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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/13/2006 9:55:55 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		I happen to like oral sex both giving and receiving,but that's me.

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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 12:09:12 AM   
ayasha


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Status: offline 		If this one wanted equality, one would have stayed vanilla.  That is why it is called Dominance and submission - because it is not equal.  That, my dear, is the beauty of it. 

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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 12:15:08 AM   
slave4Darby3d


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Status: offline 		Equality and D/s is an oxymoron.

By nature the D/s relationship isn't about 1 for 1 reciprocation - it is the desire of the Dominant.  The sub is there to sub-mit.

Sounds like you may have a vanilla relationship with D/s elements - or a not very well defined D/s relationship.  Either way - you need to discuss the parameters and expectations of your relationship, vanilla and otherwise, with your D.


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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 6:55:30 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slave4Darby3d
Sounds like you may have a vanilla relationship with D/s elements - or a not very well defined D/s relationship.  Either way - you need to discuss the parameters and expectations of your relationship, vanilla and otherwise, with your D.

Who are you referring to?  Kimmy said in the OP that this was based on a discussion that was brought up in another forum, not a personal issue she's dealing with.

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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 8:05:23 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 8:24:18 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		Dear Kimmysue,
It is entirely possible to find a dom who loves performing oral almost as much as he likes receiving it...  But darling, you are going to be sorely disappointed looking for equality in a D/s relationship.   Your best bet is to find a dom with similar interests as yourself, that way you will get what you want while submitting to his desires.   M


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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 8:33:37 AM   
OhReallyNow


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quote:

Why is it some Dom's require oral service from their submissives, but will not reciprocate the same?

i would like to stress that this is my opinion, and my opinion ONLY
in my experience, and with what i myself am comfortable with, it is not within my decision to dictate what Master will and will not do for ME. He is not there to pamper me, i am here to serve HIM and him only.
quote:

Is it above a Dom to go that extra mile and give the "kitty a lickin'"?

of course not. there are times that Master requires nothing from his slave excpet that i hold still and let him do that which he wishes. it may be oral, it may not be.
quote:

Is it fair?
of course it is fair. i am a slave. i am there for his pleasure, in every aspect of the relationship. If Master wishes nothing more than to use his slave like a whore, then that is his decision, and i am happy to be of service to him.
 
his pleasure is what makes serving him so beautiful
 
Again though, i would lke to stress that this is only MY opinion and what I am comfortable with through my own experiences.
 

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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 9:00:22 AM   
amuzingtoyou


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Status: offline 		I don't think there is any handbook out there on how a dominant is supposed to behave. It really depends on how your relationships is structured. And finding someone who works within what you want out of a relationship. If you want a dom to lick your kitty, then find a dom who enjoys doing that. Seems pretty simple to me. Although i would hope the relationship is based on more then how many cums someone recieves and how its given. Is it fair for a dom to not want to lick a pussy? Sure its fair if its not what he/she wants to do. So instead of trying to change someone, find someone who meets your needs.

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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/14/2006 4:31:49 PM   
velvetears


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Status: offline 		D/s isn't about equality. If you want that stay vanilla.  That being said, we all do want to have or needs and wants met, this is why picking a partner that matches you is important.  Any smart dom will realize that if he has a loving submissive who pleases him well, he will want to keep her happy.  Any smart submissive will realize that if her needs and wants are being neglected she can leave.  i would not want a dom i could dictate to what i wanted/needed  but i surely would not want to stay with one who always neglected my wants/needs either.

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RE: Equality in D/s - 9/17/2006 1:53:27 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Equality hmmm had this discussion with my Dom last night to a certain extent.  W/we are equal in that W/we both must wish the relationship to exist and consent to O/our roles in the relationship.  He however decides where, how and what W/we do.  Usually i am allowed freedom to express my feelings with respect, however His word is final.  If He wishes me to suck i suck ummm love it and if He wishes "His desert" that is also His decision.  When He collars me His word will be forever my command that is the equality of O/our relationship.  Fortunately He also 'spoils' me by encouraging and in fact demands that i use my brain in O/our relationship.  He says He can always find someone to play with but quality comes with a brain!


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