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Question - 10/18/2006 2:33:00 PM   
MistressSassy66


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The question is with all the other crap in the world going on why do you feel its vital
to post negative things about Pro-Dommes who are not causing any harm to you?

I can think of other things we should be getting rid of...like for instance pedifiles.

Perhaps if you found a charity you could help out,I'm sure it would be better received than the Pro Domme bashing you do here.Find another hobby or something that makes better use of your time.Do some volunteer work helping out those less fortunate than you.If you have nothing but Pro Domme bashing to keep you going well...I guess there really is no hope for you and that is truely sad.

Yes I am a Pro but I am a Lifestyle Domme also,Its not a switch I can turn off.
Whether you choose to like it or not Pro Dommes are here to stay,We offer a valuable outlet for a lot of people.We are not whores We are Professional Women
who can run Our own business doing something We like to do.

Okay so that wasnt so much of a question as it is a mild rant or more like why?
are Pros such a big friggin deal here.I just dont get it. Live and let live...isnt that what tolerence is all about?Wouldnt you rather be remembered as a tolerant person oppossed to someone who always passes judgement....


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RE: Question - 10/18/2006 2:38:04 PM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		Why? Because we must always be judging others to feel good about ourselves and especially if something is directly affecting us and Pro Dommes are an easy moral target.

Personally as long as they are up front and honest about it, more power to them.

Lin


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RE: Question - 10/18/2006 2:38:44 PM   
ToGiveDivine


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Status: offline 		Some people are just mean for the sake of being mean.

If you are an honest, respectful, and upright Pro-Domme, then just assume they don't mean you in particular.

Sometimes people post mean-spirited stuff just to get attention (Oh, say it ain't so ;-)

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RE: Question - 10/18/2006 2:40:04 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I have no problem with professional female domination...

I personally believe that if it were not for professionals such as yourself many people would go throughout their lives never having experienced or having fulfilled needs that could not be met in any other way. I do not understand the animosity toward what it is that pro-femdoms do, but I think it is partially based upon people that feel this should be left within a relationship structure or play.

I believe this was elucidated in another thread, but should be repeated here, women having power over their own sexuality and the sexuality of men is very intimidating for not only the men themselves, but to some women too...I would not be to affected by this....


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RE: Question - 10/18/2006 2:40:16 PM   
subjected2006


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Status: offline 		It is my personal opinion that we get what we pay for in this life.
That may be a "bitter pill" for some.
Especially  if they have a tendency to whine anyways.
just sayin'


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RE: Question - 10/18/2006 2:41:11 PM   
ToGiveDivine


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ORIGINAL: toservez

Why? Because we must always be judging others to feel good about ourselves and especially if something is directly affecting us and Pro Dommes are an easy moral target.

Personally as long as they are up front and honest about it, more power to them.

Lin




Wow, this made me feel good - I answered the same way you did.

Since I'm constantly impressed with your posts and the intelligence and common sense in which they are written; I feel I may have gotten this one right ;-)

Editted - this was a sincere compliment, not a suck-up flattery note as it seems to appear as I re-read it LOL

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RE: Question - 10/18/2006 2:43:42 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		There are certain ones here who thrive on focusing on certain things. Mostly the same people are rude about it. I personally do not have a problem with Pro-Dommes. I have a problem with someone who clearly doesn't know what they are talking about insulting others and being nasty.

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 3:49:22 AM   
Focus50


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From: Newcastle, Australia
Status: offline 		Even though I've never (till now) posted "negative things about Pro-Dommes", I've certainly met a few r/l who I have little respect for.  I'm actually talking about one vanilla and two fem/subs who perpetrate fraud in order to make a buck at the expense of what must be fairly pathetic male subs desperate for some form of attention.
 
Is it any of my business?  No!
 
Do I out them or at least post crap about alleged pro Dommes in general?  No!
 
Frankly, I know a sub when I'm in the presence of one and I've gotta think most of the.... errrr.... clients must also know the real deal too!  But if some phony garbed in leather and 4" heels is barking the right sort of commands and doing something for them in general, I can see them overlooking any flawed fine detail.  Hell, I can think of a few fem/sub friends who have had male subs try to convince them that they're really a Domme but don't know it....
 
Do I think phony Dommes are a blight on the lifestyle?  No!  Phony Doms wreak far more havoc....
 
But do I respect phonies?  NO!
 
For those Dommes who can both live it and get paid for it - more power to you, I guess....  Truthfully, I'm not sure if I pity or envy anyone who can dominate without personal, intimate investment in the one being dominated.  My BDSM has always been about who I'm sharing it with rather than what is being done; which makes it my pleasure, not my job....

Focus.

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 5:19:18 AM   
Jasmyn


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Status: offline 		Phony dommes wreak as much havoc if not less than phony doms .. .the world's full of people who are full of shit ... the first mistake is labelling them dominant

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 5:22:30 AM   
Jasmyn


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quote:

For those Dommes who can both live it and get paid for it - more power to you, I guess....  Truthfully, I'm not sure if I pity or envy anyone who can dominate without personal, intimate investment in the one being dominated.  My BDSM has always been about who I'm sharing it with rather than what is being done; which makes it my pleasure, not my job....


This is such generalised patronising crap ... there are fecking hundreds, literally thousands of people who dominate without personal or intimate investment in the one being dominated .. at least a pro domme can be honest about what you'll get and why

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 6:39:02 AM   
Arpig


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quote:

I can think of other things we should be getting rid of...like for instance pedifiles.


What do you have against keeping records of peoples' feet?

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 6:47:22 AM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		oh WHY did I have to be drinking my coffee right at that time.  No spewage but definite coughing here LOL

Actually I know of a nice foot fetishist who might like to incorporate that.  In his rolodex instead of face pics next to contact info he can put toe shots to make a pedifile. 

To the OP:  Yea, there are definitely more important things to stress over.  But it gives people something to do. 

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 7:39:20 AM   
Lorelei115


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Status: offline 		At one time or another pretty much EVERYONE gets bashed on the board for some reason. Being Pro, being too old, being too young, being overweight, being underweight, being a certain race, religion or creed, being a switch, hell even spelling certain words with a "w" instead of an "r"!

Its just one of the foibles of being human to judge others. I'm not saying its right, but its never going to go away.

Just keep telling yourself.. its only a forum.. its only a forum....

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 9:30:48 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Pro Dommes are an easy moral target and we are not???

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 9:37:47 AM   
Lorelei115


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Status: offline 		edited to nothing because I give up.

And also 'cause I misunderstood the last post. Apologies!

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 9:44:02 AM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		personally i dont get why people are funny about pro domme work i say all power to you i can thhink of worse things to do with my time

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 9:47:48 AM   
WickedlyDevine


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Status: offline 		Couldn't have said it better myself, to each their own (within reason) and be respectful of such..... Some posts and posters you need to take with a grain of salt.  Consider yourself a a specialized caretaker, you are meeting others needs and making them super duper happy in the process :p

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 11:45:52 AM   
WhipTheHip


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Status: offline 		Greetings,
 
I have nothing against Pro Dommes who are sexual sadists and enjoy
what they do.  I think too many Pro Dommes have no interest in bdsm,
and just do it for the money.   There would be nothing wrong in this
either, if they were honest about it.  But many pretend they are 
interested in bdsm just to make a fast buck.
 
Then again, I have rather dim view of most people who are always
super dominant.  They tend to be takers, not givers.  They tend to
be demanding, controling, assertive, and aggressive.   I am an
easy going person.  I don't like people trying to control me,
or acting aggressive with me.
 
On the other hand, I can be anything in the bedroom.   This
doesn't mean I don't know who I am.  This just means I'm
flexible in this area.
 
Cheers,
Michael
 

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 11:50:48 AM   
WhipTheHip


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Status: offline 		A lot of subs get little or nothing out of hiring a Domme who is
just going through the motions, and just doing everything for
the money.  Pro Dommes who are not into bdsm are really
cheating their clients.  The Pro Dommes on collarme.com
are likely all exceptions.  The Pro Dommes that I know
wouldn't waste their time here, because they have no interest
in bdsm.  The few that do, are really subs who find acting
the role of Domme can be lucrative.

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RE: Question - 10/19/2006 12:06:13 PM   
raiken


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

Okay so that wasnt so much of a question as it is a mild rant or more like why?
are Pros such a big friggin deal here.I just dont get it. Live and let live...isnt that what tolerence is all about?Wouldnt you rather be remembered as a tolerant person oppossed to someone who always passes judgement....



Ah! i say off with their heads (or in the case of a male, off with their cocks! *grin....sorry guys)!  Or, to be nicer, simply hit the delete key, for those type of folks just don't know how to get over themselves or their self righteous attitudes. 
 
After reading the insecurity thread, i would have to say that you pro dommes cause those who are not secure enough within themselves, to be very intimidated and threatened by your self empowerment and confidence to go after what it is that you seek, while using your best natural means to do it.
 
Jusat keep on keepin on, it feels good to see that there are those like yourself who feel confident, secure and empowered to "BE" just who they are with no pretense or fear from those who do not have the capacity to respect diversity in humanity.  For me, diversity is the very essence of spice in life.   i also know of some mealy minded women who just can't stand the fact that other women take the initiative to go after what it is they desire, but i won't get into bashing the bashers. *grin  Even though i AM in the mood for it! LOL!. 

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