|
Noah -> RE: Society and BDSM (7/18/2006 4:04:34 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: maysubgirl
how does society views to slaves ... did you tell everyone that you are slave ? how are you being treated by other peoples in societly ?my friends called me stupid
When my kids say they intend to buy the new release by some band because it is "just sick", I know they mean it is good--especially because they usually download or share music for free unless it is extrordinary. My father, on the other hand, might hear them call it "sick" and wonder why his grandkids intend to throw good money at something that's diseased.
The word slave is like the word sick. It means radically different things to different people.
It seems very clear to me that the word slave means different things to different people even within the BDSM community, and I mean in some cases wildly different things.
I have never seen a conversation about BDSM slavery in a BDSM venue which used the word slave in the way it is commonly understood by people who don't do or study power exchange.
What I'm saying, maysubgirl, is that when you say the word "slave" to your friends I'm pretty certain they aren't thinking about the thing you're talking about at all, so their response isn't a response to your actual situation. It is basically just a confusion. I'm sorry they were carelessly unkind rather exploring this idea with you but what the hell, they're just people after all, not saints.
Imagine for a minute that all you ever knew the word slave to mean was the conventional idea represented by Africans kidnapped from their homeland and put to forced labor unto death with no personal rights. Now imagine that your friend says to you: "Hey guess what? I'm a slave now and it is really cool!"
Is there any chance you might think that your friend was acting less than brilliantly? I think it would be a fair response if that was where you were coming from.
I don't know you but I doubt that you're any stupider than me or your friends, who may be basically cool people who just don't happen to know enough about this stuff..
I hope you can make some new good, cool friends who already know what you're talking about so that you can share your thoughts and enthusiasm for BDSM slavery without ridicule. I hope you also find out that a couple of your friends--who aren't calling you stupid--are already kinky themselves and you can begin to share this stuf with them too, now that you both have the secret handshake.
Maybe some day you'll be able to educate some of these people who are now calling you stupid but I think you shouldn't woory too much about them right now. If you're kind of newly into this you already have a lot on your plate and frankly, some better things to do.
I hope you have lots of fun, challenging and rewarding experiences as you do them.
|
|
|
|
