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charismagirrl -> RE: Taming the tongue (9/29/2006 12:54:20 PM)
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ALot of other posters said things that brought some lessons my Daddy has taught me to mind.
The first time we ever spoke on the phone as friends and "prospectives" i ended the conversation as i normally would with other ppl (it's since mostly been removed from my speech and never again have i used it when hanging up with my Daddy)
The statement was...."Okay, well i have to get to sleep so let me let you go." To which i was quickly corrected and told how it was really a manipulative statement. Instead of saying that i had to go i was throwing the ball at him and making it seem like he needed to go, thus not taking the responsibility for myself.
There were others that escape me now, since i haven't used them since being scolded and taught about them, but the point is to chose your words carefully and to say what you really mean. my Daddy is teaching me to think twice and speak once. (or act once) Because i will be held accountable for my words and actions. (the word part is sooo difficult)
As for profanity...lol..it's almost comical...but the first time i said something like "That muther f**ker." i thought my Daddy would come unglued...he actually appreciated it and was proud of me because it is one of his expressions and i was using it in the proper instance.
my tone and such are always respectful and sweet toward my Daddy so i'm mostly allowed to say what i want within respectful perameters.Occasionally i'll slip with something, like the day he was yelling at a car in a parking lot and i jokingly made a sound like a cat roaring and he quickly said "young lady that is no way to speak to your Daddy...save that expression for your giflfriends" Usually though he wants me to be relaxed and talk to him.
The other thing that always squirrels me is meeting new ppl or new situations...i can really have a sharp and sarcastic wit which most ppl love in me or just don't get (no in betweens)...It's my way of trying to joke and tease around with ppl and show my personality. In these instances my Daddy has told me to always be quiet and polite at first until ppl get to know me....to say the least ammount possible until i know where i stand with them. This is hard for me cause i feel like the ppl aren't meeting "me" ..but i do it and everyone always remarks on how shy i am (well DUH- i use my humor to cover that part up)
Now if i can just learn to not say BUT or JUST...lol
Sorry so long [:)]
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