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Steelriven -> To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 1:32:12 PM)
Hello everyone, I've found a topic I'm very curious about to know everyone's thoughts. Would you rather... A. Plan out a scene ahead of time, knowing when, where, and how it will happen? What will be used, and what will be done? Or B. Just let impulse, improv, and creativity take it's course? Me? I enjoy both. The thought of Sir telling me, and reminding me all day what's going to happen. The anticipation, of knowing it's already planned and waiting to happen. I also like the surprise that comes with just going into it. Thrown into the rush of things, adrenalin striking before I can think.

LotusSong -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 1:51:32 PM)
In the VERY beginning.. I would plan out EVERYTHING. Then I would go over what I planed on doing to Slave with him. He then OKed things or declined whatever he didn't think he wanted to handle at the time. Then I went ahead. After a number of years, I knew him well enough and the sessions were spontaneous.

DOM33416 -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 1:58:26 PM)
I would agree that more time together allows you to be more spontaneous with a partner.

zebrastripes -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:05:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've found a topic I'm very curious about to know everyone's thoughts. Would you rather... A. Plan out a scene ahead of time, knowing when, where, and how it will happen? What will be used, and what will be done? Or B. Just let impulse, improv, and creativity take it's course? Me? I enjoy both. The thought of Sir telling me, and reminding me all day what's going to happen. The anticipation, of knowing it's already planned and waiting to happen. I also like the surprise that comes with just going into it. Thrown into the rush of things, adrenalin striking before I can think. Both and depending on who I am with. I am not in a LTR, so planning usually takes place even if I am knowing just ahead of a scene. In an LTR, the element of surprise is erotic.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:17:35 PM)
Depends on the scene. I never plan EVERYTHING out because that's just silly. But if you're doing a wax scene, you need to prepare your space, get your supplies, practice up and be ready. Or if you're doing a 3 day no break imprisonment/interrogation scene, there's a lot to prepare for. If you're just doing a fun scene that doesn't require any real pre-thought or just going with the supplies you have, then you can just go on impulse.

mstrjx -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:19:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zebrastripes Both and depending on who I am with. I am not in a LTR, so planning usually takes place even if I am knowing just ahead of a scene. In an LTR, the element of surprise is erotic. This cool avatar would say the same as the cool avatar quoted. The only thing I would say different is that once that LTR kicks in, assuming it's live-in or something nearly equally delicious, then there isn't that much time between scenes TO plan. But with so much goodness to choose from, it's easy to make no two scenes alike for a long time. Jeff

ownedgirlie -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:32:48 PM)
From the very first time we were together, Master has an idea of what he wants to do, and lets the rest fall into place naturally. I am rarely privy to what will occur, and find out as it unfolds. Unless of course it is something he wants me to prepare for, physically or mentally. Typically he prepares me for "big ticket items" over time, and all I know is it might happen....and then again it might not.

CrappyDom -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:35:05 PM)
I am very anal and love planning out scenes but the hottest scene I have ever had not only was unplanned I had never done anything like it and went places I never knew I could go.

liljoy -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:41:04 PM)
i never know what is going to happen. i imagine Sir puts some thought into it but i'm pretty sure He doesn't outline every detail. The one time i have asked what was going to happen He told me to just be ready for anything. That's what i do lil_joy

ownedgirlie -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:43:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: liljoy The one time i have asked what was going to happen He told me to just be ready for anything. That's what i do I get that, too. Or, "If I wanted you to know, I would tell you." I don't ask anymore. I am always surprised. I love that.

MsIncognito -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:48:58 PM)
As a bottom, I prefer B. I don't care if the top has spent days, weeks or months planning everything down to the last detail, I still prefer to feel like it's spontaneous in the moment. Trying to get me worked up by telling me about things in advance usually has the opposite effect to what is desired. Instead of being all abuzz with anticipation it usually puts a damper on my enthusiasm and I adopt a "OK, let's see if you can actually deliver on that" attitude. Can you tell that I've often been disappointed when it comes to the execution? LOL

Jasmyn -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 2:51:18 PM)
Often find scenes run off on their own tangents and enjoy the spontenaiety

Devilslilsister -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 3:09:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've found a topic I'm very curious about to know everyone's thoughts. Would you rather... A. Plan out a scene ahead of time, knowing when, where, and how it will happen? What will be used, and what will be done? Or B. Just let impulse, improv, and creativity take it's course? Me? I enjoy both. The thought of Sir telling me, and reminding me all day what's going to happen. The anticipation, of knowing it's already planned and waiting to happen. I also like the surprise that comes with just going into it. Thrown into the rush of things, adrenalin striking before I can think. i've always experienced B but i would love A - it would so totally help with my anxiety at the start of scenes.

MasterC46910 -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 3:16:36 PM)
I normally have a outline as to what I plan to do but I like to leave room to change the "game plan" as I see fit depending on the reaction or lack of from the bottom.

OhReallyNow -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 4:03:33 PM)
*this slave leaves such decisions up to the whims of her owner :)*

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 5:19:47 PM)
Generally, I like to plan. That way I can have everything in order for the scene I am intending to have. What I really love to do is plan it all, but not let the sub know exactly what is going to happen. I have even pulled a mind phuck on occasion while talking on the phone. I would talk extensively about something that interested Me, such as forced feminization. The sub would conclude that since that seemed to be on My mind, that would be part of the upcoming scene. Then, I would do something completely unrelated. I also love having the sub beg Me for hints about the upcoming scene, but I won't budge. Other times, I do like to be spontaneous and just do something totally unexpected. Sometimes, I will sitting there, an idea will pop into My mind, and I want to do it right then and there. More often than not, I am a planner, though. I just love playing the scene out in My mind over and over again beforehand. (Yeah, I sit through some pretty boring meetings at work and this entertains Me, LOL). And I love knowing that I know what is in store for the sub, but he doesn't [sm=smile.gif] Lady Topaz .

TxBadMan -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 5:30:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steelriven Hello everyone, I've found a topic I'm very curious about to know everyone's thoughts. Would you rather... A. Plan out a scene ahead of time, knowing when, where, and how it will happen? What will be used, and what will be done? Or B. Just let impulse, improv, and creativity take it's course? Me? I enjoy both. The thought of Sir telling me, and reminding me all day what's going to happen. The anticipation, of knowing it's already planned and waiting to happen. I also like the surprise that comes with just going into it. Thrown into the rush of things, adrenalin striking before I can think. If it is going to be a public scene, then I plan ahead of time. If it's something that happens at home, its spontaneous.

gardenbluebird -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 5:54:38 PM)
My Master plans very throughly, but he doesn't tell me what his plans are. He will often check and see what my mood is beforehand and will give me the occasional hint. It gives me a sense of security that he knows exactly what he is going to do and that he even thinks through my possible reactions and how to respond.

LadyHugs -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 6:34:15 PM)
Dear Steelriven, Ladies and Gentlemen; I am flexible in any plans, as when they're so rigid you cannot take advantage of the moment. As far as 'scene' strategy; if it is going to take supporting props that make the scene more exciting/real; I need time to create the props; e.g. juicy fruit/mellon, clean apron, bloody apron, apple sauce in plastic wrap, hardboiled egg and such; I need them in order to do a 'medical scene' that is more mental than physical. If it is going to a party solo or to a public dungeon; I am good to go with the spur of the moment. I'm going to work with a slave/submissive's body language and not make it rigid. If I have a second's notice--I use nothing but my hands, my voice and my mind. (Not like I don't have some toys in the ole Domme Mobile) Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

diamonddreamlove -> RE: To plan, or not to plan. (10/8/2006 6:53:53 PM)
Sir shares some of the things He is planning as a tease. However i never know for sure when it will happen. He may wait until we arrive where we are going or He may discuss it with me on the way to the scene. Some days He just says be there and do this before You get here or maybe even ask me to surprise Him with what I am wearing. LOL I am actually looking forward to being able to wear a long coat again cause i do plan to do some surprising.

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