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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/12/2006 1:11:49 PM

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Yes, but unfortunately not all people once they reach majority are mature adults. Like you I will hope that my family like him and his like me, if they do not I can hardly blame him for this, nor he blame me...I can just keep those individuals at a distance, excluding our children, they get an exemption in the "asshole" department... it is just the way it is

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/12/2006 2:20:09 PM

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Cheers all.

I appreciate all your comments so far, and hope that there will be more.

I'm not one to moderate my own threads as each response comes in, but did think that I would jump in here.

The thread, and it isn't anything about me personally at all, is about what happens 'before' there is an established relationship. Like getting to first base.

Do we need to involve others to help us make the right decision, or even get to first base?

I understand that as we 'find' potential partners in less obvious manners than in the past, that there is a sense of requiring some sort of security. And I think it's sad, but it is a part of our society these days.

I'm quite like the ones here who would not want others involved in my own decision making. If there is any backslapping to be done, I would prefer it to be done once an established relationship has begun. Until then, any and all of the details are kept under wraps.

But I'm not foolish enough to know that the scenario I describe, possibly moreso with women than with men, does have some likelihood of happening. It 'can' feel like it's one against some sort of team of people I might never meet that I have to win over their approval. Just because I choose to make attempts at meeting and relationships and things on my own can I 'expect' others to follow suit.

My intent overall is just to get ourselves thinking about ourselves and talking. Hopefully this discussion does allow us to see our little corner of the world differently.

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/12/2006 2:26:43 PM

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I was wondering in the case of unmentionables that are underage, does their input mean a great deal? (it does for me, but I do not expect everyone to share that opinion)

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/12/2006 2:28:56 PM

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You don't know about the secret "Rate My Mate" forum? ... dood, your picture is all in it.

This thread comes with the ol' optional grain of salt to prevent heartburn. But in a serious note it does reflect exlaxly what happened a couple weeks ago with the "I Fu*ked Up" thread, which of course was accidentally posted in the wrong public forum... sorry that sheot slipped out.

Democratic mate selection? Maybe it's the right idea/concern, but in the wrong end of the playing field... as it usually happens with the first inquiry of "When did you guys split up, what happened?".... then the sheot really comes out in a bigtime gush... everything about you and especially all your bad sheot!

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/12/2006 2:38:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I was wondering in the case of unmentionables that are underage, does their input mean a great deal? (it does for me, but I do not expect everyone to share that opinion)

For me it would, and did, mean a great deal! If were to have small children still at home everything would be different. My kids were my priority. If it meant I had no social life then so be it. Every part of how I lived my life was tempered with their wellbeing in mind. I still won't bring garbage into their lives and am very very picky about who gets into my personal space. I would rather make a harsh character judgement in the favour of the sanity and safety of my family than not heed some warning signs and have some wacko freak wreaking havoc and discontent in their lives.

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/12/2006 4:52:08 PM

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Time for a reality check.

Anything you share across the internet will potentialy be shared with...

Anybody the receiver confides in, this may range from close friends, their shrink, "the rest of the bar", and in Tuckermax's case the whole internet *and* the New York Times best seller list simultanously

Funny -> http://www.tuckermax.com/stories.phtml

Not funny -> http://news.google.com/news?hl=en&ned=us&q=craigslist&btnG=Search+News

Anyone accidentally within earshot of any of the above

PC's can be tapped, networks can be monitored, Webmail accounts get left logged on a cybercafes more times than you'd believe.

You may be chatting with a 14year old and the reason for your "21year hotties" recent silence is due to them being grounded while their parents pester the cops for an arrest warrant.

Even your CM account /communication /useage details can be on public record with a search warrant or in Googles cache with an accidental server misconfiguration (they happen).

Once we have the false sense of security out of the way, we can work with the positives.

Lasting Notoriety is hard to keep.

Your kink is not their kink.
People don't take your sex life as seriously is you do.

Becoming a celebrity is harder than you think.
There's a whole advertising community getting "viral" wrong more times than they get it right.
Even if you go for broke and "gerbil stuffed" Paris Hilton's toy dog on national TV at half time at the superbowl. Your name wouldn't show up in the papers until after Paris and her dog's comments and it would probably be mispelled.

Disclaimer. The last example was provided for illustrative purposes only. SuperBowl, ParisHilton and GerbilStuffParisHiltonsToyDogOnNationalTVAtHalfTimeAtTheSuperBowl are probably trademarks. The author does not condone such actions, but if attempted, please provide him with enough warning to set the VCR.

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/12/2006 8:46:25 PM

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Personally for me I do not even mention a potential with anyone except for my safety call.After awhile one gets tired of saying "uh,..well we did not exactly click...or gee he disappeared..or he did not show up//etc etc etc".So until I know it will be an ongoing relationship I run nothing by no one...Tempting

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/13/2006 1:37:46 AM

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After awhile one gets tired of saying "uh,..well we did not exactly click...or gee he disappeared..or he did not show up//etc etc etc".So until I know it will be an ongoing relationship I run nothing by no one...Tempting

Tempting, exactly.. what was a fail-out for one might be THE match for another.. and people who can comfortably make their own judgements in this area always seem to end up the happiest. :) yu go.

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RE: Seducing the committee - 9/14/2006 6:09:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

Why the confrontational reaction?

She was joking. At least I think she was, and her post made me chuckle

yup, i was typing with tongue firmly planted in cheek...very intuitive miss oceania :)

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