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RE: Fishing and bait? - 9/22/2006 11:38:01 AM

PrimitiveLogic

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Thank you all for well thought out responses. This thread was a good example of considering different aspects without anyone having to defend or attack. I appreciate you all.

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RE: Fishing and bait? - 9/22/2006 12:35:33 PM

Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

What I always wonder is why they think having the sub do the fishing is a good idea. Chances are, other subs looking for a master arent going to be perusing submissive female profiles...
Or at least thats the thoughts that always occurred to me...
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Hello A/all,

My first sub fished constantly for subs to scene with us / be with us
as a beta submissive. I was accepting. I wont say I didnt enjoy it, but it was more because she wanted it than it being something I was demanding.

My second sub was monogamous. She didnt fish. I didnt ask her to fish. My own personal tendency is serial monogamy.

Either way was fine with me.

Just me, could be wrong, etc.

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RE: Fishing and bait? - 9/22/2006 12:59:55 PM

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This is something non-poly people do not understand, and it's frankly amusing to see non-poly people explaining poly people's actions... all the rationale, and all the conjecture... usually based on their own non-poly insecurities. What happened to the old "it's not my kink" attitude as opposed to explaining the kink by those who do not enjoy or practice it... but often deplore the kink?

In my own personal experiences, it is something I allow my bi-sub to pursue... not something I demand she pursue. It's totally consensual between the two of us for her to seek a second female for play, or to join our household if that be the case.

The bottom line in reality is that the females will need to be compatible in many more ways, so effectively it's easier for them to conduct an initial weeding process. It also pleases them in most cases to be allowed the opportunity, as opposed to taking whoever the Dom may decide, whether she be compatible or not.

Covert "fishing" by stealthy Doms? Nahh, that assumption is not the typical scenario for a couple seeking a second female. Granted, there are pimps who's livlihood drives a need for them to instruct one or more of their "girls" to function as a recruiter to keep their workforce staffed. The latter would more so be the exception rather than the rule.

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RE: Fishing and bait? - 9/22/2006 2:58:29 PM

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i would understand if after awhile the master/mistress/etc. would show up and introduce themselves...but there are times when it's just the sub/slave/etc. pumping up how great their partner is to the extent that they sound like some sort of superhero. as with anything there probably is a right way and a wrong way to go about it. and extremes are never a nice thing to go to.

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RE: Fishing and bait? - 9/23/2006 2:48:56 PM

TNstepsout

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I reiterate, i was not forced, i was not asked, i liked pussy as much as he did!

Jealousy and insecurity are emotions i did not then nor do i currently suffer from.

A poly home is about LOVE, love that each shares with all in the family. The more love you give away the more you have, it is funny how that works.

I wasnt' actually responding directly to you. I just posted to the thread but it said I was responding to you. My point was not to question your motives, but to offer another possible motive for Doms who do this.

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RE: Fishing and bait? - 9/23/2006 3:39:03 PM

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He initially set up the profile- I am the one that really maintains it.
But the reason is- -I- want another female in our relationship and he thinks I deserve that.
I will admit to seeing some profiles where it seems pretty obvious that the Master/Do/Domme/etc is the one who REALLY wants it, but I have also seen otherwise.
Also, niether of our names are mentioned- I am T. and he is M. it's a matter of privacy. I posted pics of both of us, because well, it seems silly not to post both sides of the coin if things go that route, eh?

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