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Chaska -> RE: Baton Rouge's summer of grief (8/27/2016 3:09:27 PM)
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ORIGINAL: poise
This may well need to be a post of it's own, perhaps in Fun and Games, but I've never felt the need to "make fun" based on other people's suffering. However, the question is relevant here.
With all the bickering going on between Chaska, thompson and Termy, on this well intended thread, I would hope for humanities sake that you would be civil enough to each other to at least share a boat ride to safety, should the need ever arise. Heck, maybe even one of you can play the rescuer!?
In answer to the originating post, there truly is a whole lot of unity going on down here in Louisiana.
First, I hope you weren't impacted by the flood in Louisiana, and thank you for acknowledging the "thread was well intended." The focus seemed more on the flood, tragedy and the unity there, instead of the lack of unity in the events a month earlier that were
also tragic, that was the direction I wanted to go with the conversation. I had hoped it would show that it was possible to settle our differences amicably, unfortunately it proved the opposite. Mainly because the conversation got sidetracked.
It was pointed out I tried to steer the conversation back on topic, although it was impossible due too the disdain of another.
One can only conclude the following motivations.
1. They want to make others look bad so as to advance their own position
2. They are trying to shame or humiliate, perhaps as revenge or a power play.
3. They are a narcissist and can’t handle confrontation or not going along with them.
4. They feel insecure and are overcompensating.
5. They are testing limits in order to feel more independent.
6. They are competing with you for status or position or you are an obstacle to their goal
7. They are trying to put their own spin on a situation to make them look good or minimize their bad behavior.
8. They are trying to bully or intimidate so they can feel powerful
9. They are defending their own actions by pointing out that someone also did/said some things wrong.
10. They want to feel important and respected.
11. They have a controlling personality and have to be in charge.
12. They feel entitled to special treatment or status and do not feel they are receiving it.
13. They have a problem they don’t want to deal with (e.g., substance abuse, mental issues) and are trying to get others to back off.
14. They have a strong unmet need that is not being satisfied.
I had mention before " I seriously doubt "you " (you know who I mean here) would present yourself in a public venue in the same manner knowing full well it would not be acceptable. Here is a good read. " For whatever reason, the internet tends to bring out everyone’s Inner Asshole. "
In light of the behavior one displayed. Sharing a boat ride anywhere has been proven improbable they would sink it just for spite. How can one be a rescuer in this situation? The rescuer.
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