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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 5:41:31 PM   
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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/13/2006 7:05:09 PM   
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I have felt attractions after "talking" with someone online for a brief while and not having any idea what she looked like. I can tell her intelligence and sensitivitiy right away as she can feel mine enough so that we both believe we have a "connection."
And then what happened?..The connection broke with first meet?...Tempting

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/14/2006 12:42:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		...the draw...the thread that you never saw before but somehow has tied you two together until you met...

I knew him as soon as we started talking...so natural...so easy.  When he walked across the parking lot the first time we met I felt such a surge, a rush.  He walked right up and gave me a big hug.  I have never felt more safe and at home than in his arms.  And it has just continued to grow.

Now, that being said - had I let the swell of the initial overtake the pace of any budding relationship I would have missed out on something truly deep and wonderful.

Enjoy the connection - but be very careful to keep your head about you.  There is some amazing chemistry out there that can masquerade in many forms.  Allow the chemistry, and the subsequent discovery of each other over time, to take it's natural and logical course. 

each day...a gift...

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/14/2006 12:57:13 AM   
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It was a bitter, lonely time for me, and I was not in the mood for anything partaining to girls, boys, relationships.

He said a few words, to which I remember standing spellbound like a classic idiot with my mouth held a-gape. Thankfully I recovered and we eventually talked more.

Which led me into the absolutely wonderful triad I'm graciously, jubilently involved in today. Purr! :)

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/14/2006 1:50:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

I have felt attractions after "talking" with someone online for a brief while and not having any idea what she looked like. I can tell her intelligence and sensitivitiy right away as she can feel mine enough so that we both believe we have a "connection."
And then what happened?..The connection broke with first meet?...Tempting


The connection carried on into real time. So I do think you can feel things about someone very fast talking online.

Here is one thing about real time "connections" that do bother me. I'm sure many of us have had someone look at us real time and say they feel an instant connection without us having spoken a word. That has happened to me and, frankly, that kind of thing makes me nervous because I wonder if she knows what I'm really like. Will I spoil her concept by being myself?

I've experienced a vanilla " more than a friendship" at work that began with few words being spoken and I've never quite understood her attraction. I keep thinking that I will mess up her view of me in some way and that has always made me keep a slight distance and look at her in a kindly, bemused way.

She knows nothing of my personal life and BDSM bent. It is an unusual connection that I'm not entirely comfortable with. I've often thought if I could get her online for one night, I could figure all this out. LOL

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/14/2006 2:51:19 AM   
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i do believe it i lol felt it thorugh my  computer now i know it sound so strange but it is way a person write i can tell if they are shy or a liar and i have never been wrong i do not know if anyone else can do this but i knew he was safe new and shy he was a great sumbissive
 
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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/14/2006 3:30:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		one could fall in love with a Male - but that does not mean that they can be this one's Master.  one does not choose to live a vanilla life, or a life with someone that can not 'Master' this girl - so..................love at first sight doesn't really mean much here.  What one would prefer is to find someone that can be a Master to one; and have the love develop over time. 

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/14/2006 6:32:27 AM   
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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/14/2006 8:20:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		this happens with friendships alone as well. i have met people that i click with both romantically(only once with those though) and friendly/kindered spirits. sometimes the feelings go, sometimes it stays. i belive we all grow(or most) continuosly in life and sometimes the feeling can change to one person progressing while the other being stagnent and hindering the other person or not being invovled with their life anymore and others can be less understanding. i think you should just enjoy the moment and see where life takes you two.


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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/15/2006 11:31:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think there may be something to that.  Had you asked this question any time before 3 months ago I would have sworn against it...now I am not so sure.  In the end...I think it's more the ability to recognize compatibility as opposed to love...

In that case...things can advance far more rapidly when questions that normally come up don't have to be answered...because the answers just kind of present themselves.  In the end it's probably much easier to fall in love with the idea of love at first sight...than for it to actually occur.  

I am by no means a relationship expert...but to me it's fairly easy to tell when interests line up at least initially, and when things are worth/not worth exploring further.  Getting caught up in a love at first sight mindset means that trust may be granted much sooner than it is earned...and then it's a gamble that things will work out from there...and I am not much of a gambler.

From a personal standpoint...as much as I would like to take a leap of faith and hope things work out...I don't think I could ever allow myself to do so all at once and right away...because anyone can be someone they are not for a brief period.  However, over time, people are who they are.

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 7:17:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		i experienced a similar situation recently....keep your emotions in check and do not confuse love for lust......sometimes they just up and disappear which can be an emotional disaster

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 9:04:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I believe we each have our mate. The one we are destined to belong to. We know this in the deepest part of ourselves. This can be dangerous, because we have such a strong longing for him that we search for him and oftentimes mistake others for him.

So even though "wishful thinking" may have lied to you in the past, and other people warn that you should be careful and may be making a mistake, you must take a leap of faith. Yes, you might be wrong. Yes, you might get hurt, badly hurt. But wouldn't it be a greater tragedy if, because of fear, you kept yourself from him to whom you belong, and the love and happiness you were put here to experience?

Faith is something you believe in, even though all logic and evidence speaks to the contrary. I have always had faith in my Master. And yes, I have made many serious mistakes. When I saw Master for the first time, I recognized him. I knew him to be Master. There was a voice inside of me, and no doubt voices outside of me (friends and such) who said "Don’t do this, you will only be making another mistake because of your longing." I stuck to my faith and called the voices liars.

Within 48 of first speaking, I took that leap of faith and made a lifetime commitment to this man who is my Master. It is the greatest thing I have done in my life. I am now what I was destined to be – Master’s woman.

Here is a poem I wrote many months before Master wrote to me:

He, whom I have loved since I became a woman
He, which for want of whom, made me what I am today
He, with whom I can I can become all I am destined to be
He, who alone can make me whole
He, who dwells in my heart
He, whom I have walked beside for lifetimes
He, for whom I have been searching
He, for want of whom, I have damned fate and circumstance and myself
He, whom I know but cannot see
He, whom I have tried to find in the faces of others
He, who knows the depths my soul
He, with whom I know no shame or fear
He, in whose embrace I am free
He, that can take me to places unimagined
He, whom I would support and nurture
He, to whom I wish to give everything I am
He, whose pleasures I would serve to my dying breath
He, who fills me with pride
He, who fills me with desire
He, to whom I must give my love
He, who has always been and always will be my Lord and Master
He, for whom I was created
He, to whom I belong
So is it really so sudden if I ask;
Are you He?

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 10:26:55 AM   
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I've never felt "love" at first sight...but I have felt "lust" at first sight.


See for me, it wasn't about lust....the lust kicked in after several hours of just "being together". We spent pretty much the whole weekend together and only ended up in the bedroom twice...the rest of the time we just sat and talked about anything and everything.

For most of the weekend, sex wasn't really on our minds. But when it happened it was awesome :)

I think that's what really got me....the fact that sex wasn't such a big part of things.

That said, over the course of the weekend, I have developed quite a bit of lust for him. :) He's the first guy  in a little while that I've met who has all the physical traits I find attractive.


I think my advice is that it's very exciting you have the connection you are feeling with this man. That is an incredibly good beginning. Enjoy the connection like it's the air you breathe while he's with you for sure.
I'd also say many people can hold up an ideal for a weekend in person that is not the reality of their day to day personality and lifestyle.
Not that it should make you fearful, but just don't get too far in till you know his face to face life and style in real time better.
If indeed it's a cosmic connection proceeding at half mast won't stop the voyage.
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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 10:37:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you so much for sharing Angelique! That was lovely :)

I'm going back down to the see him again tonight, so everyone wish me well!

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 11:48:28 AM   
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I've never felt "love" at first sight...but I have felt "lust" at first sight.


Oh Yeah!


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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 1:02:19 PM   
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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 5:54:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		i have had the experience of "clicking" with people, of both genders, very quickly, instantaneously, but i never considered it "love at first sight".   i had lust at first site but i recognized that for what it was and never deluded myself into thinking it was anything more then that. 

Love takes time to develop and grow, it stays the tests of time. 

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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 6:14:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		OK, after reading through this post, the replies given and the nature of the relationships of the posters, I think we should clarify the question (with the OP's permission, of course) to:  Do you believe in love at first sight that lasts from that time onward?. After all, love IS forever, right?   This is the kind of love that lasts after you've moved in full-time and have had enough time to evaluate whether or not it was just lust or love.  After you've picked up his(her) dirty socks off the lampshade every night while working full-time, cleaning, cooking, doing all the laundry, shopping and taking care of the kids (if there be any). 

IMHO, love at first sight looks a bit grander and more enduring when you don't have to see each other each day. 

For me, lust is what keeps me involved long enough to see if love develops (after the dirty socks, etc).  I do believe that there can be an overwhelming attraction, based upon pheromones….which may be nature's way of letting us know if we are genetically compatible with each other, thereby producing children from a diversified gene pool.
Ok, I guess I'm just not a romantic at heart.  But I AM a lover!



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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/16/2006 7:30:45 PM   
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OK, after reading through this post, the replies given and the nature of the relationships of the posters, I think we should clarify the question (with the OP's permission, of course) to:  Do you believe in love at first sight that lasts from that time onward?. After all, love IS forever, right?   This is the kind of love that lasts after you've moved in full-time and have had enough time to evaluate whether or not it was just lust or love.  After you've picked up his(her) dirty socks off the lampshade every night while working full-time, cleaning, cooking, doing all the laundry, shopping and taking care of the kids (if there be any). 

IMHO, love at first sight looks a bit grander and more enduring when you don't have to see each other each day. 

For me, lust is what keeps me involved long enough to see if love develops (after the dirty socks, etc).  I do believe that there can be an overwhelming attraction, based upon pheromones….which may be nature's way of letting us know if we are genetically compatible with each other, thereby producing children from a diversified gene pool.
Ok, I guess I'm just not a romantic at heart.  But I AM a lover!



lol, this slave is reminded of a scene from 'Yours Mine and Ours' where Henry Fonda is explaining to his step-daughter what love really is. He tells her that love is not going to bed with someone, but waking up with them the next day and facing the everyday, drab world that counts.
 


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RE: Do you believe in instant emotional connections, ak... - 9/18/2006 9:35:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, allow me to clarify.

I'm using the term "love at first sight" in a slightly facetious sense, ie using it as a figure of speech. . I totally agree that "love" is something that takes time to develop and is about real-world, day-to-day interaction.

I'm talking more about instantaneous connection/feeling like you've known someone before, possibly even in another life. I'm NOT talking about lust. I've lusted after many people I've barely known.

I'm talking about meeting someone and immediately feeling that you could tell them your darkest secrets without fear of judgement.  I'm talking about immediately being comfortable being "with" someone and not feeling like you have to watch what you say or do.  It has nothing, nothing to do with lust. I'm not sure why people are even bringing that into the conversation. Lust is about physical attraction, sexual attraction, etc and that's not what this is about.

The thing I'm talking about might even be in relation to a non-romantic situation. You know how you and your best friend can lounge around the house in your pj's, not worrying about how you look or what that person thinks of you...just being totally comfortable in their company? That's something that usually takes a long time to develop between two people, but in the case of the guy I'm talking about, it's been there since the beginning.



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