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RE: Do you vary your bdsm activities? Often? - 8/31/2006 7:55:10 PM

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As many others have stated my sub & I discuss various techniques, toys, positions, etc regularly. We have several things that we like to do regularly (weekly) but are always up to new experiences and sensations. We try to have a scene every weekend that usually pushes a soft limit a little further or explores something new (either a new toy or technique).

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RE: Do you vary your bdsm activities? Often? - 8/31/2006 8:21:23 PM

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We never do the same thing twice with those who we know and therefore know their Limits and just how far to go so even if they think that because the start of the session seems the same that it will change very quickly in any direction and never be the same as the last so that at no time can any of them anticipate what is about to happen or when any thing will happen that they wanted or were expecting.
With some one new we do talk and discuss all aspects of what we enjoy and what they have out in their check list long before even going any further, then once the session starts we go slow and gentle no matter what till we are sure that what they said was OK is OK.
Sessions with some one new are also only short ones with again lots of talk after that and the feed back gives us a deeper insight into them and shows us that in what ever was done in that session is ready to go in other directions as with those we know.
With the ones who we know already and who due to having to travel and used to imagine that they will get what they wish for it has takes the wind out of their sails to once they discovered we always change the sessions.

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RE: Do you vary your bdsm activities? Often? - 8/31/2006 8:24:14 PM

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RE: Do you vary your bdsm activities? Often? - 9/1/2006 3:29:24 AM

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Flogging usually ends up in the repertoire if my goal is to space her. I have simply never found a better way to space a sub in a gradual way that is fun for both of us. There are fewer days where it is not my intention to space her gently and I use tough methods that cause tears and fear with maybe a cane lashing her.

Looking at the longer term view, I change and my partner changes just as relationships change so, keeping that in mind, I do amplify the intensity of BDSM play as things progress. As trust and familiarity increase, I’m able to do harder play which keeps the excitement and sense of edginess for both of us.

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RE: Do you vary your bdsm activities? Often? - 9/1/2006 7:31:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

Flogging usually ends up in the repertoire if my goal is to space her. I have simply never found a better way to space a sub in a gradual way that is fun for both of us. There are fewer days where it is not my intention to space her gently and I use tough methods that cause tears and fear with maybe a cane lashing her.

Looking at the longer term view, I change and my partner changes just as relationships change so, keeping that in mind, I do amplify the intensity of BDSM play as things progress. As trust and familiarity increase, I’m able to do harder play which keeps the excitement and sense of edginess for both of us.

Another good reason for why I use at least one familiar activity...not only is the response one which can be determined fairly accurately but when I saw your reasoning above and thought about my own scenes, I realized that the familiar activity I pick is either one that I know will send her into "CD-land" or one which helps her to come back from the furthest edges of "CD-land".

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