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Suggestions - 9/12/2006 8:52:50 AM   
eruditegirl1


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Status: offline 		I am looking for suggestions...advice...thoughts...past experiences on how to make a first meeting special....I am meeting a very wonderful Dom for the first time...we have been talking for over 3 months...we have decided to meet....he will be coming here to Nevada.....and I really want to make sure all is perfect.....in our conversations he has giving me some suggestions...so I am basically looking to elaborate on and add to some of the plans...... Thanks to all......
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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 8:57:39 AM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		While I'm certain we can give you all sorts of tips that will make your head spin, keep a couple of things in mind.

He's given you some tips.  These are things that will make him comfortable and/or happy.  If you stray too far from that, it might seem artificial, which brings me to my second point.

You've been talking with him for three months.  He obviously likes you for what he sees you have to offer, and you him.  There's an old sports adage that covers this quite well:  Go with what brought you here.

Good luck.  You'll be fine.

Jeff

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 9:17:24 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		First meetings are already anxious and full enough usually.  Are you guys going to be sharing a room and having sex and playing also?  If so, that pretty much takes care of that.  You can also see what's locally happening that weekend, make restaurant reservations, give him a list of suggested events to enjoy.

But really, just be prepared and enjoy yourself.  Use condoms and don't get collared.

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 9:19:28 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Really, just be yourself.  And have some fun.  Best wishes!

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 9:23:26 AM   
eruditegirl1


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Status: offline 		Thanks.....
I just want everything to be perfect....I am still new to D/s.....in fact...this will be my first experience....so I am a bit nervous....just want to make sure it all goes well....I don't want to disappoint him.....he has a lot more experience than I do....and although I know he really likes me for just who I am....I want him to know how special he is .......

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 9:26:23 AM   
eruditegirl1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

First meetings are already anxious and full enough usually.  Are you guys going to be sharing a room and having sex and playing also?  If so, that pretty much takes care of that.  You can also see what's locally happening that weekend, make restaurant reservations, give him a list of suggested events to enjoy.

But really, just be prepared and enjoy yourself.  Use condoms and don't get collared.


adding to list....condoms....and no collars...lol.....
good idea on local events....I know his likes pretty well...so that should be easy to come up with....thanks LA

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 10:08:21 AM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		Sweety if it is your first I sugest you take it slow. I dont sugest any play on a first meeting in fact I advise against it. If he is a Master worth keeping he wont be trying to get you to play on the first meet anyway. Take it slow and remeber safe sane and consentual!!!!!!

Magik's slave

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 10:14:40 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Go there relax and be yourself. Try to build on what you have already talked about. Go there with expatations of meeting a good friend nothing else.

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 10:46:51 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		A first meeting is *special* enough on its own. Personally, I'd try not to add too many *making it perfect* factors into it. I have to admit that I prefer a *take it as it comes* situation with all its vagaries. 

agirl

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 11:06:10 AM   
Mavis


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Status: offline 		oh lordy..  don't set self and Him up for a fall by wanting to "make it perfect"...  "perfect" will be when you are you, and He is Him.. and you still match well.  

One thing to remember, your connection elements have grown in 3 months.  The body language and stuff will be light years behind the rest of your relationship. THAT is gonna feel weird.  Don't let it freak you. Have fun. Be safe.  and NO ax murdering, ya hear? <grins>

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 12:42:35 PM   
eruditegirl1


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Status: offline 		ok...adding to list...condoms...no collaring....and no axe murdering...
 
What I am looking for is suggestions on maybe things others have done on a first meeting that went well for them...a surprise of some sort...a certain something they did that made it memorable...etc...etc...

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 12:46:49 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eruditegirl1
ok...adding to list...condoms...no collaring....and no axe murdering...

What I am looking for is suggestions on maybe things others have done on a first meeting that went well for them...a surprise of some sort...a certain something they did that made it memorable...etc...etc...

You've already been given suggestions by the dom.  You really aren't listening to the advice you're getting here- it's a FIRST TIME, it's GOING to be memorable.  Trust me, for better or worse, you've got that one in the bag.

Bring flowers, bring chocolates, bring silk panties wrapped in a box with your scent on them, bring him a key to a Rolls.  Any kind and generous thing that you do will certainly be appreciated.

But really, keep gas in the car and be on time and it will go as it goes.  If you build this up too much, you're going to drop more when the visit is over.  Take it as it comes.

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 2:44:29 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I think it was a sweet and charming enough surprise that I was even there........LOL

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 2:53:43 PM   
Bearlee


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Let somebody know where you are?  Safe calls in place?  Be safe...tell him who YOU are, ask him for his personal info, too. (no, not SS# but real name, address, stuff you can simply check on before you check into a room together)  Help BOTH of you stay safe...  or is this behavior passe these days?
 
beverly

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 4:59:03 PM   
BD123


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Status: offline 		First meeting should be a learning experience by ahich both sides get a chance to understand eachs desires, expecations, limits, etc. A quite dinner meeting in a public place can give both time to feel each other out in person. The next meeting can be a light session and tha nprogrss at a mutual speed.

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 5:10:04 PM   
DivaDuchess


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Status: offline 		You already know it's going to be just fine ... He's told you what He like ... go with the flow and enjoy.

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 5:28:56 PM   
ayasha


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Status: offline 		If He gave you suggestions, these are things He obviously would like.  If you didn't have a connection He wouldn't be coming there to see you - don't set either of you up for failure by expecting either of you to be 'perfect'.  Be yourself as He must like what He knows of you. 

LOL the only other suggestion is to try on all clothes/shoes that you are going to wear and make sure you can walk/sit in them and that they all fit well.  Leave some time for 'down' time, don't plan every moment.  Have fun !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 6:27:03 PM   
amayos


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eruditegirl1

Ok...adding to list...condoms...no collaring....and no axe murdering...


And no STDs, either. If carnal pleasure is intended, it's good for both individuals to get screened before meeting. It's quick enough to do and well worth the minor inconvenience.


quote:

ORIGINAL: eruditegirl1
What I am looking for is suggestions on maybe things others have done on a first meeting that went well for them...a surprise of some sort...a certain something they did that made it memorable...etc...etc...


On the rare occasion I travel to meet a girl, I expect her home to be well kept and any potential distractions during my stay managed beforehand. She is made aware of the importance of detail in all things, particularly in how she dresses and grooms herself. Getting a manicure and pedicure is important, as well as having her hair styled to my liking. She is encouraged to use scented oils upon her skin and to wear raiment that honors me. When I take the time to meet a female I have chosen, she is made to understand its rarity and importance. She will be expected to expose her mind as surely as exposes her flesh. She is to bear honest witness to what her heart feels, without shame or fear of retribution.

These tenets, if followed well, support consummating a memorable and meaningful visit for me, at least.




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RE: Suggestions - 9/12/2006 7:54:30 PM   
marieToo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: eruditegirl1

I am looking for suggestions...advice...thoughts...past experiences on how to make a first meeting special....I am meeting a very wonderful Dom for the first time...we have been talking for over 3 months...we have decided to meet....he will be coming here to Nevada.....and I really want to make sure all is perfect.....in our conversations he has giving me some suggestions...so I am basically looking to elaborate on and add to some of the plans...... Thanks to all......


Hmmm....You dont mention if he is coming to your home, or if you are meeting somewhere public.

If you are planning to have him at your home, I personally would make dinner for him.  Something that you can build your night around.  Appetizer first....glass of wine...talk......entree....sip wine....talk...etc etc.  Im not a romantic myself, but making dinner and eating together can be very intimate, and it also has a very service-oriented feeling to it, without being over the top. 

If you're meeting him in a public place, there isnt much you can do, but look your best, be on time, and be yourself.  If you can think of something symbolic to bring him, go for it.  If not, Id lay low on the gifty stuff.  

Good luck. :)

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