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mp072004 -> RE: I need help with a vanilla friend (8/23/2006 7:06:47 AM)
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Does she not understand why people do m/s or d/s relationships, or does she not understand how they work?
If she doesn't understand how inequal power works, explain that in most relationships, romantic and otherwise, power is distributed somewhat inequally. Usually, in a dyad (two-person relationship) one person emerges as more dominant than the other, even without arrangements of d/s. Tell her that a two-person d/s relationship is just an exaggerated and explicit version of this; the couple agrees that one partner gets to make more decisions than the other.
If she doesn't understand why people do them, that's a different matter. Getting her to empathize with the dominant part strikes me as easy--everyone has probably had a moment when they wished their partners would go along with their decisions, yes? Inducing empathy for the submissive part may be harder. Maybe you could note that most people have some occasion when they've been gratified exclusively by making another happy, and say that people who agree to submit tend to find that really, really gratifying.
Monica
Monica
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