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fantasy69maker -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (11/2/2006 10:29:52 PM)
I would suggest you fix yourself first. A girl wants a Dom to be that at least Dominating ,confiedent and not just a sub girl ANY girl wants that. That dosent mean you have to be an asshole just comfortable with who you are and with a certain force of personality. A girl wants to be taken forcefully ...NOT by force! I spend a lot of time telling "Nice Guys" that! Id suggest one of the speed seduction courses by Ross Jefferies

Arpig -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (11/2/2006 10:39:07 PM)
quote: Is'nt sod grass??? Not exactly [:D][:D][:D][:D][:D][:D][:D]

WhiplashSmile -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/3/2007 6:47:41 AM)
Here's some real time advice. Find the type of clubs that Girls into kinky sex might be going to. The clubs that Punker Girls hang out at. The clubs that the Goth Chics hang out at. The places where the Death Metal or Hippy Girls go to. Your chances of finding a Girl into BDSM or kinky BDSM play will increase greatly. You will have to learn to embrace these alternative sub cultures, the music, the dress styles and everything. In short, you have to get off the mainstream club, bar or pub hopping. Make male and female friends in these new places. The more people you know, and the more things you do with them beside going to the clubs, increases your odd as well. You just might find what you are looking for at some afterhours party or friends will try to hook up you with somebody you are looking for. Social networking in the real time.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/3/2007 6:50:25 AM)
I'm sure there are PLENTY of submissive women on here from your neck of the woods, but you have to bump into 'em first. The fact that you don't always get a reply is just how it is.....welcome to the internet. As for compatability, or lack there of....did you think it'd be easy?. How come. You need to get noticed; make sure you have a half decent profile, post in your journal so that people browsing profiles know you're alive and doing stuff and read the message boards as and when you can and post replies. And take your time and be PATIENT.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/3/2007 8:31:36 AM)
peeped your profile and you haven't mentioned what you seek in female submissive only that "being a dominant is a such a turn on" for you. for a submissive's pov, it would seem you're only looking for kinky sex and/or play partners. what are you offering to your potential submissive, etc? personally as a submissive, i would be hestitant about meeting a Dom who's willing to relocate.

velvetears -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/3/2007 8:39:40 AM)
Move

KaineD -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/3/2007 10:50:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl peeped your profile and you haven't mentioned what you seek in female submissive only that "being a dominant is a such a turn on" for you. for a submissive's pov, it would seem you're only looking for kinky sex and/or play partners. what are you offering to your potential submissive, etc? personally as a submissive, i would be hestitant about meeting a Dom who's willing to relocate. Surely, if all I were looking for was kinky sex and play partnets, then my profile would be all sex, sex sex. It's not. The messages I send aren't sexual either. I thought putting "willing to relocate" would make me more accessable. For the right person, I would move to see them. Not very far, just over to England or whatever. As for "what am I offering". I'm not sure what I'm supposed to say to that. What does anyone offer in any relationship? Seriously... I don't get what I'm supposed to "offer". Will offer potential subs- Long chats about comic books. Evenings in watching horror movies. A nice collar and a pair of handcuffs?? shrugs

drawntothedark -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/3/2007 11:23:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aine quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar Since I've seen Anie I quit actively seeking also. To the OP check your home page. I have talked to women from your area in chat. Is'nt sod grass??? Not quite sure how I should take that..... raises an eyebrow I think he be cyber flirting with ya ;) To the OP don't give up. There are plenty of us girls around all over the globe. You will find yours, it just takes time.

MissyRane -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/3/2007 11:51:59 AM)
I'm just a girl standing in front of a boy...I'm sorry this just popped up in my head when I read the topic name - forgive me!!![;)]

KaineD -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 4:10:21 AM)
sambamanslilgirl, I'm curious about what you have to say. Why is "willing to relocate" a bad thing? And what exactly am I supposed to "offer" subs in my profile? 'Cause I think thats kinda silly.

Dnomyar -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 4:50:01 AM)
Me try to flirt with Aine. Guilty as charged. To the op. If your willing to relocate then you dont have much to offer at all.

KaineD -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 5:40:54 AM)
I don't think thats true. It's a giant assumption to make. Just because someone has ticked willing to relocate doesn't mean they're desperate. It could just mean that for the right person, they'd travel a little.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 5:48:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD sambamanslilgirl, I'm curious about what you have to say. Why is "willing to relocate" a bad thing? And what exactly am I supposed to "offer" subs in my profile? 'Cause I think thats kinda silly. for me "willing to relocate" would have to mean, you already have a job lined up and a place to live ...that you won't be living off me until you find something. i wouldn't want a Dom who expects me to support, house, and feed him. seriously, all you have said in your profile is being dominant is a turn on ...being rough, forceful, spanking etc ...you love going to the gym and travel around Europe. well that's fine and dandy, so tell me why should a submissive like me (if i was seeking) should pick you? what make you the right Dom for me? why should you be worthy of my submission? are you getting the hint? are you offering the submissive a ltr (long term relationship) or are you looking for a play partner? are you someone who's seeking a monogomous or a poly relationship? what type of submissive are you looking for? are you man of honesty, integrity, etc.? not apologizing, but your profile screams "look out, ladies, i'm a "dom" and seeking kinky sex only". good luck, young man.

AquaticSub -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 8:35:54 AM)
Valyraen met me at college. Your best bet may be finding a woman you like in a "vanilla" context and see if she likes BDSM.

AquaticSub -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 8:40:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD As for "what am I offering". I'm not sure what I'm supposed to say to that. What does anyone offer in any relationship? Seriously... I don't get what I'm supposed to "offer". Will offer potential subs- Long chats about comic books. Evenings in watching horror movies. A nice collar and a pair of handcuffs?? shrugs Actually, if I were looking, I would like to see those things in a profile. Comic books tells me you have at least in an interest in the geekly world so there is a decent chance you would understand "Sir, I really need to go kill things now... ", something that is important to me. Also, horror movies means you might have an interest in bad horror movies (or at least it would allow me to ask that and give us somewhere to start talking from). I like to know I have some compatiable interests outside of kink.

ForgeDesire -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 2:04:14 PM)
Look at all these nice people trying to help. It is too bad the negative first responder(Jasmyn) only offers to call you a weirdo. Think before you type you negative insulting people.

KaineD -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 4:13:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD sambamanslilgirl, I'm curious about what you have to say. Why is "willing to relocate" a bad thing? And what exactly am I supposed to "offer" subs in my profile? 'Cause I think thats kinda silly. for me "willing to relocate" would have to mean, you already have a job lined up and a place to live ...that you won't be living off me until you find something. i wouldn't want a Dom who expects me to support, house, and feed him. seriously, all you have said in your profile is being dominant is a turn on ...being rough, forceful, spanking etc ...you love going to the gym and travel around Europe. well that's fine and dandy, so tell me why should a submissive like me (if i was seeking) should pick you? what make you the right Dom for me? why should you be worthy of my submission? are you getting the hint? are you offering the submissive a ltr (long term relationship) or are you looking for a play partner? are you someone who's seeking a monogomous or a poly relationship? what type of submissive are you looking for? are you man of honesty, integrity, etc.? not apologizing, but your profile screams "look out, ladies, i'm a "dom" and seeking kinky sex only". good luck, young man. Well fair enough I could define more clearly what I am looking for. But as for putting in if I am a man of honesty and integrity? I'm not putting that in my profile. The only way a person could know that is by talking to me.

OhBeMyMind -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 5:11:55 PM)
welp...IMO you could always mention that honesty and integrity are important to you. There are other ways to incorporate things rather than saying ...I am....

Griswold -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 6:24:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KaineD Hey, how is everyone? I'm from Belfast in Ireland. I'm not having a great time here at collarme. There are just no sub girls in this country using this website. Most girls around the UK, half of them aren't to my taste, and hardly any respond to my messages. How do you guys usually meet girls? I mean, do you go out of your way to find sub girls when you're out in a club or something? I need help. I've no experience in the Dom scene despite the fact that I've always been immensely turned on by it. I've had two girlfriends, the last one didn't like the idea of sex at all never mind the things I have in mind. The first would have been horrified. What should I do? I really want to meet a girl my age or younger thats into the same stuff I'm into. I'm not even very picky. She doesn't have to be a 24/7 sub or a pain slut or anything like that. I suspect it's all that subversive fighting and shooting and all that kind of shit. (But I could be wrong).

SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: I'm having trouble just finding a girl (4/4/2007 7:02:29 PM)
I don't know, maybe it's just me, but I would probably stop calling women 'girls.' I could be wrong, but that just smacks of immaturity. Secondly, if you don't put what you are looking for, what you have to offer and why someone would want to date you in your profile, what the frig is it there for? I certainly do agree with the go out and try and meet people real time. Sadly i have a job that precludes me from that, but if you are able to, it's certainly a great wayto meet people, and network. Lastly, for those saying Willing to Relocate shows that th person has nothing to offer, are you serious? I'm fortunate, I have a job I can do anywhere, and would have no problem switching companies, industries or geographical locations. I don't have any commitments in my current area and would like to live in different areas of the country, so I have plenty to offer and plenty of prospects, regardless of my current situation. Hopefully the rest of the people on the site aren't as close minded as to assume that one being able to relocate means they aren't worthy of consideration.

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