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maysubgirl -> are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 1:42:45 PM)
if a slave make mistake her dom have option either to punish her or forgive her ... slaves normally beg for mercy etc etc ... so its easy for slave .... but what if a dom make some mistake ??slave can simply run out of dom's life .

diamonddreamlove -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 1:50:48 PM)
Or the Master might admit a mistake or perhaps He won't. Sub/Slave can leave if she wishes we are here by consent and can withdraw the consent. Personally i would not lol want to be the one to point out a mistake made by the Doms i know unless i was granted permission to do so. There again pointing out a mistake is not my job. My job is to serve and please and i have met few in the vanilla world or here that are pleased when their mistakes are pointed out.

agirl -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 1:55:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl if a slave make mistake her dom have option either to punish her or forgive her ... slaves normally beg for mercy etc etc ... so its easy for slave .... but what if a dom make some mistake ??slave can simply run out of dom's life . Well, in that context.....a dom also has the option of running......but that all seems rather silly. If a dom makes a mistake ..it's not really beyond the realms of possibility that he could utter the words...* I think I made a mistake*.....Heaven won't implode, the sky won't fall down and the moon will rise again...........lol ( and... no, Master, I know I won't hear those words....lol ) agirl

maysubgirl -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 1:57:04 PM)
but why a slave get punished for same mistake while dom not

MHOO314 -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:02:44 PM)
Everyone makes mistakes, to think a Dominant is free from that is living in a fantasy and if one is involved with a Dominant who cannot admit to making a mistake, I'd say, time to rethink things.

agirl -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:08:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl but why a slave get punished for same mistake while dom not Erm.......That's the nature of the beast....lol What would you suggest the situation ought to be if a dom made a mistake?.....You punish him? Edited to add.... If I make a mistake, I don't get punished, actually. If I intentionally or wilfully disregard rules or instructions, then I will get punished. The same situation doesn't apply to my Master, cos he's the boss....lol agirl

Caretakr -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:12:47 PM)
That's why we call it a power imbalance, rather then egalitarian. A Dom knows that he will lose his power base, if he does not make corrections. That is the control.

LaTigresse -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:15:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl but why a slave get punished for same mistake while dom not I don't know about anyone else but when I realize I have made a mistake I am far harder on myself than anyone else could be. Especially if it involves another person.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:18:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl If a dom makes a mistake ..it's not really beyond the realms of possibility that he could utter the words...* I think I made a mistake.....Heaven won't implode, the sky won't fall down and the moon will rise again...........lol agirl* Who's to say the sky won't fall down? Why take the chance? [8D] M

agirl -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:22:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl but why a slave get punished for same mistake while dom not I don't know about anyone else but when I realize I have made a mistake I am far harder on myself than anyone else could be. Especially if it involves another person. I'm not terribly hard on myself if I make a mistake...I like to put them right as swiftly as I can, though. agirl

agirl -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:24:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig quote: ORIGINAL: agirl If a dom makes a mistake ..it's not really beyond the realms of possibility that he could utter the words...* I think I made a mistake.....Heaven won't implode, the sky won't fall down and the moon will rise again...........lol agirl* Who's to say the sky won't fall down? Why take the chance? [8D] M LOL...... Best not, eh?.......grin agirl

Jnj -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:48:42 PM)
First, I don't think punishment/forgiveness are the only two options my owner has when I make a mistaken. Often, he searches for a reason the mistake happened, and if he finds one, we work together to solve the problem -- sometimes that means physical discipline, but it can also mean memory building exercises, clearer communication, or some other method that involves fixing the problem, not fixing me. Second, I don't think that dominants get off scott free when they make a mistake. They do experience punishment, it simply isn't generally physical or from a third party. When my owner Jim makes a mistake that unintentionally harms me, he feels that, and it hurts him. He doesn't walk away unscathed, and personally I think someone beating themselves up emotionally is generally a harsher punishment than an ass paddling.

juliaoceania -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 2:57:15 PM)
fast reply, This is my opinion (disclaimer up front). A mature dominant is going to know that he isn't perfect and makes misjudments and even acts poorly at times. If he values the respect of his submissive then he is going to apologize if he does something wrong. Because the power is his he has the responsibility to be self correcting. He accepted this responsibility when he signed up to be a dominant. In a way it is the harder role to play within the relationship because he is assuming responsibility for you and for himself. Like any parent knows, it is not easy to discipline those who count on you, those who love you, and those you only want the best for... at times this is necessary. That is why I say a good dominant can admit to their own mistakes and take responsibility for them... a good parent does too. A good parent doesn't punish because they want to or because it is easy, they do it because they care. That to me is what a good dominant does too... and dominants that discipline wisely will have to do it rarely. A dominant that is wise will address his own failings before he points out yours... just my thoughts

LeatherBentOne -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 3:32:00 PM)
juliaoceania, I agree whole-heartedly. That's what humility is all about and keeps us from getting too cocky. It's much more difficult to apologize than punish when the time comes that a Dom/me is at fault. However, I think that its more difficult for a sub to understand and amend her mistakes if s/he sees that her/his Dom/me doesnt understand and make amends for their behavior but places it on his/her sub. Does a Dom/me who does this, think the sub is not intelligent enough to know where the source of the problem arises from? Hardly. I have no problems if a sub asks to speak her/his mind and heart, explaining in a soft and respectful way, that she/he is having a problem she needs to ask for my input. The best way to sound non-judgemental to me is to use the words, "I feel such and such, when I do such and such." It takes away the blame, the Dominant saves face and the submissive receives expectations. LeatherBentOne

SaphireLynn -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 3:36:39 PM)
Now another question for you maysubgirl why do you have 7 Masters/Mistress? Can one not handle you? Does it take 7 to control you?

KnightofMists -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 3:39:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl if a slave make mistake her dom have option either to punish her or forgive her ... slaves normally beg for mercy etc etc ... so its easy for slave .... but what if a dom make some mistake ??slave can simply run out of dom's life . it's not punish her OR forgive her! It could be both it could none or it could be either. It might even be something different. NO slaves don't normally Beg for mercy etc etc etc.! making mistakes is part of being a human being. be you Master slave, or the garbage man. Mistakes are made.... and consequences occur.... there is not magical universal rule on this is what Masters do and this is what slaves do. If you expect your Master to be prefect... you will fail them when they need you most!

desertdancer -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 5:13:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl if a slave make mistake her dom have option either to punish her or forgive her ... slaves normally beg for mercy etc etc ... so its easy for slave .... but what if a dom make some mistake ??slave can simply run out of dom's life . Who-ah whoa whoa, slow down here spunky, I absolutely DO NOT beg for mercy. If I've messed up, then I take whatever punishment that is coming to me and I try to do so with grace. There is NO squirming or wheedling or begging out of punishments. Nor is there just up and leaving Master for punishing me. In fact it's quite the opposite, if he takes his time and energy to punish me for my misdeed, I THANK him. I do not run from him, but turn and embrace him for loving me enough to correct my behavior.

peta -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 5:31:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl but why a slave get punished for same mistake while dom not Hmmmmmmm, Let me see.......because He is the Boss??????? ROFL peta

Fawne -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 5:53:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl if a slave make mistake her dom have option either to punish her or forgive her ... slaves normally beg for mercy etc etc ... so its easy for slave .... but what if a dom make some mistake ??slave can simply run out of dom's life . Dear may: If only it were that simple. Respectfully, we are all human. Personally, I admire a Dominant who is strong enough to admit a mistake. Anyone can make mistakes, act out, have a bad day etc. No one is super powered and bullet proof. The boss does have a heart too, ya know ;) I humbly admit to having made many silly "mistakes" and yeah, it hurts when I goof up etc. It is not the punishment I fear, but the fact I have disapointed someone special. Now, I can only work on bettering myself as a person- one with a slave heart. Besides people care. We get attached. D/s is powerful stuff emotionally and isn't always easy. Good luck to you, fawne

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: are slaves more safe than dom's (7/21/2006 7:21:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maysubgirl if a slave make mistake her dom have option either to punish her or forgive her ... slaves normally beg for mercy etc etc ... so its easy for slave .... but what if a dom make some mistake ??slave can simply run out of dom's life . No one is more safe, certainly not in terms of dealing with the consequences of their actions. While the sub may not have the authority to say "go sit in the corner" the dom DOES have to deal with the negative consequences of their mistakes and ill behavior. And anyone can end a relationship.

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