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RE: What is it about Exhibitionism? - 9/1/2009 5:40:40 PM   
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As for what i like about it, well I hate exhibition for exhibition's sake. I've never chosen it on my own. I like to meld with the crowd and not stand out. Or as Chance the Gardener said in that memorable moment, "I like to watch."

But I like forced humiliation and objectifaction an awful lot. And those two things can look like exhibition if you don't know what's in the mind of the exhibiting one.

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RE: What is it about Exhibitionism? - 9/1/2009 6:18:06 PM   
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Me too, me too! I find clothing utterly constrictive and uncomfortable.  I am a nudist and spend all day nude, and only dress when I have to leave my house.
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this may sound odd but being naked isn't exhibitionism for me.  i don't particularlly like clothes.  i've spent a lot of time naked in my life and would do it more if society didn't frown on it so much.  being naked is comfortable to me. 

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RE: What is it about Exhibitionism? - 9/1/2009 7:18:02 PM   
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Exhibitionism is not necessarily about nudity, nor negative, as *society* seems to view it.  It is about attention seeking, albeit sometimes in negative ways.  Many performance artists and actors/actresses are exhibitionists, while equally as many are  shy.

Encarta dictionary came up with exhibitionism
ex·hi·bi·tion·ism
noun 
Definition:
1. attention-seeking: loud, exaggerated, or boastful behavior designed to attract attention
2. exposing of the genitals: a psychological disorder causing a compulsion to show the genitals in public

hmm don't like that one
let's see what dictionary.com has to say
ex⋅hi⋅bi⋅tion⋅ist 
–noun 1. a person who behaves in ways intended to attract attention or display his or her powers, personality, etc. 2. Psychiatry. a person afflicted with the compulsions of exhibitionism.
ok that is better

to attract attention and display....
so that makes comedians, etc, exhibitionists, doesn't it?

I looked in several other dictionaries, and most do not qualify the genital exposure defiintion as a psychiatric term.  Some do use a similar difinition of attention seeking.  As a performance artist, I am an exhibitionist.  And I have rarely looked at it in a negative sense.

If one gets a sexual thrill from it, especially nudity, in *inappropriate* settings, it is considered an aberration or disorder.


Many people get the wrong idea about nudists.  I had some friends who were trying to get up a swinging club.  Now I was not interested in that, but they offered to pay me to go and do body painting at the event, which was held at a nudist camp.  I had always been interested in going to one, so I accepted, without pre-conceived notions as to what sort of people would be there.   Imagine this, people of all ages, sizes, colors, and incomes.  There were kids there too.
Not a hard-on in sight, and I am willing to bet that the pussies weren't wet either.
What my friends discovered was that it was not about a sexual thrill at being naked, (and did not find a singe person interested in swinging) but the freedom of being naked outdoors WITHOUT a lot of judgmental gawkers. 
I ended up living there for three months.  It was totally awesome, and I still have friends from there.  I got to ride my Harley naked too. ;;-)))
I learned that clothing is an ornament, like jewelry, that distracts from who a person is.  Hair can act in the same way, as i discovered when I had my head shaved.  Now that was a cry for attention.  But I ended up learning a lot about myself, and others as a result.  But I digress.

I enjoy the power of being clothed while *he* is naked.  I also enjoy being naked, and there is power in that as well, or all those dancers would not make a dime.   For me nudity is usually about the freedom.  To feel the sun, rain, or wind on my skin, to become almost one with what nature was offering.
When I modeled for the drawing class, more than one person assumed I was just some crazy white bitch that wanted to show her body to indians.  It was at the time, my only income.  At 20$ an hour, it paid my bills, for a few hours a week. 
When I compete in a Poetry Slam, or other speech competition, I am an exhibitonist, as I am attracting attention to my work, my skill as a poet, as a public speaker, and as one with knowledge to impart.  When I win, it is that much better.  But I do't necessarily need to announce that win.   And while I may have a feeling akin to sexual arousal, it is not about sex at all. It is about showing my worth in other areas.

Just sayin'


manxy

edited cuz a definition got lost


< Message edited by manxcat -- 9/1/2009 7:20:11 PM >


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RE: What is it about Exhibitionism? - 9/1/2009 9:56:56 PM   
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I'm kind of the opposite.  I don't understand why someone would not enjoy parading their partner around naked?  I guess naked by yourself is not so much fun.  But it was definitely puzzling to find partners that were just not into it.  lol

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RE: What is it about Exhibitionism? - 9/2/2009 7:21:34 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

This is kind of a follow on to another thread in here by Susan about a Master having their sub/slave naked all the time.
I've never had exhibitionistic tendencies at all.
I could walk around naked but it does nothing for me sexually or otherwise.
If you have these tendencies what does it do for you psychologically?
Does it turn you on sexually?
Do you feel sexier?
How does it make you feel and why do you like it?
What are you thinking when you're walking around naked?


I'm a voyeur so I wouldn't know...

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RE: What is it about Exhibitionism? - 10/5/2009 2:36:05 PM   
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as u can probally tell just by looking at my profile i really enjoy it

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RE: What is it about Exhibitionism? - 10/5/2009 6:40:33 PM   
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I enjoy it personally for several reasons.  I like my body to be appreciated, and in some instances "worshiped"  I also like to tease.  I enjoy exhibitionism for my submissive for different reasons.  Most do it to humiliate.  i do it to show off.  I think submission is beautiful and I am proud of a woman who so beautifully is willing to submit to me even in a public setting.  I beam with pride in how wonderful she is, and I like the thought of how jealous everyone else is of what i have.  

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