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LadyEllen -> RE: BDSM Opportunities (a RANT) (10/5/2006 5:48:16 PM)
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Ah Lotus! Slight snag!
I had the marvellous idea to start a social in my town - its on CM events somewhere (Worcestershire), so I advertised it, and even my profile basically has only the details for the proposed meet.
So far though, after three months, its basically going to be me, two couples and apparently half the single male population of the county! If the two couples dont manage to turn up, its gonna be me and two dozen guys.......... Even for me, this is a little worrying, for reasons other than how daft it would be - but I shudder to think of the dangers of some young Lady starting a meet like this, and ending up with anything from one weirdo guy to two dozen weirdo guys as her company for the night. I dont think I need say more, (but I will, as usual).
And guys please - I KNOW you're not all weirdos, but it occurs to me that those weirdos who are known as weirdos in their area and are thus banned from venues, will not necessarily be known as weirdos or be possible to have identified as weirdos (since if you are starting a group, ergo you dont know the weirdos or know of the people who know who the weirdos are), by said enterprising young Lady, and since they are banned from venues they will be more than pleased to learn of somewhere new where they might not be known, and take full advantage of that to indulge their weirdness with said lone entrepreneuse. Obviously there is weird, and there is weird - not in a "I'm not into that" way, but in the "call the police" way.
Of course normally, said young Lady would be wary of being somewhere alone and wary of what was going on around her - but in this instance as the organiser she maybe wont have a friend to accompany her or have the time and presence of mind to maintain her usual wariness. Naturally its a social setting so not much is going to happen, in front of witnesses, but still a lone young Lady is vulnerable to weirdos.
Young Ladies please - ignore Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Unless you are a special forces unarmed combat trainer, you are not going to be able to do a great deal if some weirdo decides youre his next victim, apart from scream and run (they expect a kick to the nuts by the way, so go for the shin if you have to, as that really hurts and you can then run better than him). The plain fact of nature is, the average guy is just much bigger and much stronger than you. Dont get into the sort of situation you might regret.
I wouldnt want to frighten anyone with this sort of stuff, but I think its important to take this sort of thing into account if youre female and you start some sort of meet. Be very careful. Do what you would do for any normal date, and check out the people who show interest - converse with them a little, before they get details of a venue and time - only give them these details if you are fairly sure they are sane, balanced people. And remember, if youre female and you advertise this sort of meet - then just as if you have a female profile on CM you get bombarded with emales, as a female organiser you are going to get the same response - mainly from males.
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PS - anyone who has messaged me regarding the Worcs meet, its coming dont worry! Those who have had a response - yes, you're invited as you seemed (at least so far!) sane and balanced. Those who have not had a response, well, sorry but I cant take chances.
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