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The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 4:00:53 PM

sub2spank67

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I would love to read a positive profile message from a lovely, intelligent Dom woman.

Without wishing to grumble, it saddens me that so many women write profile texts that present as warnings. As a man, I appreciate that many of us give women an awful time. A site like this can so easily be misused by fantasists on masturbatory adventures.

The profile that reads;

No time wasters, no I don't cam, ....

I wish that more women were here, telling us what makes them who they are and what makes life or play good for them.

To men and to the site, perhaps a special section of the site called online capers, where people who have no intention of real contact can reside?

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 5:35:14 PM

FieryOpal

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Good luck with that.

It's just as important to disclose what you don't want, don't do, and aren't looking for as it is to describe what it is you are seeking (not that it would make much of a difference).

If I described my ideal male sub partner, it is highly unlikely anyone would ever fit the bill. Did you think this was a regular Looking-for-Prince-Charming dating site for Dominant women, after all?

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 5:43:53 PM

Delilya

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Mine has served me well.

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 5:51:38 PM

sub2spank67

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Thanks, I am under no illusions about the cynical views that people have about others.
I suspect that the ideal sub is always what you make him. The sub, by his or her nature must comply.
Prince Charming x

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 5:59:42 PM

RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: sub2spank67

I would love to read a positive profile message from a lovely, intelligent Dom woman.

Without wishing to grumble, it saddens me that so many women write profile texts that present as warnings. As a man, I appreciate that many of us give women an awful time. A site like this can so easily be misused by fantasists on masturbatory adventures.

The profile that reads;

No time wasters, no I don't cam, ....

I wish that more women were here, telling us what makes them who they are and what makes life or play good for them.

To men and to the site, perhaps a special section of the site called online capers, where people who have no intention of real contact can reside?

Women get mail, no matter what their profiles say. There isn't much incentive to flesh out a profile. Also, there's a bit of a disincentive: a woman describes who she really is, and she gets objectified and insulted anyway.

I've gotten my best results by ignoring profile text, and commenting on journal entries, or on little details in photos. ("You own a black cat? Did you choose one on purpose because a lot of people send them to the shelter? Or is there a different story there?") Very high return message rate.

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 6:01:46 PM

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I like my profile the way it is, and liked it the way it was when I was looking. It brought me a sub partner who I love dearly and think the world of, friends in the unlikeliest of places, and even an adopted 'daughter'.

People put in their profiles what they want you to know about themselves. If you accept that premise, you can simply pass by the ones that don't work for you. The 'next profile' button is your friend.

Welcome to the boards, which are VERY different than 'the other side'. Best of luck in your search.

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 6:07:02 PM

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I suspect that the ideal sub is always what you make him. The sub, by his or her nature must comply.

I beg to differ. My partner came to me ideal just the way he was. If I could have changed one thing, it would be the physical distance. That wonderful man has regularly knocked himself out over the last two years to close that distance without me needing to change a thing, so I only wish that so he doesn't need to put so much effort into being together.

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 9:14:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: sub2spank67

Thanks, I am under no illusions about the cynical views that people have about others.
I suspect that the ideal sub is always what you make him. The sub, by his or her nature must comply.
Prince Charming x

Pffft. Changing someone is damn hard work, not the insta-compliance you refer to.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 9:15:56 PM

TheHeretic

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What you need to bear in mind is that in some ratio to the fantasists on maturbatory adventures, are the bitter blackhearted bitches who were like that long before they posted a profile here. That will account for some of the cases you encounter.

Are you reading the whole profile, or just the first couple paragraphs? Not every personal statement that starts with a chip on the shoulder stays that way. Some show themselves to be smart, funny, sexy, people in the second half.

Good luck!

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/7/2014 9:24:15 PM

MAINEiacMISTRESS

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Well, I suggest you read more profiles.

I'm not changing Mine. I have no reason to.

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/8/2014 12:24:55 PM

FieryOpal

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: sub2spank67

Thanks, I am under no illusions about the cynical views that people have about others.
I suspect that the ideal sub is always what you make him. The sub, by his or her nature must comply.
Prince Charming x

Pffft. Changing someone is damn hard work, not the insta-compliance you refer to.

Thank you, DarkSteven. Setting out to change anyone is a sure-fire recipe for disaster. The best you can hope for is to tweak a willing partner to accommodate your desires, or to train him to do tasks and show him how you want things done. The innate ability and talent needs to be latent. If you find someone you can mold to suit you, then that's wonderful. (MistressDarkArt, I'm so envious of you!)

Not only do I want a compliant sub, but I need a great deal of compatible interaction. If a sub is wrapped up in his kinks and fetishes, and we have little else in common, that won't do. If he doesn't have a solid vanilla base, that won't do either. If he doesn't know how to make love or enjoy making love to me, that's an instant deal breaker. I'm not a cougar (yet), so I'm not willing to take on such an ill-fated project. Call it cynical if you like, but I've been around the block enough times to know what is realistic and what is pie-in-the-sky at my age.

I don't say so in my profile (because it's unnecessary since I specify IRT only), but I hope you know that when a Domme says she doesn't cam, then she's not into on-line (for-hire) domination, which you should interpret as a favorable sign if that's not what you're into. Your user name has "sub" but you list yourself as a switch seeking dominant, submissive, and switch women. I would surmise that both submissive and switch women have to ward off more obnoxious users than we do; none of us can afford to have fluffy-bunny type profiles. Or at least not for long unless we spend all day blocking users on this site.

On a positive note, I found your profile nicely written, and if you were nearby (and not across the pond in the UK), you are one of the few who would actually make it past my initial screening process. Perhaps you have a more malleable disposition than most other men and so you see matters differently, PC.

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/8/2014 5:56:19 PM

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Thanks for your thoughts, all of you.

I know that there are lots of hurt people here and I think many of us struggle to keep that pain from others. I feel that venting it can perpetuate the pain. Positive posts are great reads.

Friends always.

S

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RE: The Dominant Woman profile - 1/8/2014 8:24:23 PM

LookieNoNookie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sub2spank67

I would love to read a positive profile message from a lovely, intelligent Dom woman.

Without wishing to grumble, it saddens me that so many women write profile texts that present as warnings. As a man, I appreciate that many of us give women an awful time. A site like this can so easily be misused by fantasists on masturbatory adventures.

The profile that reads;

No time wasters, no I don't cam, ....

I wish that more women were here, telling us what makes them who they are and what makes life or play good for them.

To men and to the site, perhaps a special section of the site called online capers, where people who have no intention of real contact can reside?