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peacefulservant -> What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 1:25:26 PM)
I would like to know from you manny beautiful mistresses. What is you ideal submissive?(not slave although I know there is much debate over the difference) I know this is realy an opinion question but that is what I want your opinion. Would you please be as descriptive as possible looks, behavor ext.. Your grateful and ever peaceful servant.

Caretakr -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 1:26:50 PM)
I know that carrying an internal construct of an ideal is a masochistic action. My visions only grow from realities.

MsKatHouston -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 1:38:57 PM)
intelligent, ambitious, fun, open minded, honorable the details, though will vary from person to person and that's what makes the individual interesting to me.

Sab -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 2:20:32 PM)
She is my wife, nuff said! :)

puella -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 2:35:56 PM)
May ugly Mistresses reply too ? [;)] I'm just joking with ya! (And I am certainly no Mistress!)

crouchingtigress -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 2:46:21 PM)
believe it or not obedience does not really figure into it, in fact i have found that expecting obedience in the beginning is a sure fire way to not always hear a subs resistance and reservations... for me its all about willingness communication skills self assuredness spiritual understandings similar to mine similar vanilla interests sense of humor sense of integrity he needs to have a job, one gets self worth from having a place in the world where they can be good at something and have their own money.... and he has to have self worth. obedience comes later and the boy is never forced, because in my world if he chooses not to obey he is with drawing consent, and when he does that we need to talk.

thetammyjo -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 2:46:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: peacefulservant I would like to know from you manny beautiful mistresses. What is you ideal submissive?(not slave although I know there is much debate over the difference) I know this is realy an opinion question but that is what I want your opinion. Would you please be as descriptive as possible looks, behavor ext.. Your grateful and ever peaceful servant. When I was less experienced and younger I might have had such ideals. I do look for certain things, I have limits, I have "must haves" but I no longer have "an ideal" because I found that they create less chance of finding wonderful partners. There are things I find attractive, more about interests and personality than physical though there are physical traits that will draw my attention more than others and some that turn me off, are not ideals. I'm sorry I can't answer your question.

Controladora -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 3:05:44 PM)
I don't think I have an ideal. Each experience has been unique. In general I have a preference for submissives that are open, able to article to their emotions/feelings when asked to, able to adapt to changing circumstances and eager to learn. Controladora

Cloudz -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 4:06:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Controladora I don't think I have an ideal. Each experience has been unique. In general I have a preference for submissives that are open, able to article to their emotions/feelings when asked to, able to adapt to changing circumstances and eager to learn. Controladora Beautifully stated! I agree each experience is a treasure unto itself.

michaelGA2 -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 4:17:51 PM)
i wonder if an untried submissive would fit into what someone might call an ideal sub? edited for spelling correction

heartfeltsub -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 4:35:36 PM)
is that supposed to be untired or untried?

michaelGA2 -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 4:41:02 PM)
it's untried...thanks for pointing that out smiles

heartfeltsub -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 4:53:45 PM)
well, not being tired all the time is probably a very good trait as well.

michaelGA2 -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 4:54:59 PM)
does being tired of waiting or looking count? [:D]

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 5:01:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress believe it or not obedience does not really figure into it, in fact i have found that expecting obedience in the beginning is a sure fire way to not always hear a subs resistance and reservations... obedience comes later and the boy is never forced, because in my world if he chooses not to obey he is with drawing consent, and when he does that we need to talk. Thank you for saying this; it was both illuminating and thought-provoking for me. As a relatively "young" dominant, I find that I am still getting my rhythm in getting to know a submissive and bringing out what I want in him.

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 5:12:46 PM)
As to the OP ... there are lots of things that I want in a submissive -- intelligence, emotional intelligence, an ability to be open and vulnerable. Good D/s feels like aikido: if we're moving together, then it's beautiful. If he's moving against me (struggling), this energy can also be used to bring him to a more submissive state. This takes a subtle type of connection. Honesty, patience, sincerity in submission, a desire to please and genuine kind-heartedness are all important. I want him to make me laugh and be intriguing as a person -- I want to like him! He must have his own sense of self. Most other things are negotiable.

peacefulservant -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 6:26:45 PM)
First to all that have been so kind so far as to grace me with a response I whole heartedly thank you! I have found all of your replys helpful and only hope for more! I would also like to point out something of Interest that I have noted. Where I have expected to see that most of you would like to see a submissive whos sense of self isn't so developed. So far its to the contrary you would like to see one that has a strong and defined sense of self. Again on bended knees your peaceful servant.

crouchingtigress -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 7:42:21 PM)
Ill share a little more on how it works for me, ... When initiating an applicant i tell them they are not allowed to blindly obey, that is thier job to question things, to explore how they feel about things and to have the guts to disagree and dissent. They actually get brownie points for disention....it shows me that they are strong and have healthy sense of self....much more important in a life partner, then obedience wouldn't you say? I trust that the obedience based in our natural orientations will flow organically, but in application stage 1 and 2 i focus on them feeling safe, and feeling heard... I still ask them to do things for me, lots of things, but i try to couch it as "it would please me if you"....that way they are consciously consenting.... We both can really feel my appreciation when they do the thing (which is always) because we both know they did not have to. quote: ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress believe it or not obedience does not really figure into it, in fact i have found that expecting obedience in the beginning is a sure fire way to not always hear a subs resistance and reservations... obedience comes later and the boy is never forced, because in my world if he chooses not to obey he is with drawing consent, and when he does that we need to talk. Thank you for saying this; it was both illuminating and thought-provoking for me. As a relatively "young" dominant, I find that I am still getting my rhythm in getting to know a submissive and bringing out what I want in him.

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: What is your ideal submissive? (7/17/2006 8:06:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: puella May ugly Mistresses reply too ? [;)] I'm just joking with ya! (And I am certainly no Mistress!) And you certainly aren't no ugly, either.

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