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Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 3:52:30 PM

DungeonPrincess

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This may be an old topic but, after searching for some information in old posts, I still have no answers.
It may just be common sense but, I wanted to read more indepth on this subject and have been unable to locate anything other then porn via the net.
I will share with you my story & then I'll post my questions.
This is unlike anything I have ever experienced before....
The past couple of days have been normal in the fact that I speak to my Owner every night but usually, if I get aroused I'll go ahead and touch myself to satisfy. For the past couple days however, when I got aroused, I put it off... enjoying the just the feeling of arousal til it would pass. After the 2nd time the arousal was a constant feeling but nothing too intense til last night. I admitted to my Owner that I had been aroused and hadn't done anything about it because I got sidetracked and didn't have a logical place in which I had some private time to take care of his property.
I was introuble... as he didn't like that I had neglected such a thing.
so he got me aroused intensely and told me not to do anything about it... it was sheer torture now! When we were on the phone again in a few hours, he worked me up again, this time allowing me to probe very gently and with minimum physical stimuli.
When finally he orderd/allowed the release of my orgasim... it was unlike anything I had ever felt before... and mind you, I've had some amazing sex in my time but no orgasim this intense! it was like a whole body orgasim rocking within the very core of me. It felt as if it was a separate force tearing through my body like thunder.

Now for the (dumb?) questions...
uhh why did that happen?? was it because that is what happens when the body is pushed to those kinda extremes?
It most certaintly can't be just a physical thing... this has to be a mental thing as well right? a combination of stimuli/lack of and mental control?

Normally, after orgasim I am out for the count (yea no mutiples here, I'm a one org chicka although the most I've had after another is 3, far and few between)
But, after this, I was soo ready for more.
lol
Thanks for any intellectual and intelligent answers

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 4:01:45 PM

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The mind is a wonderful thing to fuck :)

It was the prolonged tension and your desire to obey your master. 'Tis normal.

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 4:03:01 PM

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I'm a big fan of orgasm control/denial.. Just knowing that it's forbidden makes me want it way more, and I find that I like that frustration.. It's amazing how much the desire is intensified just by that, when I otherwise might not be interested at all.. When it's forbidden, it's all I can think about.. And yes it makes it much more intense when I'm finally allowed.. I've also done this to others, from the top, with very positive results..

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 4:09:40 PM

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Lotus has given you the alpha and omega, sleep the sleep of angels, there is no more to think about, here. Rejoice that it is so, as the scarecrow does in Wizard of Oz...'Oh, joy--Rapture-- I have a brain!'

And now you know that even mundane life can become special.

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 4:15:24 PM

DungeonPrincess

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So this is deffinitely something that is the effect of control?
I Love my Owner more and more every day & He I.
I also feel that there was something spiritual working about it too.
In all honesty... I do feel different today. I have felt different since that moment... but, that may be due to the fact that I am pretty spiritual (not religious)
Quite possibly is it a combination of both his control & his love for me.
Thanks for your input!! it is very much appreaciated

Any more is welcome & appreaciated aswell

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 4:46:13 PM

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I've done it over the phone too but having my sub tied to the bed and gagged was best!
I'd take my sweet time using a large powerfull wand vibrator and one of those curved "G-spot" vibrators.
Yes, I think it's the denial of something so desperately wanted that makes it so powerfull. And all the reasons that go along with that of course.
And when you're tied to the bed inescapably 20 minutes can seem like a *very* long time! MAJOR sub space!
My former sub would explode into toe-curling, uncontrollable orgasm when I finally let her cum after an hour or so.
Then it was fuck and sleep although she was multi orgasmic.

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 10:39:27 PM

DungeonPrincess

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Thanks!!
I can't wait til I deserve this kinda treatment again!!

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 10:52:20 PM

littlemissub

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What you have described, I have experienced a few times. I tell you what, if someone wants you to fall in love with them or gain complete control of you, all they have to do is deny you orgasm until you are gonna die and than allow it. You are putty in their hands.

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/13/2006 11:02:49 PM

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Every time my orgasms are denied, when I am allowed to have them, they are better than ever!

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 3:20:53 AM

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Although I almost agree with Lotus - it isn't entirely the only reason.

The desire to please is incredibly strong - and it does contribute to the power of the orgasm. However, if this went on for several days - (even hours) there is a serious build up of chemical releases in your body that will be swimming around your bloodstream, being absorbed and effecting your brain. Orgasm control isn't just a mind fuck or 'control' - it has alot to do with the endorphine rush and chemical responses. The more your body contains, the more your brain, blood and other cells are effected. Making everything a lot more powerful and alot more detailed.

The 'down' side can be that if your body isnt used to such stimulation, you can develop extreme bouts of lowness in the following days - it can take up to a week or more even sometimes to develop. Hormones and all that. It is important that any dominant understand this, as it can produce mood swings and depression. Even more so if this becomes a regular occurence until the body begins to adjust to the large amount of chemicals swimming around in the body.

But as long as hes aware and you are also - you can look out for those and deal with them as they come. And enjoy the moments!

Peace and Rapture

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 3:40:45 AM

twicehappy

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This one is an easy answer; the longer you wait, the higher the level of arousal, the stronger the release.

Once Mistress woke in an evil playful mood so she spent about an hour just tormenting my nipples, no toys just her hands and nails. Then she stopped, giggled and said now you have to wait for Master to come home.

Lol, we went to the munch that night and with every hug (we are a very huggy group) i thought i would lose my mind. Naturally we came home to late to do anything and i had to wait until the next day. Two mattress pads, a blanket, a comforter and a set of sheets later i was DONE!

What you are describing is a very common and oft used sort of play for many of us. I can cum multiple times and waiting and being teased for days greatly enhances that. Relax and enjoy yourself, you just discovered a new game.

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 5:18:06 AM

DungeonPrincess

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlemissub

What you have described, I have experienced a few times. I tell you what, if someone wants you to fall in love with them or gain complete control of you, all they have to do is deny you orgasm until you are gonna die and than allow it. You are putty in their hands.

Oh I am already putty!!! & I Love it!! hahhaa this just makes it so much more indepth & it's deffinitely something new for me.
I've had great sex in my time with men & women but nothing ever rocked me like this did! I've even experience orgasim denial before but heh.. never like this... for 3 days I was wanting it but didn't/couldn't do anything about it.. then he plays and toys with me like that!!! all I can say is... OMG!!! hahhaa

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 5:36:44 AM

DungeonPrincess

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quote:

ORIGINAL: darkinshadows

Although I almost agree with Lotus - it isn't entirely the only reason.

The desire to please is incredibly strong - and it does contribute to the power of the orgasm. However, if this went on for several days - (even hours) there is a serious build up of chemical releases in your body that will be swimming around your bloodstream, being absorbed and effecting your brain. Orgasm control isn't just a mind fuck or 'control' - it has alot to do with the endorphine rush and chemical responses. The more your body contains, the more your brain, blood and other cells are effected. Making everything a lot more powerful and alot more detailed.

The 'down' side can be that if your body isnt used to such stimulation, you can develop extreme bouts of lowness in the following days - it can take up to a week or more even sometimes to develop. Hormones and all that. It is important that any dominant understand this, as it can produce mood swings and depression. Even more so if this becomes a regular occurence until the body begins to adjust to the large amount of chemicals swimming around in the body.

But as long as hes aware and you are also - you can look out for those and deal with them as they come. And enjoy the moments!

Peace and Rapture

wow no, I was not aware of this & I don't believe he is either. Thank you sooooo much!! This is the kind of info I was looking for!!
Any Idea where I could find out more information like this? anytime I did a net search, I got porn lol
Now I understand a bit more of why I do feel different today. I have bouts of depression anyway... but, my feelings have not been effected in that way so far... *crosses fingers*
what I have noticed, is that I get my feelings hurt a lil easier... not sure why. I'm a brat though lol
I know one thing... and that is I feel he has so much more of me then he did before that night.

~d.p.

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 5:45:06 AM

DungeonPrincess

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quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

What you are describing is a very common and oft used sort of play for many of us. I can cum multiple times and waiting and being teased for days greatly enhances that. Relax and enjoy yourself, you just discovered a new game.

Kool!! I'm thinking I "likes" this game.. hehheee

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 8:31:08 AM

twicehappy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DungeonPrincess

Kool!! I'm thinking I "likes" this game.. hehheee

Yes it is way better than monopoly anytime, and lucky me i still get to have and enjoy the" poly "part too, lol.

To quote mistoferin on another thread" It's two, two, two doms for one".

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 9:39:57 AM

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You might want to google 'Masters and Johnson' - some of their stuff is pretty basic, and not everyone agrees with them, but the standard articles are quite interesting.

Also these words googled may assist you

Adrenalin Rush

Oxytocin

Pheromones

The endocrine System

Male orgasm denial is more documented than female - but I would suggest that reading up on subdrop or subspace is equally good as the information is pretty similar as they both involve chemical releases. Don't be afraid of orgasm denial - I am not trying to scare anyone...lol... but its good to remember that chmical imbalances do occur from prolonged play and it is just good to be aware of them.

Peace and Rapture

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RE: Orgasim denial & it's effects... question - 7/14/2006 10:09:26 AM

Sunshine119

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Darn! Something is seriously wrong with me. Whenever I am denied an orgasm, it becomes much more difficult to cum (and I am a SUPER orgasmic person). When playing with orgasm denial, my Dom realized that when he then finally told me to cum, I was unable. AND, I was very, very frustrated and angry to boot!

No more orgasm denial. The more I get, the more I want. LOL...exact opposite!

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