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meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 7:38:54 PM   
FRANKINPIP


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Status: offline 		a woman i met online and then in person in vegas said she had a desire to be a sub her whole life and asked me if id be her dom. we did it and both loved it very much. i gave her a collar and she loved spanking among other things she likes humiliation and bondage ,watersports etc.
we r going to meet again and continue where we left off. she is from la and im from new york. she said she would love to continue what we did she said she not only wants it but she NEEDS IT!  what do u think she means by NEEDING IT?
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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 7:45:52 PM   
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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 8:09:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		It sounds as if she was saying it has been missing from her life and she now recognizes it as a need versus merely a desire.



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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 8:09:53 PM   
FRANKINPIP


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Status: offline 		now what is cross post? like when i want a master and sub point of view u mean?

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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 9:30:18 PM   
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As to "needs it," it seems pretty self explanatory to me.


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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 9:35:20 PM   
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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 9:56:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Whered my response go?



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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/23/2006 10:00:39 PM   
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must be getting late

It might be nothing more than pretty talk.  You might want to ask HER what she means by it, if your really that interested to know.

paraphrased, but close enough

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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/24/2006 2:46:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FRANKINPIP
what do u think she means by NEEDING IT?
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I guess she'll die without it.

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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/24/2006 6:53:52 AM   
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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/24/2006 8:14:49 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wolfie648

quote:

ORIGINAL: FRANKINPIP
what do u think she means by NEEDING IT?
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I guess she'll die without it.

D (owner of j) 

Actually, that isnt far from the truth.  Or maybe a better description is that she would not exist without it.
If you are 'a' submissive or dominant - the only thing that makes you that,  is the fact that you are dominant over or submissive to someone else.  Without that dynamic, you wouldnt exist.  You may feel submissive and feel dominant - but would not make them more than feelings.
 
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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/24/2006 4:53:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		It means she really really wants it, so much that she feels that without it her life is empty...what did you think she means?

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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/26/2006 3:40:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: darkinshadows

quote:

ORIGINAL: Wolfie648

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ORIGINAL: FRANKINPIP
what do u think she means by NEEDING IT?
thanks


I guess she'll die without it.

D (owner of j) 

Actually, that isnt far from the truth.  Or maybe a better description is that she would not exist without it.
If you are 'a' submissive or dominant - the only thing that makes you that,  is the fact that you are dominant over or submissive to someone else.  Without that dynamic, you wouldnt exist.  You may feel submissive and feel dominant - but would not make them more than feelings.
 
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Maybe it's not far from your truth but it is my truth. I exist just fine as a dominant without a submissive; feelings or otherwise.

Feelings are not needs. Feelings are wants.

I am hungry. I want to eat.

I am dying of starvation and if I don't eat in the next 5 minutes I am going to die (and for those that know that if one is 5 minutes from dying from starvation that eating will not help one; please go with the analogy and not the reality). I Need (assuming living/survival is a need) to eat.

If you would like to go past the assumption that living is a requirement of needs then I would posit that no-one has a clue - because all we know is all we are (quoting the king of illiterature there) and we don't what we are after death - we can only speculate.

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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/26/2006 5:44:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		I sorta agree, that you can only perform as a submissive or dominant if with a counterpart. But there are people that are dominant in their character naturally, and ditto for the flip side. So if you take it as a verb its good.

Ergo, i 'need' Paul to be submissive.

But i also need certain activities, or moments in a certain headspace. Because i have learned dependence on them. Im sure i can absolve myself of the riggors of the day, by creatively expressive myself, some other way. But i chose this way. Some people jog, i submit. Because i dont have any other way to do this, then it is needed.

Im also a dominant character, without His dominance, that character will take over this relationship, like my previous ones, and I would become the Dominant. I dont need this. I need the being able to be 'myself' not what others wish to take from me. For some fucked up reasons, i have to have D/s dynamic to be able to take caregiving from another. Its a 'safe' forum for allowing my gaurd down. There is trust in a D/s dynamic that ive not found before. I need to be able to stand bare soul naked before another.

And now i am a submissive. And have what i need. I am greedy with need. D/s, is a self fullfilling prophecy.

And whilst im having all these needs met. I get a whole barrel of wants met too. But i can do without them. I prefer not to however.

The depth of this sort of relationship,. is like a drug of choice for me. I crave it, i need it. Visitor induced vanilla, has me spazzing out all over the place.

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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/26/2006 7:20:13 AM   
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Without some submissive to you - you are not a dominant.  Just as the word 'light' wouldn't exist without the word 'dark'.  You may feel dominant and act dominant - but it does not make you 'a' dominant.
Verbs vs. Nouns
Pedantic?  Just the correct use of language.
 
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RE: meaning of NEEDS IT? - 8/26/2006 8:37:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Need simply means that there is an opportunity for a symbiotic feeding, that ultimately gives a well versed Dominant some actual ability to control the mindset of his counterpart.

All one has to be able to do, is see to it with intelligence,senstitivity,and creativity.

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