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Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:18:55 PM   
MistressEvilfair


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Status: offline 		I am curious as to why all of a sudden, instadommes have appeared in huge numbers?!

I have been into fetish for 9/10 years now and have done cam to cam, real time and phone sessions.
I rarely take payment and when I do it is because the sub has offered it to me. Sometimes they will turn up with a new pair of shoes for me or an item of clothing and that is fine.
It really gets to me when I get called a fake because of this sudden surge of fake money making bitches when I genuinely love what I do.
The other day I was supposed to have a sub coming for real time. He never turned up and I received a rather nasty email claiming I was a fake and a man.
On here I have had slaves accuse me of been fake or a man. I even had one offer up a wager, if I proved I was who I was then he would tribute, apologize and squeal like a pig.
I think he realised I was telling the truth because he has yet to appear and hold up the wager. Idiot.
I was wondering if any other lovely dommes have had the same problem. I have a few loyal subs who I trust and do sessions with on a regular basis, but now it is hard for me to even find someone I can trust because 9/10 I will be told I am fake, gold digger or a man.

Thank you!!

evilfairie
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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:25:22 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the site.

The bit about you being a man is an ancient trick to try to get women to cam nekkid to prove they're female. Next time someone accuses you of that, report them message and move on.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:28:30 PM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressEvilfair
I rarely take payment and when I do it is because the sub has offered it to me.

Ahem...say that again? According to your profile "The only way to gain my interest is on
your knees with your wallet in your mouth"

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressEvilfair
It really gets to me when I get called a fake because of this sudden surge of fake money making bitches
when I genuinely love what I do.

Are you saying that those hundreds of other instadommes don't genuinely enjoy getting money? Really?

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressEvilfair
The other day I was supposed to have a sub coming for real time. He never turned up and I received a rather nasty email claiming I was a fake and a man.
I was wondering if any other lovely dommes have had the same problem.

This is known as the HNG Show Me Free Pussy Pics tactic, and it happens to everyone, regardless of whether they are domme, sub,
lovely or not. It even happens to those that, at the ripe old age of 25, have managed to be into this lifestyle for 10 years or so, albeit experience
should have taught this tactic by now.

< Message edited by poise -- 1/6/2014 8:29:35 PM >

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:28:52 PM   
mummyman321


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Status: offline 		Life is unfair. If you are a Domme there are always those who will call you fake. Best advice, pay no attention and move on. If you are a Domme there is no need to prove yourself to anyone.

I am curious though you say you have been into for 9 to 10 years now and your age is listed as only 25? So you were into this when you were 15/16 years old? Just be aware this is a classical line from the "fake Dommes" who claim many years of experience and yet have very little.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:30:33 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Wait...

Your profile says you're 25 but here you say you've been "into" fetish for 9-10 years? Unless you started experimenting with your high school boyfriends in your parents' basement, I call bullshit. Even if you did, your whole profile reads like a rinser...what we call a "finduck" around here. You say you rarely take payment, but you claim to be a findomme. Which is it? By the way, I'm fairly sure demanding Amazon gift cards in your profile is a violation of the TOS. You might want to read them again.

So no, I'm not at all surprised you're getting called a fake, because I'd question you too and, unlike many, I have no issue with financial domination, if that's what floats your boat and as long as you're following the site TOS. As far as where "insta-dom/mes" come from...well, there's this trashy little book trilogy written by one of your fellow Limeys. It's called "50 Shades." Maybe you've heard of it?

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:36:15 PM   
mummyman321


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Status: offline 		Sylvere,
He statements truly do not make sense.....so I guess you need to go poke her with a stick (btw I love Dr Who!)

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:37:29 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Now you know why that's my sig line.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:40:17 PM   
MistressEvilfair


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Status: offline 		I come from a very open family. I learnt about sex and various lifestyles when I was around 12/13 years of age. My parents are also the same. They are kinksters too. I was 15 when I started to realise that I too enjoyed this lifestyle. The whole scene of darkness and serenity. I just loved it. Over the years I have heard many things and I have been doing financial domination for a fair few years, though I prefer this less than to just the act of fetish. I will entertain a sub whether he wishes to pay or not and many of my sessions are for pure enjoyment on their part and mine. I am a switch though at the moment, I am in relationship where he is submissive so this is why I my Mistress side is out on a permanent basis right now.

If a sub was to come to me and say they would like a session but I don't want to pay then I am still willing to hear what they have to say. Anybody can ask, the worst I can say is no. I mean I am not like some financial dommes who only want the money and unfortunately I know a few. Sad really.

I have yet to update my profile Poise, I have only just got my laptop back after it's insides decided to implode...not literally of cause but stuff started to melt and it needed to be fixed, the update profile on a mobile it less than appealing to use, so I figured I would wait to get my laptop back. Which I finally did yesterday! Woo!!

Many do not believe I could be 25 and in the fetish scene for so long but like I said I am from a very open family and as I say I was 15 when I finally started to participate in the fetish scene. I am a more mature than my age, I expanded and evolved. I have met some wonderful, amazing, kinky people and I hope I meet many more!!

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:43:11 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. Pull the other one. It's got bells on it.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:50:03 PM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan



Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. Pull the other one. It's got bells on it.


Ohhhhhh..can I please? I love bells!

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:51:26 PM   
MistressEvilfair


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Status: offline 		You don't have to believe what I say, I mean you don't know me and I don't know you. Also I have never read 50 Shades, I would rather burn it than read it. I have many friends who have read it though. Another point yes the Doctor is awesome...everyone knows that.

I love what I do and do what I love, at the end of the day everybody has a fetish be it small or large. I just like to embrace mine rather than be taboo. I thank my parents for been so open about their lifestyle and what they do. I thank them for been so open about sex. It has helped me massively.


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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 8:53:27 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan



Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. Pull the other one. It's got bells on it.


Ohhhhhh..can I please? I love bells!


Yes, yes you can.

That's all for tonight, folks. Poise and I will be indisposed for the rest of the evening.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 9:11:37 PM   
anniezz338


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Status: offline 		As for your story, I guess anything is possible. What I don't understand is why being called a fake or a scammer is a sore point for you. You know it is the nature of the beast. It's kinda like having a car. You know you will have to deal with traffic and all the idiots on the road.

What you are doing leaves yourself wide open to these type of attacks. You should know that by now.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 9:16:58 PM   
MistressEvilfair


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Status: offline 		I have known it for a long time. It just gets to me because it never used to be this way. Before I even meet someone, unless I meet them at a munch or a club, we talk extensively online. My fella is also around when this happens too. He is also called fake for strange reasons. Someone said he was pretending to be a Mistress once, proved that guy wrong when he finally met us and was like oh, ok I apologize.
Everyone has a story of how they got into fetish, mine was because of family. I am actually not surprised at people who don't believe me. Many don't. My mother did do all the stuff I do now except trampling. I have only been doing that for nigh on two years now and it was my partner who got me into that. Glad of that. I have had many experiences that maybe my parents have not but like I say I owe it all to them for exposing us to this.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 9:36:29 PM   
MistressEvilfair


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Status: offline 		In regards to the above post...I have never been called fake up until around two years ago. If someone did not want to talk to me they didn't message me. Simple as that. I also forgot to mention I don't go on cam for no one unless I have been talking to them for a long time. Neither do I instantly agree to meet someone.

It is a sore point because it attacks my fetish and everything I love about it. My mum always said avoid the ones who are to eager to please and that is what I do.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/6/2014 11:19:46 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		So now child abuse is acceptable by calling it open minded parenting?

Interesting.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/7/2014 12:11:18 AM   
MistressEvilfair


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Status: offline 		No. It wasn't child abuse. It's not like they sat there and went children watch us as we have sex doing all these kinky things too.
They didn't force it upon us. It was just our way of life.
I'm pretty sure if it was child abuse we would have been messed up mentally.
Everyone is different. I mean I won't be telling my kids about it. Let them figure that shit out for themselves.
This site is crazy. I mean once you dig through bullshit like people assuming you are a rinser
with no proof and assuming all you want is money when in fact my main fetish is far from it and that is just a laugh
because I am not some loser who says he is going to be loyal or who says he likes to be trampled then there are
some decent people on here but people who jump to conclusions
because my upbringing and family life was different to theirs or what they consider
normal can kiss my grits. I'm getting away from this site.
I'm gonna stick with fetlife. They have the right idea.
Atleast there I do not get nasty threatening messages or people asking me to come and love in their dungeon.
I get that people are wary that is why verification is important.
One last thing: I do not ask for an 'initial' tribute. If a slave asks me to take his money and I gauge him as genuine
it take me 4-6 months before I do anything. If they fuck off in that time well what the hell his loss not mine.

This site is just crazy and it isn't just me who believes it. Google it!

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RE: Instadommes - 1/7/2014 12:14:50 AM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Fast reply,

I would assume because it's close to the beginning of the month.
But that would be fin ducks.

Also love the Doctor.

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RE: Instadommes - 1/7/2014 12:25:16 AM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Jumping to conclusions? You said your parents taught you about sex and different lifestyles at around 12-13. You said you were a part of the fetish scene by age 15. You said they were open minded and this was the way your family lived.

You were either a part of the fetish scene with other minors or with adults.

You said you wouldn't be telling your children about it.. let them figure that shit out themselves. Why? If there was nothing wrong with it and your family was just that way... then why wouldn't you be as open minded with them?

I didn't jump to any conclusion. I read your words and I responded to them. I don't know what the laws are where you come from.. but from nearly every state in the US, your parents could have had a real big problem. Personally, I think I am pretty open minded.. taught my children what they needed to know about sex, didn't encourage it and sure as fuck didn't give them too much information and they are all sexually happy. Go fucking figure. lol

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RE: Instadommes - 1/7/2014 12:26:17 AM   
MistressEvilfair


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Status: offline 		Pretty sure it's because I can type pretty quick. In all fairness I couldn't give two shits about being a findomme.
I prefer to trample the living shit outta people because I enjoy.
You are all pretty quick to judge someone you don't know.
Well done all you keyboard warriors.
I'm pretty sure you call them finducks because they're all blonde bimbos who pull duck faces, wear a ridiculous amount of fake tan and makeup and generally look like they've a birds nest on their head?
1. I wear no make up. I don't have time for that shit.
2. I do not do a duck face. That is just stupid and makes you look constipated.
3. I am not blonde in any aspect.
4. If I looked orange I would shoot myself.

I have respect for others, I do not try to make myself feel better by pulling someone else down because their upbringing was different or because I don't like something the other person is doing.
Just because I have been doing this for along time and I am only 25 doesn't make me fake or a liar. I have always been mature for my age. I'm not your average 25 year old who is constantly out on the piss of getting laid by a different bloke.
I read. I knit. I crochet. I enjoy my life quiet. Not full of bullshit.
I apologize if I rained on your bullshit parade but this site is fucking insane.
Jesus I'm glad I'm deleting my profile.
Adios crazy people.

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