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RE: The Main Site - 7/7/2006 2:33:08 PM

Mercnbeth

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Caretakr: Time is money. You pay either way.

I always considered my time with woman an investment. Some panned out others didn't but it was never spent or wasted in the same fashion as money. I also had a mind set on only needing one investment to "strike it rich" to be happy. Any failed investment meant that I was one woman closer to that goal.

If turned out that none panned out I still arranged that the time investment along the way was enjoyed by both of us. Time is money is work related. I never have work in mind or consider a relationship, or the consideration of a relationship, work.

Regarding the OP and paying "tribute"; be grateful that the option exists. Some may never experience the sensations of this lifestyle any other way. No force is being applied.

Look at the internet. You can find plenty of free porn, yet there are still plenty of pay sites. If you don't want to bother exploring and surfing through false promises you can eliminate the search and just pay your monthly fee. Same thing applies to the "Pro" or "Tribute" Dommes. Why let it bother you?

Unless of course your incapable of establishing a relationship AND you are also broke.

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RE: The Main Site - 7/7/2006 2:51:32 PM

MissBabydoll

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

I agree with Bitatruble...Pass on the ones that dont interest you.

And before you go lumping all Pro's together...not all require a
Tribute of that amount.Nor do all of them expect money be paid upfront.

Dont judge a book by its cover.

Hear, hear, Sassy! For the record: I never expect to get paid up front. I get to know My potential sub and spend hours at no charge doing that, because what I am looking for is a sustained relationship that can in its own way be very intimate.

Thanks for speaking truth *with* power!

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RE: The Main Site - 7/7/2006 4:34:29 PM

MistressSassy66

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ORIGINAL: MissBabydoll

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66

I agree with Bitatruble...Pass on the ones that dont interest you.

And before you go lumping all Pro's together...not all require a
Tribute of that amount.Nor do all of them expect money be paid upfront.

Dont judge a book by its cover.

Hear, hear, Sassy! For the record: I never expect to get paid up front. I get to know My potential sub and spend hours at no charge doing that, because what I am looking for is a sustained relationship that can in its own way be very intimate.

Thanks for speaking truth *with* power!

LOL,Thank You...I was just getting ready to applaude You aswell.

Great Minds think alike.

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RE: The Main Site - 7/7/2006 5:06:54 PM

MissBabydoll

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ORIGINAL: Sdarcy

I always find it a bit annoying when gentlemen expect the very best dominant quality while bringing nothing to the experience save their dicks and demands, yet they scream to high heaven to think they might be expected to contribute to the Mistress' expenses. Why should we be penalized for choosing to make a career of something we love to do?

To summarize; yes, it's wrong to be sneaky about the fact that one expects tribute, but expecting tribute is not in and of itself a character defect.

That nails it. Thank you!

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RE: The Main Site - 7/7/2006 6:54:44 PM

juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Noah

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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

Thank you Noah, please be sure to kiss my arse on your way out and turn off the lights.

ZING!

Hey. This is supposed to be SSC, right? You don't hit that hard in sessions, do you?

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"... but I did say something interesting once back in Apr 1997." Noah Jan 2005

Noah, you are a treasure...smiles

I really cringed at that post she made, wow this young man is only 18 and she is old enough to be his mother! I haven't read cruelty on CM like that since... well ... since she insulted me...*wicked evil grin*

To the OP, there are many kind dommes that will not question your submissiveness because you have a learning curve to overcome. If I were you I would take the fetish descriptions out of your profile as this seems to turn off genuine dommes and concentrate more on the things that ALL women love... which is basically your ability to be chivalrous and kind to animals.. yes, even leatherclad dommes like sensitive types... and they tend to get annoyed at fetish do me type subs that seem to be more interested in having a session than getting to know them as people.. dommes have feelings too!

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RE: The Main Site - 7/7/2006 6:58:45 PM

juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

Let me put it this way.

How many women here would feel it proper to pay a MAN'S way to associate with them? It's a traditional stereotype-involving men as being providers. Like it or not,we still have to deal with that prejudice.

What generation are you from, Id like to be a part of it seeing most men my age try to date dutch almost every time (excluded is my Daddy, but even then I do not get a 'free ride' as I contribute to his happiness as much as he contributes to mine when we share time)

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RE: The Main Site - 7/7/2006 8:04:49 PM

littlesarbonn

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It's amazing how this subject gets rehashed over and over again.

My take on it has always been: If you don't like people who charge for services, don't frequent their profile. Just ignore it. But I really can't see taking offense at it. There are professionals amongst us. If they're honest about what they are, I don't care if they state that in their profiles. The only ones that get on my nerves are the ones who have written to me, acting interested in me, and then the second email is a "now you need to pay me money to continue this conversation." But even then, I just stop communicating further from that point on.

The ones that actually get on my nerves are the ones that put in their profiles "ANY MAN WHO CONTACTS ME IS IMMEDIATELY DELETED" but that's only because I'm not scouting out potential partners, but I like talking to people if they're interesting. There was one I just read that put in her profile that she has discovered how to automatically delete personal messages from men and has activated it. Why even say so. Just activate it and you never have to worry about it. Perhaps I just don't like the hostility. But even then, who cares? As long as they don't communicate with me with their hostility, I don't care. I'd personally like to never see their profiles show up on my main screen, but that's just one of those things.

I see more and more hostility and complaints these days on collarme. There are people who are practically looking for fights or reasons to criticize.

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RE: The Main Site - 7/8/2006 10:57:35 AM

juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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Caretakr: Time is money. You pay either way.

I always considered my time with woman an investment. Some panned out others didn't but it was never spent or wasted in the same fashion as money. I also had a mind set on only needing one investment to "strike it rich" to be happy. Any failed investment meant that I was one woman closer to that goal.

If turned out that none panned out I still arranged that the time investment along the way was enjoyed by both of us. Time is money is work related. I never have work in mind or consider a relationship, or the consideration of a relationship, work.

Regarding the OP and paying "tribute"; be grateful that the option exists. Some may never experience the sensations of this lifestyle any other way. No force is being applied.

Look at the internet. You can find plenty of free porn, yet there are still plenty of pay sites. If you don't want to bother exploring and surfing through false promises you can eliminate the search and just pay your monthly fee. Same thing applies to the "Pro" or "Tribute" Dommes. Why let it bother you?

Unless of course your incapable of establishing a relationship AND you are also broke.

This is exactly why you found your beth, because you have such a wonderful attitude about women... Thank you merc for sharing that, it really shows when a man doesn't mind spending a few bucks on you that he really values you and your time, that he thought over how to spend time with you, because he is investing emotionally in you. You value what you invest in!

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