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Submotive -> RE: Time to improve our value (7/11/2006 5:28:22 PM)
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Self-esteem - i think i have pretty good self-esteeem NOW. lol. There are so many factors that come into play with self-view and self-love - many of them have to do with a society that knows how to teach self indulgence, but very little about healthy self-esteem.
Through D/s i am always learning more about this topic. Healthy self-esteem for me comes from discipline - but balanced discipline. It needs to be balanced with leeway - the leeway to just be human. i learned to embrace all of me, not just the parts i judge as "good". That made a world of difference for me. i learned that i like me when i do the best i can to live up to my word, do my best in all things and always remember to be thankful for all i have. These things contribute to keeping my self-esteem in balance.
Do i have doubts - yup, at times. Actually, i'm glad or else i could become a self-righteous egomaniac. So, i think self-doubt, to a certain extent, is healthy. In my relationship with Master i am learning, always learning - some of it challenges what i've always believed about myself and life. He broadens my perspective and He is very supportive and loving as well as strict at times. All of this helps my self-esteeem.
Do i look to Him for my opinion of myself? Not typically - but sometimes. Fundamentally i think of myself as a decent, kind woman who has been very blessed. [sm=flowers.gif]
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