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Noah -> RE: Stealing another Master's Slave (10/31/2006 7:12:46 PM)
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ORIGINAL: submarriner
Another point of view,
Inviting someone to consider changing their circumstance is similar to one buisness raiding another's employees.
All things are similar. The question is whether the comparison sheds useful light.
Anyone who turns out to feel that the ethics of intimate personal relationships should be guided by concepts of business ethics should be sold--cheap and quick--(dumping depreciating assets) before anyone bothers to try stealing her.
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Is it unethical for buisness to offer a better compensation even though a contractual relationship is entered?
Yes. It is both unethical and unwise.
If you offer me inducement to break my current contract to enter into one with you, you are announcing your belief in the worthlessness of contracts. If I contemplate taking your offer I'm a fool to expect you to honor your contract with me. In the same light I am a fool not to expect you to require me to violate ethical and probably legal limits while in your employ.
That said, what a nice thing it would be if businesses did indeed honor contracts in just the all-too-common way you are recommending that they disregard them.
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If you consider a marriage, a collering, or an employment is maintained upon the principles of mutual ensured committment, the parties will stay in relationships that provides the most happiness.
On the other hand, if you consider that vows are distinguishable from farts, the parties may proceed on entirely other bases.
Your ideal, I suppose, would entail the spouse of the newly diagnosed terminal cancer patient fleeing with the first person who threw really bitchin' parties? Both parents of the newborn handicapped child absconding in favor of "happier" prospects?
There will hopefully come a time in each person's life when he discovers that there are values and meanings which eclipse by orders of magnitude your guiding principle of "happiness."
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If a Master/Mistress ensures emotional happiness and support, most offers will be rebuffed, with a polite no thank you.
If you believe that one person can ensure another person's happiness, then I'm not surprised if you believe things like: people should interact as corporations do. In fact maybe there was no point in responding to your post. The differences in our points of view may be too great to allow any significant understanding between us.
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If emotional support wanes, consideration of more viable relationships will result. [/quote}
If emotional support wanes, consideration of possible causes and solutions, and concerted effort to move toward solutions, are--believe it or not--real world possibilities. Another possibility is that this engaged, active approach to maintaining a treasured relationship through a period of difficulty will be undertaken with zero energy expended on sizing up other relationships to monkey into.
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A consideration for all to seek the emotional needs of your partner through communication and love, while avoiding selfish comsumption of your partner's emotional resources. On the other hand some invitations are just boorish psuedo-masculine attempts feeding insecure egos.
I'd like to suggest that to recognize your partner as a human being capable of error and forgiveness, faithfulness and compassion is both more clear-eyed and more beneficial to both parties than to envison her as a mechanism, as in: "If emotional support wanes, consideration of more viable relationships will result," or as an economic unit.
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