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Yourcaptive81 -> Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/7/2025 9:40:48 PM)

A person on fetlife claimed that only cis men do bad things. I made a reply and said trans women can do bad things too. I supplied a news article for an example.

I didn't say that all trans people are bad and I didn't make any generalisations. All I simply stated is that regardless what identity a person is, it doesn't make them innocent of wrong doing.

I got a timeout for gender shaming for simply stating that in a reply. I find their gender shaming ruling to be way too excessive. I have no problem with trans people. I just won't go by the narrative that they are all innocent.

When you ask an explanation to the site moderation, they ignore you. Pathetic place.




Yourcaptive81 -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/7/2025 10:15:01 PM)

I made a review that mentions this in that trustpilot site. The fuckers tried to censor me there too. Fortunately they can't pull their authoritarian crap there.




wickedsdesires -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/10/2025 10:44:29 AM)

Been a long time since I have been on there.
Have you tried emailing the other mods and group owners? How long was your group time out for? You could try and mail the caretakers they will listen but they may not change the decision.

(A person on fetlife claimed that only cis men do bad things. I made a reply and said trans women can do bad things too. I supplied a news article for an example.)
My judgment is you said nothing wrong and not only that you backed up your words with link which I suspect the first person did not.



Was that person a Trans? If not why was he having a go at CIS?

I started having problems with fetlife a decade ago in that I didnt like how the group owners moderated. To be brief I consider many of them run cult like and if your opinion didn't fit with the owners your words were stricken and you almost always got a permanent group ban.

I don't think the pair of you said anything wrong but I don't agree with it. I suspect your point was that no matter the group People do bad things but that doesn't make all of a group bad.


Did you get a permanent group ban for that - less than nothing? Happened to me and plenty others. If anything the person that gave you the ban should have got a smack on the wrist or a time out is more appropriate for abuse of power.

Some group owners will also ban you if you dont agree with their drivel or lies or if you point out the sheer nature of their lies with impeccable links.







Yourcaptive81 -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/13/2025 11:11:38 PM)

It happened in the comments section of someone's picture. I was arguing with lefties and they turned the discussion into that.

I got a 1 month timeout.

The person appeared to be trans, she claimed to be female in her profile though.

The place is hijacked by social justice mobs who gang up on anyone who doesn't have the same world views as theirs.




BoscoX -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/14/2025 3:11:31 AM)


That's just how it is.

It's private property, you're a guest there, and they have every right to write the rules for their establishment.

X has better free speech rules but there are limits there, as well.




wickedsdesires -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/14/2025 7:57:33 AM)

It was always the right fucks I argued with on there. In my experience there were always more right run modded groups than left.

You got the time out for a picture comment? what the fuck.

The irony of what you said yourcaptive81 its probably not a genuine trans profile but you should be able to be 90% certain by looking at their pictures. But some profiles are their avatars even if that is not the real life them which makes those bans even worse, if you follow.

The place is hijacked by social justice mobs who gang up on anyone who doesn't have the same world views as theirs.


I know what you mean.

If a politician, prez, leader, uses words or opinions then, free speech aside, so should everyone else be allowed to use those words and terms no matter which side of the fence they are on. Irony the mods will get away with it but if your opinion doesn't align to their you get fucked out.

I don't think there are many fair mods left on there these days.

Good point Boscox, X. If people can say that shit on there or other sites then it should be allowed on all sites. Yes I do get there are a few things that are taboo to say.

Although I dont think X and fuckbook are big on moderation these days having sacked most of them.

People should not be getting banned because a mod or most of the group, or half it, doesn't like what someone says.




BoscoX -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/14/2025 8:06:20 AM)


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ORIGINAL: wickedsdesires

People should not be getting banned because a mod or most of the group, or half it, doesn't like what someone says.


I agree with that.

VIDEO -

quote:

Mark Zuckerberg says the Biden administration would call META to scream and curse at them to censor *true* information on their platforms.

Holy sh*t.

Zuckerberg said the administration would call them and tell them to censor true information including a Leonardo DiCaprio meme about vaccine side effects.

"They pushed us super hard to take down the things that were honestly true... Anything that says that vaccines might have side effects, you basically need to take down."

Criminals.

https://x.com/CollinRugg/status/1877787144711967126




wickedsdesires -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/14/2025 9:23:47 AM)

UK and EU laws have changed recently. I would probably bore you if I went into them. The UK has two different laws that deal with what we can say or cannot say on the internet. They will be along the lines of supporting or encouraging terrorism and hate crimes. With Elon Musk X and what he said at the protest rally in London on live Video screen there a debate whether he fell foul of the terror laws.

https://www.theguardian.com/politics/2025/sep/15/what-did-elon-musk-say-at-far-right-uk-rally-and-did-his-remarks-break-the-law


And another one from of late: Woman jailed for race hate post released from prison A woman who was jailed for stirring up racial hatred in the aftermath of the Southport attack has been released from prison. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c5yl7p4l11po

Lucy Connolly, 42, whose husband serves on Northampton Town Council, pleaded guilty in September after posting the expletive-ridden message on X the day three girls were stabbed to death in July 2024.
Connolly, from Northampton, called for "mass deportation now" and urged her followers on X to "set fire" to hotels housing asylum seekers.
She was released from HMP Peterborough earlier after she was handed a 31-month prison sentence in October at Birmingham Crown Court.
Connolly was freed from prison at the automatic release point of her custodial sentence, after serving 40% of her term in prison.

Fate of hundreds arrested for alleged Palestine Action support in limbo if challenge to ban is blocked, court told Fate of hundreds arrested for alleged Palestine Action support in limbo if challenge to ban is blocked, court told https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025/sep/25/fate-of-hundreds-arrested-for-alleged-palestine-action-support-in-limbo-if-challenge-to-ban-is-blocked-court-told

That one is newish. Because the PA were proscribed a terror group recently in seriously flawed circumstances people get arrested for holding up signs that support them or their cause.


But I will use one of them as an example. Suppose someone hates Trans, Straight's, immigrants, that should not be defined as a hate crime. The problem with moderation is some mods are bending those for their own purposes.

What I don't like about X's etc of the world is the source lies. And most of that is amplified further by bots who now how to manipulate the algorithm. Most of that bullshit originates in Russia, Israel, China, North Korea, Iran.

No idea if that one is true Boscox but for a meme, not that I think it would get banned by bidens of the world etc ironic your right is burning books schools etc, there is nothing wrong with most memes.

Because you mention Vaccinations Boscox.
e.g, Russia and its bots It will create 1000+ of near identically posts, even adding little as a full stop somewhere different into one of those variables, and keep the few that gets most engagement.

If people want to say vaccinations kill technically that is true as it is for crossing the road, driving a fuck tesla, skateboard, etc.
But they should add in vaccinations are 99.99% safe or something like that.
Not making up bullshit like someones head exploded or your head will explode if you get a vaccination and using some made up bullshit source.
for every 100 that die because of vaccine or complication to it 1,000, 000 are saved.

The point I am really making here is there will be a grey area. if that is true because it was correctly interpret as meeting that criteria then moderation is okayish but even then they should be removing that one fucking comment. Not that you did anything wrong R and your comment should have stood.

If it happens often, to easily and biased easily, you get pissed off, aggrieved, angry, and more so when you have no recourse to appeal.

Boscox were you ever on fetlife and if so what did you think of group owners moderation?

Yourcaptive81, if the care takers were going to take on your complaint they give you a case number.
With your particular case they probably wont but they really should because you got banned simply because your face didnt fit in that group


"They pushed us super hard to take down the things that were honestly true... Anything that says that vaccines might have side effects, you basically need to take down."

That isn't true Boscox. All vaccines have side effects from nothing to the occasional death.

I cannot help but wonder how many American's died needlessly because they were Vax deniers and how many they killed by spreading that info an their virus arounds.





wickedsdesires -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/14/2025 10:57:38 AM)

I just checked my profile on there.

You were put on a timeout from the following group: Curvy Women and the People Who Love Them
Reason:6. Show respect for yourself and others Length of Timeout:12 months (12 months left)


Reason 6 is a dodgy catch all isn't it? That wasn't even a zero sum game. I must have exploded past their first 5 reasons. Ironically I didn't say anything wrong on there. You are at loose end. Try that creepy shithole and let me know if you get past 3 posts before they ban your ass.

You could always change your sex to "female" and you will be there forever. Try fat female or will that fall foul of rule Reason:6 because you are disgusted at oneself for being fat, or others, or others judging you as either, and others trying to take advantage of the all aforementioned.

Change it to CIS or Trans and let me know if you get past 6 posts. I had been on that one a few years but I rarely spoke on it.




Yourcaptive81 -> RE: Fetlife: Excessive moderation on gender shaming (10/22/2025 11:10:45 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BoscoX


That's just how it is.

It's private property, you're a guest there, and they have every right to write the rules for their establishment.

X has better free speech rules but there are limits there, as well.


Regardless of that, do you think it's important for the moderation to be unbiased?

It's like this, people on fetlife can say things like "most cis men are vile and disgusting" and not receive a timeout.

Change the words "cis men" to "trans women" and you would get a timeout instantly.




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