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MissJennifer001 -> RE: Observations about female subs.... (10/3/2006 12:22:50 PM)
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
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The people I'm talking about are the ones who feel that being treated like a slave is the only way they can be loved.
Can you tell me how you came to this conclusion about most of the submissives that you have seen in the lifestyle? I can understand the exterior judgment of the behavior of attention seeking Jerry Springer types as being overt and obvious... But this is a more intimate and internal judgment on submissives in the general and not the specific.
Did you ask them this? Or was there something in their behavior that clued you in that there was no other way to be loved other than by being a sub/slave? I am just curious as to how your opinion was formed... not snarking or judging it....
Good question, Julia. These are observations I've made from personal interactions and relationships and also from talking to people. And as I said in my last post, I'm very keen to pick up on people's true motives in most situations. I would never pressume that anyone is this way upon first meeting them, but after a little time it's easy to read. Here's an example: I met a woman at one of my parties who had volunteered to help out (bartending, watching the coat check or whatever was needed that night). After her duties were done she had begun to play with a couple in attendance. Being the voyuer that I am, I watched their scene with great interest. The girl who had joined them immediately got into her sub-space and the scene was incredible. She came back to our parties often and played with this particular couple everytime. During play and scene related things she seemed so together and sure of herself, but after hanging out with her a few times outside of scene related events it became obvious that she had extremely low self esteem and couldn't understand why anyone would want to play with her or be involved with her in any way. So that's an example of where this observation has come from, Julia. And just to finish up, the sub in my example have become close friends and I am doing my best to help her see all the great things about herself that she can't see. And even though she makes it very obvious that she would like to further our relationship, I can't, in good conscience do it for fear that she is just latching on to me the way she does with others she seeks that type of attention from.
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