Kalira -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/3/2006 1:40:03 AM)

There is a couple that I have been corresponding with for more than 8 years; and have yet to ever meet them or see what they look like. They wrote to me not long after my husband passed away; words of sympathy that touched me like none other had. What's strange about this is the fact that we only live about 4 hours from each other, and yet, none of us have the inclination to actually go ahead and meet, or to exchange pictures. They know more about me than most of my family does, and vice versa. One day, I hope to meet them; but until that day comes, I am quite content with the friendship that we have developed over the years.

edited to add:

Raiken, I do so enjoy your posts [:)]



mons -> RE: Kindness without a face (11/3/2006 2:03:22 AM)

greetings
 
this is so true i had one master i spoke to he help me with my writing because so many were laughing and making fun of me. he wrote me and told me i had done a good job this meant more to me then so many ccomplints and sweet talk that i had he made me cry and he became a cherise dear friend to me with his help and with some of the other here i learn to take my writing slow and just learn from others how to write they help me i have seen his face but not the others. i am so smart and  i can read 3 books at a time and understand them and remember what i read. but because i did not write well everyone thought i was from another country or engish is my second language, i never got to thank the others for they wonderful help. but i can now say thank you all you know whom you are thank you so for many this an easy place to come . may god touch you life in a wonderful way .
for the master there are two i thank you with my soul so little is know how you helped me but i have a place in my heart ffor you forever.
 
mons



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