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porcelaine -> RE: so im softcore huh? (8/21/2006 9:33:22 AM)
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ORIGINAL: mstrjx
But one day, you'll meet someone and develop a solid relationship. And you will grow (or not) and she will grow (or not) in your fantasies and desires. What happens if she grows outside of your interests?
My personal take on things has always been to be able to always stay one step ahead of my partner. If she wants to be beaten to within an inch of her life, I need to be able to get within 1/2 an inch. Why? It's not because I necessarily enjoy dishing out heavy pain, or because I'm a natural sadist.
It's because I want to please my partner. I want to stay with my partner. I want my partner to stay with me. I don't want my partner to be bored with me because I can't fulfill her needs. So I learn to fulfill her needs.
So, 15 years later, I can do just about anything. Play at just about any level. I let my limits be dictated by whomever those of whomever my partner is, and safety. My horizons have broadened.
Will yours?
This was very well stated. People often spend far too much time in their comfort zone and don't wish to venture out. Then complain of course when someone doesn't wish to remain in their realm and chooses to branch out instead. Growth should be a welcome part of life and something we all embrace. Our sexuality shouldn't be stagnate and ideally will expand as we age, gain experience, and a clearer understanding of ourselves and our desires. For some this is a natural occurrence, others are happy to remain as they are.
I made a point of becoming well acquainted with people that practiced fetishes that I was unaware of or somewhat opposed to. It was a wonderful education and provided much needed insight and feedback that I would have gone without. Years later I find myself heartily enjoying these things. My willingness to make new discoveries yielded some very appealing activities.
porcelaine
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