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gardenbluebird -> the simple life (7/15/2006 7:26:27 PM)

All i ever wanted was a simple life - job, house with a picket fence, man on a white horse, family, ropes and floggers.  Somehow along the way i ran into lots of complications.  In part because life just gets crazy, also in part because of my high sex drive and desire for a bdsm relationship and some sense of adventure keeps me in interesting situations.  i have made decisions that i probably would not have made if i were vanilla.  Not necessarily bad decisions, just ones that keep life from being simple.

How many people feel that deep down they really are pretty simple and just want the classic "American Dream"?  Has your interest in (or compulsion for) bdsm changed or derailed the other plans that you had for your life? 



Caretakr -> RE: the simple life (7/15/2006 7:29:45 PM)

Sure, I want a simple life.

100 acres out in the country, with aquaponic domes surrounding a mansion,staffed by slave labor-the usual simple thing. Just basic capitalist stuff.[;)]



deltadawn -> RE: the simple life (7/15/2006 8:22:28 PM)

Ahh, what is more simple than a relationship that is understood from the get go just WHO the boss really is?

grins



popeye1250 -> RE: the simple life (7/15/2006 8:33:42 PM)

I already have "The American Dream".  What I don't have is a nice submissive woman to share it with me.
No, my life hasn't been adversly affected by the B&D lifestyle.
I've met many people through it than I otherwise would have.



champagnewishes -> RE: the simple life (7/15/2006 8:39:16 PM)

Is there really such a thing?  We can desire a life void of drama, based on what we consider a simplistic lifestyle.  The minute we interact with someone outside our small little slice of euphorea, we are opening ourselves  up to drama.  Whether it be friends, coworkers, service personel and family...don't forget family...it starts the snowball effect and next thing we know, we are smack dab in the middle of someone else's world.

BDSM hasn't altered, derailed or changed my life's plans.  However, it was used as a tool by my ex to obtain what he wanted...or rather what he didn't want me to have.



QuietDom -> RE: the simple life (7/15/2006 8:40:54 PM)

No, the BDSM fits pretty well within the dream... Modestly sized castle with ocean view, extensive basement.and live-in servants.  They're an excellent fit.



ownedgirlie -> RE: the simple life (7/15/2006 9:12:39 PM)

Reminds me of the song, "A Simple Kind of Life" by No Doubt (Gwen Stefani):

"And all I wanted was the simple things
A simple kind of life
And all I needed was a simple man
So I could be a wife"


To answer your question, yes, I wanted that too.  I wouldn't say BDSM derailed those plans. But my slavery to Master has changed my course.



AAkasha -> RE: the simple life (7/15/2006 9:51:28 PM)

I was raised in a really traditional way and always wanted fairly traditional things.  At the same time, I realized I was really into bondage and dominating men, and I wasn't about to give that up.  After all, I felt like it was a bit of a gift -- I mean how many people were stuck with boring, conventional sensualities? I had the ability to go insane with lust and have an excitement that never faded.  I felt like I was hyper-sexual and that was very exciting.

However, it did cause some problems when I wanted a "traditional" type of guy who wanted the same things: marriage, jobs, monogamy, stability.  I would date really conservative guys who were a bit shocked to find out I was kinky as hell.

What I did find is that I could have the best of both worlds. I have a normal and exciting career, I have an insanely kinky sex life, I have a man that focusses entirely on my pleasure 24/7.  I have dogs.  I've never gotten entrenched in the bdsm lifestyle per se, events, etc. -- because I found that "community" a little to fringe-y for my tastes. My group of friends are corporate type ladies and have a sense of my kinkiness but really don't care.  On the outside, to others, I look like a super assertive career woman with a very attentive man in my life.

What nasty things go on behind the scenes with bondage, humiliation, strap ons and wild times really need to be public knowledge.

The only thing the kink impacts is finances; I am a toy whore and have to have everything and new things all the time. That can be expensive.

Akasha



Curiossdragnlily -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 11:36:59 AM)

i have also thought of myself as simple in my needs and wants. i think since i have been with my Master i have achieved what i have always been looking for. Somethign for which i am grateful for.
with respect,
lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios
srn 308-692-331



gardenbluebird -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 11:49:40 AM)

i guess when looking at it from the outside i have everything i wanted.  Husband, kids, nice job, house in the burbs and a couple of canine friends.  But scratch just below the surface and things get a little weird.  Such is life, i guess we all have to play the cards that we were dealt. 



DreamyLadySnow -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 11:56:33 AM)

My dreams are simple, I want it all and I want it now, preferably delivered by Orland Bloom, riding into town on Johnny Depp.
Is that too much to ask?
Didnt' think so..heh heh.
Life is complicated, regardless of what our dreams tell us. That's it. Really.

LS



Level -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 12:13:16 PM)

quote:

gardenbluebird wrote:

i guess when looking at it from the outside i have everything i wanted.  Husband, kids, nice job, house in the burbs and a couple of canine friends.  But scratch just below the surface and things get a little weird.  Such is life, i guess we all have to play the cards that we were dealt. 


Weird how? Do you mean kink?
 
quote:

DreamyLadySnow wrote:

My dreams are simple, I want it all and I want it now, preferably delivered by Orland Bloom, riding into town on Johnny Depp.
Is that too much to ask?
Didnt' think so..heh heh.
Life is complicated, regardless of what our dreams tell us. That's it. Really.



LOL at "on Johnny Depp"
 
I do want a simple life, and have it, to an extent. I don't like drama, and I don't much care for flashy things or wealth. I'm happy, mostly, but.... life gnaws at me.



truesub4u -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 12:54:18 PM)

Dreams are nice.. but they're just that... and dreams can sometimes go up in smoke... and all you have are ashes to shift through to try to salvage what all there is that is left. (Yep learned that this week all too well)

But it also doesn't stop the dreaming. Matter of fact.. this weeks experience... has made me dream a little more. And i'm sure my girls and I will come out ahead. I'm taking the dream from my head... and making it my reality....



WyrdRich -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 3:28:20 PM)

      I'm sort of surprised at how many are defining the simple life by their possessions.  Hate to shatter the lottery dreams down in Mommy's basement but a 100 acre estate is a pain in the ass.

     Happiness is an attitude, not a bank account.  A simple life is one that you have structured to be that way.  My goals are very attainable and having WIITWD in my life is in no way an obstacle to getting there. 

     Don't want so much damn Drama in your life?  Evict the Drama team from it.  Expect that life is going to throw changes at you and maintain a willingness to adapt with what you have.  Expect plans to be altered by occasional chaos but never feed that monster.

      Looking for a Dom/me?  Find someone who has mastered control of themselves and their own lives before you grant them any control of yours.  I don't care if he can play a tic-tac-toe on your back with a singletail, can he pay his own bills?

      Is that sweet little slave spending more time on some whacko emotional roller-coaster than she is crying in her chains?  Is she competent go grocery shopping without bringing chaos home for dinner?

    



IronBear -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 4:05:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WyrdRich

     I'm sort of surprised at how many are defining the simple life by their possessions.  Hate to shatter the lottery dreams down in Mommy's basement but a 100 acre estate is a pain in the ass.

    Happiness is an attitude, not a bank account.  A simple life is one that you have structured to be that way.  My goals are very attainable and having WIITWD in my life is in no way an obstacle to getting there. 

    Don't want so much damn Drama in your life?  Evict the Drama team from it.  Expect that life is going to throw changes at you and maintain a willingness to adapt with what you have.  Expect plans to be altered by occasional chaos but never feed that monster.

     Looking for a Dom/me?  Find someone who has mastered control of themselves and their own lives before you grant them any control of yours.  I don't care if he can play a tic-tac-toe on your back with a singletail, can he pay his own bills?

     Is that sweet little slave spending more time on some whacko emotional roller-coaster than she is crying in her chains?  Is she competent go grocery shopping without bringing chaos home for dinner?

   


This I have to agree with. I've been dead broke and not sure where the next meal was comming from (either I'd shoot it of starve) and had a six figure income. All the additional dollars meant was that I had more play mponey to spend on more expensive do dads. Give me a roof over my head, a good woman or three, food on the table and bills being paid and I'm happy....

Sliding Scale
More Money:
  • Less friends.
  • More acquaintences.
  • More lonely.

Less Money:
  • More friends.
  • Less acquaintences.
  • Less lonely.



enthralled -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 4:07:11 PM)

My life is simple, until I decide to make it difficult [&:]

~enthralled



IronBear -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 4:17:40 PM)

I'm realy a somewhat shy and retiring person.. People make me difficult and complex.. 



AAkasha -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 4:28:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear



Sliding Scale
More Money:
  • Less friends.
  • More acquaintences.
  • More lonely.

Less Money:
  • More friends.
  • Less acquaintences.
  • Less lonely.



This depends on the person.  I know some very wealthy people who are eternally screwed up and can never be happy.  I know some well off people who are doing just fine.  Being wealthy does not mean you wrap yourself in material possessions.  One of the best things about having money is actually giving it away, or being charitable.

Akasha



meatcleaver -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 4:28:50 PM)

Well I've never had an American Dream but I had a French Dream and bought it. A 400 year old farmhouse deep in the French countryside where I could grow my own food, raise a few animals and relax in the evening and drink a few glasses of wine. It was fantastic!

The only trouble was I kept opening a bottle of wine a little too often I was so fucking bored. Even a happy subby tied to the cross beams only distracted me for a month or so. Boredom, drink, smoke drink boredom and sex when she came around. In the end I admited to myself my French Dream was just that, a dream and sold up and drove back to bustle of the city as quick as possible.



SusanofO -> RE: the simple life (7/16/2006 6:17:42 PM)

I've had that, except with the great relationship going along  with it part. I'll admit it's nice to have a center of stability you call home, and am not sure I'd function very well without that.

I know I am never going to have children (I think I am too old to take that on, and even though I could become pregnant, for a woman my age, some of the risks, for me, do not outweigh the benefits of pregnancy; also, it's a bit late in life, for me, I think, to take on that responsibility.But, I do really like children, and get my "kid fixes" in via some volunteer work I do).

I really, really right now, appreciate more and more just seeing the world and am 
more leaning to get out and see the world; I like to travel and wouldn't mind seeing every country on the planet, if it was possible. But that is more a dream than anything else (although I have dine a bit of travelling).

I definitely like a stable and nice center for myself in the form of a home, and like to think one of the things I do best is to help create a nice atmosphere for someone else to come home to. I really like having a place to call home. I don't think that's weird at all.

- Susan   



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