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pqwinny -> Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 6:36:16 PM)

I went away last weekend with my best girly-friend.  We caught up on a bunch of stuff, had kids around the same time who are now grown and know just about everything about each other EXCEPT....dun dun dun... *dramatic reverb* my newly discovered (just this year) submissive side and the nature of my relationship with my Sir (whom i refer to by His first name when discussing Him with her).

I've considered telling her but tested the water in a couple of ways and have determined she ain't ready yet.

This brings me to the point.  Why is what we do called kink? .. which according to Ms. Webster (ya know, Miriam) is defined as:

1 : a short tight twist or curl caused by a doubling or winding of something upon itself  this fits WIITWD <grin>
2 a : a mental or physical peculiarity : ECCENTRICITY, QUIRK b : WHIM  hmmm, don't care for this one
3 : a clever unusual way of doing something oh, yes!
4 : a cramp in some part of the body we are certainly prone to this
5 : an imperfection likely to cause difficulties in the operation of something as in surgery?
6 : unconventional sexual taste or behavior  being submissive has not at all affected my sense of taste
 
During the morning commute it hit me that i resent having my life, or aspects of it, considered outside of normal by definitions prescribed by the self appointed normal people any time i find myself making a life choice that isn't representative of a simulation of Katie Couric's life.

I'm normal for me! 
Just a rant, i guess but feel free to comment if ya got one.



Frank01 -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 6:42:52 PM)

A totally normal person would be abnormal. [&:]



mnottertail -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 6:45:52 PM)

I just don't get it tellin' everybody everything I know, my daughter who is of unmentionable status, saw a whip and a riding crop hanging on my door,

Dad, what is that stuff for?

In case I ever get a horse.

I don't give a fuck if she gets to be 87, she has her answer and the only answer she ever needs.  Now, she has been instructed in the biological aspects of human intercourse.  But when it comes to feelings and emotions, nobody should have to draw an intricate map of the human psyche, it is like getting in the middle of a divorce, it ain't pretty and you ain't going to learn nothing anyway.

Why does everyone got to have these hinkie conversations?  Say what it is to adults, and leve it go, and the people who have not finished their public education yet, have no need of too private a one.

Draw some of your own conclusions about life for fuck's sake, I ain't the red cross out here, type a' thing.

Ron



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 6:55:35 PM)

This is the feeling I get after a long kink convention.  I get really angry at not being able to just be OUT, and wanting to just yell at people to get over it, it's not a big deal and fuck it all.

But it passes.  Living life is all about finding a balance about being true to yourself and working well with others.



velvetears -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 6:56:35 PM)

The word normal just means "being within the norm". In that sense men with mustaches are not normal.  Having green eyes is not normal etc...  You enjoy what you do and know it is right for you. What does it matter whether it is seen by the outside world as normal or not?  In fact if someone is normal in all aspects of their lives then this in fact isn't normal, cause most people aren't, therefore NO one is normal! lol,... did you follow that logic lol.  Just be happy and forget labels - all they do is confine.



pqwinny -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 7:05:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

This is the feeling I get after a long kink convention.  I get really angry at not being able to just be OUT, and wanting to just yell at people to get over it, it's not a big deal and fuck it all.

But it passes.  Living life is all about finding a balance about being true to yourself and working well with others.


99.9% of the time i could care less what anyone thinks of anything i do or choose.  i think this nerve got struck out of the frustration of knowing that if i chose to talk with my friend about it on our trip, it would've become a 'thing'...i know it will pass.  Everything else has...people who know me are pretty accustomed to me 'spinging' stuff on them and the ones that matter get over it and are still in my life. 



crouchingtigress -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 8:23:33 PM)

Every group is has been maligned, the focus of slander or hatred, or enslaved by other groups, it is kinda what groups do; put lots of energy into differentiating themselves from all the other groups.
 
When i look at what some religions, familys, tribes, races and cultures have put themselves through as in their struggle for groupness, i think we kinksters have had it fairly good, to be honest.
 
 



angelina1 -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/21/2006 11:50:37 PM)

What on earth has this got to do with any of us? We are all sensible enough to work things out for ourselves. I assume that you have some personal beef with this person as this message is also plastered all over your profile too.

Beats me why a Dom would send a Mistress money in the first place.

As to the OP. I too thought that perhaps I was not normal and kept things hidden from those close to me. However on a couple of occassions when I have let it slip the response was "OK, I thought you were going to tell me something terrible" So perhaps it is not as "abnormal" as we think.

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WhipTheHip -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/22/2006 11:59:42 AM)

Normal is what you find towards the center of the bell curve.  An IQ of 100
is normal.  Geniuses have an abnormal IQ.  Great people are not normal
by definition. 
 
Personally, I don't think bdsm is rational or sane.  Then again, I don't
sex in general is rational or sane.  If someone was perfectly rational
like Officer Spock or Data, they wouldn't have much interest in sex.
 
Sex is a primal, reptilian, animalistic craving.
 
Wht gets me the most about many black, gays, women and
people into bdsm is how judgmental and intolerant they can
be.  You would think persecuted minorities would be more
sensitive, more accepting, and less cliquish, but this just isn't
true.



agirl -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/22/2006 2:13:32 PM)

I haven't ever resented anything at all about how my choices are viewed...In fact my relationship and how it's conducted has raised less of an eye-brow than other aspects of my life. Maybe it's a case of expectations.......I don't expect or even wish for my choices to be acceptable or even understood....it's not a matter of significance at all.

If people know me, they eventually may know many *things* about me....either by a natural exchange over time, by observing or by asking.

Maybe I don't understand the desire that people may have to *share*  things with friends.

agirl









NastyDaddy -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/22/2006 2:16:22 PM)

To many, normal is sitting on a washing machine--during the spin cycle... ok, so throw in the other tennis shoe please! [;)]



BD123 -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/22/2006 7:35:33 PM)

aMEM



thisishis -> RE: Normal is a setting on a washing machine (9/22/2006 7:52:27 PM)

Normal is a setting on the washing machine, and i prefer agitate, any day of the week..



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