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CreativeDominant -> RE: Strategic planning or Blitz attack? (10/18/2006 7:10:29 AM)
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
A comment on another thread has me asking this question. The comment was that a warm up is needless work on the part of the top because the bottom will end up enduring all that is given anyway. So in thinking about it, I can see where the end result might indeed be the same, although I personally believe that would be primarily in the physical sense and may leave the mental or emotional fulfillment aspects lacking.
I have seen Dominant/Tops who have a style that appears to be very thought out and planned. They have the end destination in mind and follow an intricate roadmap to get there. A mix of sensations, touch and interactions that indicates that the two of them are on a the journey together. On the other hand, I have seen Dominant/Tops that seem to have a more "Blitz attack/throw everything I can at them" approach. Submissive on the cross (or whatever) and Dominant thrashing away at them....but while they may be on their way to the same destination...they seem to be taking seperate vehicles to get there. While both methods may indeed have them all arriving at "Point B", the course is really very different.
Do you take either of these types of approaches....or a mix of both? What is more fulfilling for YOU and why? Submissives, your thoughts too please?
I like both approaches. There are times when I will work the ass cheeks up slowly to a nice, even darkish pink color with bits of red starting to show through before I begin to "get going", then after a spell of the hard going, coming back down and checking on her, touching her in various spots to soothe her and/or to check sexual reaction, then building again but on a quicker journey to beating sub meat. There are times though when I just start right out at the high level and then work my way down and then back up again.
To me, it is sort of like looking at it like a variance of sexual encounters: sometimes you and your partner want to make slow, langorous love...other times you want to go at each other like nothing more than two animals in that rare heat...the heat for each other and what each brings to the fury of a sexual union that will not be denied.
For me...as for you mist and others...going just one way would get sooooooooo boring.
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