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RE: Dommes, chastity and sexuality - 10/13/2006 6:29:28 AM

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RE: Dommes, chastity and sexuality - 10/13/2006 6:36:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
I have noticed that it seems that many Dommes require prolonged chastity in their subs/slaves. I am not sure where this comes from

When I've read this anywhere in my mailbox, it has come from men who have some anti sex kink who tell me that the way to control/enslave him is by locking him up and never allowing him release. I don't understand that kink, but more importantly it is absolutely incompatible with mine which says my man/wife will cook, clean and put out frequently!

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are many Dommes simply asexual or in possession of low libidos?...or maybe they don't like to have sex and by taking control of the sexual habits of their men they find it's a good way to avoid having it?

As others have said, sometimes it's a power thing, but I'm one who understands or practices this power play. I intend to control my man's sexual habits, but it will not be through deprivation and denial.
I know this is a common thing, and have always wondered about the reasoning behind the fact that so many dominas say "you will never touch me;" but the fact of the matter is that there is no shortage of sub men who subscribe to that form of domination and seek it out. M

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RE: Dommes, chastity and sexuality - 10/13/2006 6:41:32 AM

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Women, in general, if put into chastity lose their sex drive and have trouble regaining it. So maledoms don't normally use this on a femsub as they would then be having sex with someone who was obviously not enjoying it, and talking about what color to redecorate the room in during sex. Do you want to have sex with someone who has no desire for you?

Men generally do not, they become more focused on it and on pleasing the person who controls it. Which is why long term chastity is not usually used on women and is on men.

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RE: Dommes, chastity and sexuality - 10/13/2006 7:11:10 AM

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are many Dommes simply asexual or in possession of low libidos?...or maybe they don't like to have sex and by taking control of the sexual habits of their men they find it's a good way to avoid having it?

My Method is -Specifically for effect- I enjoy setting a 3 day NO SPURTING rule before the submissive meets wtih Me in person - this also works online.

The effect is that they will more eagerly anticipate
My arrival
since I am the one who grants their body the wish of Orgasm.

I encourage them to stroke as much as they can stand in the days previous to the meeting, but without actually cumming if I have not given them that precise permission.
.. Accidents and mistakes are dissapointments, to the effect that time together may be curtailed or disciplines put into effect for the transgression - the double edge of honesty here boys.. shows your inner demons as well as your intent to sincerely do as One bids you, looks good on your resume' . *snickers*

Daily? I'd rather they stroked and spurted at least ONCE each day so they don't have that urgency that distracts them all day - just another boring day for them - (if they aren't Owned and dont' have to obey My direction) sucks to be them, but at least they stay physically able and interested in spurting !

One sad little soul, (which aside from the self imposed affliction of not being able to make himself cum with any ease,) was a jaunty service oriented submissive, local, with endearing potential - yet his affliction, perhaps brought on by his first Mistress's demands of constant Ruined orgasms & no orgasm chastity, was such that after she left him he had to milk himself occasionally to ease the buildup and release the seminal fluids in an unpleasent and unwanted action.
he actually could no longer . . perform, and since I do like to see proof of a male's interest and attention - I was forced to back away while he deals with that unnatural situation. his mind & body are in a rut he can't break out of yet.

I do -not- want to see others in that same situation.

GIRLS are different in that they need to become freer with their passions, be more at ease with their bodies - and yess, it is easier to teach them to cum on command!
So I help female submissives discover different ways and places for play and guide them to more frequent Orgasms.. it's satisfying to Me as well - I'm the Naughty Big Sister type anyway.

I am rampantly sexual & sensual - I Own My Primary & I share -
sexy is good, fiesty is fun, intence is a passion just waiting to be unleashed!

Tha6's how I run chastity.
I encourage more submissives to give their clear opinion on this.

Always the best Diva~Zya

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RE: Dommes, chastity and sexuality - 10/14/2006 8:18:51 PM

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It doesn't seem like long-term chastity would be so healthy for a males reproductive system..unless he is "milked" regularly.

IE..prostrate stimulation/emptying.

To me....lovemaking is an essential part of a mles spiritual life...so It would have to be something of a short-term nature for me.

I do think its erotic and can make you more attentive to your Mistress however.

The more comfortable the device is..I think..the easier it will be to comply.

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RE: Dommes, chastity and sexuality - 10/14/2006 8:33:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Ok...before I get slammed...I am NOT trying to be a smartass here...I really am curious. I have noticed that it seems that many Dommes require prolonged chastity in their subs/slaves. I am not sure where this comes from. I don't understand why anyone would wish to deprive their partner(and themselves in the process) of the expression of their sexual nature.

It is a rich fantasy experience for many male subs--it is not all imposed by the domme. Most dommes learn to use male chastity and the attendent devices, however, because it creates an enormously intense experience for their malesubs, both emotionally and physically.

Essentially, a chastity device is to the human penis what a blindfold and bondage are to many femme subs. It deprives you of some sensations/gratification, perhaps--but enormously intensifies the emotional realm of submission, and of course the sensations when the penis is released are super intense both emotionally and physically.

*shrug* How long the deprivation may go on depends on the mistress, her innate sadism and hunger for control, and the strength of will and depth of masochism her submissive has. Some men want and need fairly extreme levels of humiliation, feminization or deprivation before they are emotionally and physically satisfied. Binding and controlling that one most unruly part of their bodies is a very powerful experience--one which they long for and beg for.

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RE: Dommes, chastity and sexuality - 10/15/2006 7:53:17 AM

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Firstly i would like to say congratulations on your pic mistoferin, very tasteful and you look superb.

i personally think chastity is a great form of control, especially in the Femdom arena as it is commonly known men are much more helpful and useful when horny so if you control that you can get more out of him. Also as stated it doesnt mean the Women goes without, infact She should have more orgasms than ever in the hope She eventually reciprocates for the man! It is the ultimate headf*** (unsure whether swearing is allowed here lol!).

Take care

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