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do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 10:39:15 AM   
sabrinashantal


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Status: offline 		Hi,

In all these years i have met diverend kind of Dominant's.
And everytime, i have the same 'problem' with them.

It looks that they living somewhere Up, "on the ivory tower" so to speak.

i doesn't hear any question about who i am, if maybe i have medical or other problems, what kind of experience i have and so on.
Is it possible that Dominants, doesn't want to know who there sub's are??
Do they want to look, like something more than a human? (a so called Super (Wo)Man.

And another thing i found out:
That Dominants doesn't want to get advice from His or Her's submissive.

Why?

They are Human, and like a good parent, they make mistakes, And? is there a problem?
As a submissive i don't see a problem there, because i made mistakes too.
For me, a Master, a Mistress, a Goddess, a Aunty, or who He or She is, isn't less worthy.
But maybe i am a "strange bird", who loves my Mistress even when She punish me.

Or do i see it wrong?

Sabrinashantal





"i wish i could change sometimes in another person to talk with my Mistress, when i see She have a problem"
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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 11:11:55 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I'm not quite sure I understand what you are asking, but I'll take a shot at it.  As has been said so many times before, there are all kinds of different people in this world.  There are those who take advice and those who don't.  Also, it depends upon how you phrase your "advice" don't you think?

My Dom is the first one to admit that he's human...he's not Superman (well, maybe to me) and he definitely wants to know me.

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 11:13:24 AM   
babygirl005


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Status: offline 		I can't imagine that Doms wouldn't have questions about you.

Estring 

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 12:13:13 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Some Dominants want to know you the person, some want to know you the submissive/slave.The smart Dominants want to know both!...be well...Tempting

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 12:40:09 PM   
Caretakr


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Status: offline 		That's kind of hard to say.

You indulge in an unpopular fetish, may that have something to do with it?

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 12:59:50 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		I would look at the type of dom you are choosing.  The dominants I respect differ substantially from the description you show.  So, there are definitely doms out there who want and need to know the person they are with.  If you continually have this problem, I would suggest looking at your own screening process to see what you may change in order to find the dom who will care for you and your feelings and see the whole package.

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 1:13:54 PM   
irishbynature


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Caretakr

That's kind of hard to say.

You indulge in an unpopular fetish, may that have something to do with it?

((((whispers...."I think you hit the nail on the head caretakr......"))))


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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 4:20:37 PM   
KennelDeSade2


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sabrinashantal
And another thing i found out:
That Dominants doesn't want to get advice from His or Her's submissive.


Looks like a troll to me, but I just have to comment.  You see, there was this time I had just given a slave a detailed fifteen step task that she was to complete for me because she could enter a space I could not due to her being a waif and me being about the size of a small truck.  I knew she could do it, but it would be a little more touchy than I liked.  But, on entry into the space she asks. .  ."Can I just push this button and do it?"

Oh.  THAT button.  I'd forgotten it was even there.  click  Task complete.

Which is just one of many reasons I like smart sub/slaves.  Ones I can count on for observations and advice that keep me looking good.


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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 9:13:17 PM   
QuietDom


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Status: offline 		I think that any smart Dom/Domme would want nearly encyclopedic knowledge about his/her subs.  I can see, though, how a Dom might fear seeming somehow less 'lordly' by showing so much interest in the particulars of the sub early on.

It's impressively dramatic (though completely impractical) to be able to say something like "You obey my commands; that's all I need to know about you."

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 9:25:27 PM   
Sinergy


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Status: offline 		I would suggest you ask yourself "How can duct tape solve this problem?"

On a serious note, I would imagine that most of the problem is a lack of imagination or empathy on the part of the Dominants you are
talking to.  They may not know anything about your kink, and many people are unable to cope with the idea that they may not be the Sole Repository For All Knowledge Of Any Kind Anywhere.

Be of good cheer, you will find somebody who accepts you for who you are.

Sinergy

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/15/2006 11:00:15 PM   
Noah


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quote:

ORIGINAL: babygirl005

I can't imagine that Doms wouldn't have questions about you.

Estring 



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Thanks, Estring



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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/16/2006 4:42:05 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: babygirl005
I can't imagine that Doms wouldn't have questions about you.


Well I have no questions. Male and AB, neither fit what I am looking for. No interest therefore no questions needed.

The OP is right though, when I find someone I AM interested in, I want to know about WHO they are, not just what we can do.


< Message edited by RavenMuse -- 7/16/2006 4:43:12 AM >

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/16/2006 11:29:23 AM   
Curiossdragnlily


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Status: offline 		sabrina.
W/we have seen O/our fair share such as you have described and it is a shame and very sad to see. i know that i am Master's slave. But He also knows that i have a mind and expects me to use it. Done with respect and trust. i know that He will listen to what i have to say. That doesn't always mean that it still isn't done according to Him. But i know that He listens and values what i have said. As far as medical, isn't that something that should always be asked. Especially "before" A/anyone plays? Shouldn't W/we A/all just makes sure that info is given for O/our O/oen safety? i had always made sure it was since i do have some particular issues.If the Dominant does not want to hear it or adhere to it, then He is not a good Dominat. But it is ultimately up to you to m ake sure that those issues are voiced. Just my opinion.
with respect, lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios
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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/16/2006 12:02:13 PM   
syreena


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Status: offline 		Typically i don't respond to posts but this one actually caught my attention.  Why do we as slaves/submissives expect the Dominants to have it all together and we don't?  my question for you is if the Dominant you are seriously thinking about submitting to isn't asking questions, isn't looking at you holistically then where is your process of determining that things need to take a step back? 

Before i met my Master i had a checklist of things that i asked, wanted to know and wanted to be sure to tell Him so that He would understand me and my journey.   It also helped me to understand His journey and idealisms. Is that topping from the bottom?  It's not.  It's making sure that i fit into the life of my Dominant while maintaining my journey so that the total power exchange could occur.  Should you need help with a checklist; i still have mine available and would be glad to assist you in making your own, please feel free to contact me on this site.

On your post you stated:  "And another thing i found out:
That Dominants doesn't want to get advice from His or Hers' submissive. "  There are times where this may be necessary due to the lesson that the Dominant is teaching and this could be seen as topping from the bottom.  Since i'm not exactly sure what you meant here i would hope that the Dominant is open enough to listen to your voice and take it into consideration while always maintaining safety.


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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/16/2006 1:52:37 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

In all these years i have met diverend kind of Dominant's.
And everytime, i have the same 'problem' with them.

It looks that they living somewhere Up, "on the ivory tower" so to speak.


If you are running into the same problem over and over, try making different choices. If that's not the sort of dominant with whom you desire to interact, then it seems a simple solution.

Celeste

"At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvelously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time." F. Nietzsche


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Rock, paper, scissors."

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RE: do you have the same ...... with Dom's? - 7/16/2006 2:17:55 PM   
enigmabrat


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