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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/26/2006 8:22:03 PM

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Some people in life are simply unsure of themselves. So, they reach out and come here in order to get assurance...or not.

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/26/2006 8:24:26 PM

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/26/2006 10:42:54 PM

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I agree that some of the questions just make me go wtf!! However I think this type of forum gives those who actually are sincere about the wtf questions somewhere to ask and hear real information.

Unfortunatly with the advent of the wonderful world o cyberland there are many on both sides of the collar who really have no idea what they are doing and can cause actual (not good) harm to others.

One of the things that impressed me and continues to impress me about cm is the number of people who are real, do not play online only and have a true grip on reality.

Not all of us had the advantage of asking "stupid" questions starting out, were suckered into believing what we were told and possibly began to question ourselves as to if this life was where we belonged and if so where we actually belonged.

Now, that all being said, I will admit to having days where my answers are less than snarky. However I have also emailed some who I felt I was harsh to and appologized to for my lousy response.

Fortunately when I am having one of those posting moments there are others who respond in an honest benificial fashion.

I guess all in all new people need to have somewhere to start, and an interactive forum is one of the best places to do that.

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/26/2006 11:03:43 PM

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i'm convinced some of the questions are are of the "Common consciousness" variety. Wanting to be a part of (whatever) like getting the inside joke.

Remember when Leno and Letterman almost had dueling joke-lists about crashing Windows? Workplace convos turned to crashing windows like it was "oh yeah, everybody who is in the know crashes windows alla time" thing.  But that wasn't enough, you didn't just crash windows, it wiped out your entire hard drive! Oh damn, hate when that happnes.

Most people have figured out that it is pretty hard to crash windows and have your entire hard drive wiped out, but it had became a common consciousness thing. You weren't cutting edge, computer savvy or learning to be, until your hard drive was wiped by the evil villain Windows. Unless you'd moved on to crashing the internet, or an AOL install killed your computer for good.   (ergh?)

i think a lot of the posts are falsefied ways of announcing what people are embarrassed to announce to strangers... "wow! I'm really talking to a Dominant (or submissive) and they LIke me! and I am afraid i might mess it up, but if i mention it here, it makes it real, help me pinch myself by including me in your discussions by helping me solve a deep problem."   Even if they have to make up someting that seems like it could be a real issue.

Where else can they go to say pinch me, is this real? (yes, it's probably real, and if you're smart, run now!   it might only get realer.)

(disclaimer: use of "you" and "they" are generic terms, not directed at anyone in particular, even myself.)

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/26/2006 11:26:01 PM

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I think 'wtf' alot. But with that first question....I can understand someone totally new and totally clueless posting that question. And I also have to say that I would walk even 4 steps behind him at a public or private play party if he wanted me to. Though he probably would not even ask me to do that. But you know how play parties can be and what a show they can be. Strict protocol and rules can be fun. He would never ask me to do that in a regular public venue for sure. And like I said he probably would not even ask me to walk two steps behind, let alone punish me for it in a public venue like that. :)

The other questions just floor me...lol. The online Dom thing was a hoot...because I think the person posting was playing games and everyone really got into it. She had to start a few threads on it to make it seem fresh. I think people have too much time on their hands, me included...lol.

But I have gotten some good things from the forums as well. I guess you take the good with the amusingly bad.

Another thing that floors me is how worked up some people get over things. But I have seen that on other message boards as well. People are people. :)

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/26/2006 11:40:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: Owned1

I agree that some of the questions just make me go wtf!! However I think this type of forum gives those who actually are sincere about the wtf questions somewhere to ask and hear real information.

Yes, the 'I'm bleeding from the ass and I came to collarme to ask what to do' and other assorted questions of that variety have caused me to say WTF on more than one occasion....

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/27/2006 12:35:55 AM

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No disrepect intended. No malice. Just _perspective_

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Now, I'm a sub *in your world*. Always have been. It's my natural inclination; I just like to let other people take the lead, both in and out of the bedroom. That doesn't mean I'm a doormat *doormat to you is not doormat to someone else* with no thoughts or opinions of my own *my slave has many of her own opinions and thoughts - those thoughts and opinions are for me to use or throw away as I choose*, or that I don't assert myself when it's called for *subs have the option of saying "hey, no, safe word, stop" _slaves_ (my small corner of the world) do not.*; it's never occurred to me that I should be any other way. *why would it? maybe u can think of it now*

So it's a little strange for me when I see posts from subs asking questions like the following:

My master says I have to walk a step behind him in public. Is that true? *some do some don't why do you judge those that would ask it? It's not your dynamic it's theirs*
My dom forgot to lock my apartment last time he left. Is it okay for me to say anything about it? *your dynamic, theirs - no universal answer*
I didn't get a job I wanted. Is it okay for me to be upset? *for -ME- good god this ought to get it going - I don't give a rip about how u feel - just do what I say - I don't expect a person to get 100% of the jobs they apply for - just get over being not accepted for 100% of the jobs u applied for.*
My online dom won't let me leave him. What can I do? *be a sub not a slave* *Most Dom(me)s are not owners - meaning those they have are there by choice. If someone is a slave either by name or action thats their gig.*

Now, don't take this the wrong way, but these seem to me like awfully silly questions. *silly is as silly does* And maybe I'm just completely off base and asking questions like this is all part of people's submissive fantasies and I'm being a big meanie by poking holes in the magical kinkosphere. But is there some reason we can't be submissive without completely abandoning the good sense we were (hopefully) born with? *that's the way you see it and there is nothing wrong with that - just like there is nothign wrong with someone else doing what they need to do in another way*

etc etc etc.

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/27/2006 2:56:26 AM

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Um.... should I get upset with him when he makes me lock my doors?

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Ok...so, when I posted this, it said "in reply to wolfie" but it's not really "in reply to wolfie." I was just reading the thread and thought I'd post at the bottom of it. (just so wolfie doesn't think I'm saying this in regards to what she said).

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/27/2006 3:58:51 AM

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I don’t see where you think it is so farfetched that a Dom could make a sub do these things willingly? I understand your incredulity and it is not my style to dominate anyone in this fashion, but it would be easy. The newer the sub, the better.

“My master says I have to walk a step behind him in public. Is that true?”
Some here have already explained why they think it is no big deal.

“My dom forgot to lock my apartment last time he left. Is it okay for me to say anything about it?”
I could say something like, Yes, I know I did it, but I don’t want you correcting me. It is not conducive to the D/s relationship. She would buy it in a heartbeat.

“I didn’t get a job I wanted. Is it okay for me to be upset?”
Ooooh, a classic. I would tell her that she has to focus on what matters in her life and the relationship should be above anything. She has to put mundane things in perspective and realize all that matters is her obedience to me and the relationship. Easy.

“My online dom won’t let me leave him. What can I do?”
The fact that she is online and accepting discipline means that she is going to be suggestive to anything the Dom tells her. Do you think I can make a woman wear a butt plug, masturbate at a certain time of the day, write she is my slave 500 times, yet not have the power to make her believe she can’t leave?

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RE: Suspend disbelief, not common sense - 10/27/2006 4:10:11 AM

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Hmm, the one I am with now, when I first met him, I can remember asking him if he minded my quirky sense of humor and the fact that it popped up at the most inopportune times.
Having spent alot of years before him with just one other, I was constantly asking him 'stupid, silly' questions, not to mention asking strangers the same kind of questions.
It had nothing to do with a lack of common sense and everything to do with trying to guage how others would respond to certain things/questions; I then applied my own common sense and took what I thought would work for me.

There are some who come here and do ask the most asine questions; those you can usually spot 10 miles away. And yet, others who come here, ask questions like'
"My master says I have to walk a step behind him in public. Is that true?" who truly are looking for insight into something that they are as of yet, unfamiliar with.

I don't see this as a lack of common sense, but as a search for understanding. They come here, ask what others perceive to be 'stupid, silly' questions, and hopefully, they leave with a slightly better understanding of things.

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