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Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeanor or... - 7/31/2006 4:44:50 PM

MistressKita

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I am sure all of us have at one time or another been approached by a submissive who states they are a houseboy/housegirl or are trained in the manner. But at times I wonder, I have had several submissives/slaves submit to me that factor above all factors first and it makes me wonder if they are just lazy and do not want to work so they will stay at home and do all the cooking, cleaning and so forth just to get out of doing anything else. Are they actually being true to the lifestyle in service of their Mistress/Master or just being true to their own laziness?

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 7/31/2006 4:48:38 PM

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They are lazy? That's why they do all the endless, boring, repetitive physical work around the house???

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 7/31/2006 4:54:42 PM

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Apart from Arpig's comment, there are a few more factors to consider:

quote:

Are they actually being true to the lifestyle in service of their Mistress/Master

Well, if that is what the Master/Mistress wants, then yes.

quote:

and do not want to work so they will stay at home and do all the cooking, cleaning and so forth just to get out of doing anything else.

Some people expect their houseboys/girls to work outside the house too.

Now, here's the thing: If you want a houseboy, get one. If you don't want him lazing about, give him enough work. If you feel he should keep a job, make him keep a job. If you think he's lazy, correct it. Many things to do, bitching in the forums about how lazy people are just makes us think you're too lazy to go out and do something.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 7/31/2006 5:18:20 PM

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Keeping a house clean, laundry done and family fed is far from lazy. It's hard work, often with very little thanks.

Personally, staying home would drive me insane, so God bless the people that can actually do that, do it well, and enjoy themselves while they do it.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 7/31/2006 7:47:11 PM

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The slave half of the current International Master/slave 2006 couple is a stay-at-home houseboy. he is FAR from lazy. In fact, he works harder around the house and on special projects, not to mention maintaining their calendar dates, than most people I know who work a full time job, myself included.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 7/31/2006 8:00:44 PM

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It makes them useful. I work from home, and there is always more to do than just housework here.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 7/31/2006 8:06:02 PM

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Domestic work is hard and it is sun up to well past sun down. A couple million stay at home parents will tell you that.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 3:18:39 AM

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Domestic work is hard and it is sun up to well past sun down. A couple million stay at home parents will tell you that.

I absolutely agree... I was a stay at home mom for years (not that I'm complaining, I love staying at home). and am once again a stay at home wife.

And as far as just being lazy? Our girl tells us on a regular basis that we need an army around here, it's a big house and lots to do inside and out... so will our next one(s) be stay at home types? Most likely.. we prefer it that way.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 6:59:28 AM

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One other factor that I have not seen here is the "availability" factor. I have never been shy in indicating that once I am owned I do not want to be holding down a job. The reason for me is that I want to be available to my owner at His whim and schedule. If He takes a day off work, I dont want to have to try and get my boss to give me one as well. If travel is involved, it becomes even that much more difficult. I know other people do it and more power to them. I am not running down anyone's way of living. I just know for me, I want the only authority in my life to be my owner.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 7:17:38 AM

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if i may Ma'am, i stay at home and look after the house, and do a lot (not all) of the cooking and cleaning and laundry and ironing and shopping, and looking after my daughter, and helping with her schooling, and looking after Master and doing all the little jobs He needs doing, as well as working 3 hours every evening in a shop.

i'm not saying i don't have time for anything else, but i can quite easily be on the go from when i get up (about 5.45am) till i go to work at about 5.45pm. then i'm on the go for 3 hours stacking shelves or moving stock or woteva, without a break or a coffee stop or nuffin, and then after i escape from there at 9pm, i come home, warm my dinner up in the microwave and eat, wash everything up and put it away, and then i could be ironing until i go to bed at about 10.30pm..

people often ignore wot we do, and like had been said, we often get no thinaks and just taken for granted and wot we do is often belittled, even by us, i have to admit.. but i do have to say, i have been called a lot of stuff in the past, but neva lazy.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 8:10:28 AM

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MistressKita,

I wouldnt be too fast in claiming that a slave/sub who stays at home is lazy. And if a slave/sub seemed lazy, Id be damned snappy to give them more to do if they had too much leisure time on their hands. After all, Id be controlling the household, so anything that wasnt completed, completed promptly or completed unsatisfactority would fall on my own head. Im a firm believer that if a slave/sub isnt fulfilling their portion of the agreement, its for a reason, and I try to find out what that reason is and take immediate steps to correct it. Also, I tend to give much forethought to eliminate complications that may arise down the line, which isnt hard to do if you know your sub well. You see, if I have to spend my time complaining, disciplining and correcting constantly, Im not having much fun. And you can bet, neither is she.

Now, my situation is very different from yours and most that post here. My sub will be working full-time and in addition, is a golf instructor from April thru October, teaching up tp 50-60 students during the season. On the other hand, Im permanently disabled but am Founder and Exec. Director of a non-profit on a part-time basis, mostly from home. Therefore, I clean, cook and do laundry by choice as I wish to share these responsibilities with my submissive when Im physically able to do so. In fact, the bulk of these chores fall into my lap during golf season and should there be a time when Im not able, Illl hire a weekly housekeeper to clean and do laundry.

I could very easily place all these responsibilities on my sub if I wished to, but Id like to have time to enjoy her when she's not dead tired or dead to the world. Plus, I dont feel as if Im responsible in looking out for her physical/emotional needs if I place everything on her shoulders. Besides that, neither oneof us is getting any younger. Im grateful for everything that she does to make my life easier and I appreciate her time and effort in doing so. Maybe some would call me a whimpy Domme ~ hardly. Strength can be found in many that others consider weak. But one thing's for sure, if all I did was complain, nag, yell or seem unappreciative in any manner and failed to acknowledge her contribution as important as my own, I'd expect her to get real lazy, real quickly. And the fault would be my own.

I find that most submissives are very sensitive to subliminal clues like facial expressions, tone of voice and my body language, therefore Im also careful not to portray a negative attitude even if my sub should err or overlook something by mistake. It just allows me an opportunity to train her to better please me. However, should I find her to defy me or try to manipulate, I take corrective action immediately and sternly depending on each individual circumstance. I see it this way . . . nobody can force anyone to do something that they dont want to do. Period. Thats why I try to "inspire the desire." And, I think my sub would fail to be inspired if I assumed she was lazy "straight out of the gate."

Just something to think about. Best of luck to you.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 8:29:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JessieMe

One other factor that I have not seen here is the "availability" factor. I have never been shy in indicating that once I am owned I do not want to be holding down a job. The reason for me is that I want to be available to my owner at His whim and schedule. If He takes a day off work, I dont want to have to try and get my boss to give me one as well. If travel is involved, it becomes even that much more difficult. I know other people do it and more power to them. I am not running down anyone's way of living. I just know for me, I want the only authority in my life to be my owner.

Nodding, my ultimate long term desire is to have a sub who works along side me. As a small business owner, I have more perogatives in being able to do that.

Call me selfish, but that is why I also don't deal well with dependent children of others-I want to be priority one.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 8:39:02 AM

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My last Master and I worked together at a job and it was wonderful. I know that kind of dynamic can work if the relationship itself is healthy.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 8:44:54 AM

Homestead

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Yes, it's a geat way to spend more time together.

I tend to work light manufacturing, and I ship to wholesalers or individual customers who order over the net. It's all done by email, I don't even allow people to call and distract me.

I deal with them exactly how and when I please.

Which means I have total control over any vanillas who come around.

I like it that way. Even my work has a controlled privacy.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 8:54:05 AM

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I worked at a job like that/.. I LOVED it.....it was more medical supply though through a website. My boss was in the scene and we were all really open at work.. It was wayyy cool..

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 8:56:56 AM

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It's nice to have someone helping out, and you can dress her funny, and no one cares.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 9:20:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JessieMe

One other factor that I have not seen here is the "availability" factor. I have never been shy in indicating that once I am owned I do not want to be holding down a job. The reason for me is that I want to be available to my owner at His whim and schedule. If He takes a day off work, I dont want to have to try and get my boss to give me one as well. If travel is involved, it becomes even that much more difficult. I know other people do it and more power to them. I am not running down anyone's way of living. I just know for me, I want the only authority in my life to be my owner.

This is what i was thinking too. When i decide to choose another owner, i will devote pretty much all my energy in taking care of Him and the househole tasks, such as cooking and cleaning.

If He wishes me to work, so be it; then i'll work. But if He doesn't, i'm all for that. And it wouldn't be out of laziness. It would be out of my desire to take care of my Owner.

Some of the strongest women i know are stay at home moms, and i know they don't get nearly the recognition they deserve.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 10:04:39 AM

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I like service anyway, being serced coffee, a coke, dinner etc and I'd like a sub who enjoys doing that around the house.
Also I'd like her to be dressed as a sexy maid while in the house.
Whether she wants to work outside the house would be up to her, I'd let her decide that for herself.
Doing things outside the house, working, hobbies, friends, makes for a better, more well rounded person and sub in my thinking.
I don't think it's lazy at all for a sub to want to "serve" in a household.
There are many things to be done!

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 12:29:02 PM

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This whole comment is not about bitching what I am addressing is the "real" houseboys/housegirls who live to serve and those who just say hey I can just act like this and live for free.

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RE: Houseboys/housegirls are they true to their demeano... - 8/1/2006 12:39:49 PM

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let me reiterate the whole jest of this comment, it wasn't to put down that any other submissive who is rightfully fulfilling their position and not being lazy. Since no one appeared to read things indepth that I am questioning the factors of those who are not true to the trade. Has anyone ever come across someone that they felt were just going through the motions to get a free ride? I applaude those who have served their Masters/Mistress's quite well. For sometime when I left the lifestyle I was a stay at home mom myself so I know what it is like to run a household. Now that I am back in full reign again I have dealt with some that are just questionable and I was wondering if any others had felt the same.

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