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CreativeDominant -> RE: question? (9/25/2006 6:01:11 PM)
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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl
Safewords... never used em! lol Tho there isnt any pride with that = ) Never been an option before. Ya know, i had a safeword 2 or 3 weeks ago in the public setting which was "i'm gonna kick your ass mutherfucker" That was my safeword, because i knew when i reached the point of WANTING to kick some ones ass, i'd be done. That's my limit when it starts to hurt too much and i can barely take it - i get abit pissed = ) Course it didnt pop out of my mouth. LOL
LOL - i should prolly try using something like with any other public scenes. Not something calm like "red" or "blue" but something that i can vocalize how i feel in the heat of the moment. Because as it seems to be, i'm not a calm quiet girl when it comes to those public scenes. i stomp my foot, i stick out my tongue, i tease, i have witty things to say, i act like a brat, i laugh, i hollar, i make TONS of noises, i dance around i'm told, i even use my restraints to suspend myself in mid air...
i think when with the last toy that was used, every time it landed i said "oh snap"
but see, my question wasnt on the scene. Cos i had fun and it was all good. My question was how to get past an inside barrier of not being able to communicate appropriately. Though, i dunno. i think Top Cat has it.
and i dunno.... i dont think there is anything wrong with pushing yourself. Its prolly all i was doing, was pushing myself. I think if one is in a safe enviroment, all ground rules - formalities laid out, with experienced and intelligent ppl around - its okay to push yourself. Plus, i think its interesting to see how far some one can go. I enjoy pushing myself though i do have a tendency to push myself abit too hard at times. Ie when i'm working out, the only time i slowed down was when i thought i was i going to pass out. (course i've learned since then to EAT before hand and i dont reach that spot)
As far as you Creative - i think its wrong to blame anyone else for something that was wanted. We are ultimately responsible for ourselves, aye?
interesting thread to start when one is beyond exshausted! Tho i do appreciate everyone who helped put it straight in my head. i didnt do anything wrong = ) Which of course was my concern
I agree with you in that it IS wrong to blame someone else for something that was wanted...but even you and I agreeing on that would not have stopped the cop from throwing my ass in jail if the submissive in question had decided to call. It's a good thing that you look at it that way...but not all do. Which is why I believe in communication while it is going on and honest communication...not something said so that the dominant keeps going when the submissive feels that "maybe it'll be O.K....even though it feels like I am going to pass out and I taste blood in my mouth that I am sure is coming from my gut". Not a slam on you, Riot...pushing yourself is O.K...but things CAN turn out bad and a trip to the E. R. is not a good way to end the night. As julia said in another thread...safewords are just another form of communication and I do not always use them...hell, for me, when I say safeword maybe it would be better if I just said "communicate" with me.
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